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@Leo Gura can you please lock the thread. Lot of disrespectful comments.

At the back of my mind, I've all these thoughts where I'm kinda confused and surprised reading all these dating threads and ideas that men have about dating and relationships in general. It's looked at like a cakewalk. I kinda feel odd about myself because I look at it completely different. I can never be in a casual relationship. To me relationships are about building something deep together. And my emotions in a relationship are really strong. I can't simply think to myself "I'm going to dump this guy and get a better one," because I would get so emotional even thinking about leaving the person I'm with. I don't know how to compute my environment as a woman. If I'm with a man, I'm devoted to him, thinking about the future, planning things like family, marriage and kids. Big dreams. Any signal from him that makes me feel vulnerable or insecure makes me feel very ominous about the whole situation. Being a woman is too complicated. Because I'm your mind, when you're deeply in love, you're already imagining having kids with that person, having a family and you need that ground to stand on, you need that shoulder to cry on, you need that arm to hold as you stroll on evenings. You need that emotional security because as a woman you want it all together. I cannot even imagine simply moving and hopping from one man to the next. Because being in a relationship without emotions would feel so awkward. And there is no emotional energy left once it's exhausted in a relationship. What I mean I can never imagine sleeping with different men, lots of them, because I cannot keep putting emotional energy into one man, afford to have my heart broken and have renewed emotional energy avaliable for the next man. If i did that, I would feel like a toy, and my body and hormones won't be able to handle that, my body would go crazy with emotional vulnerability. And I cannot switch off my emotions as I please. That's not how I feel as a woman. I don't think I can be so robotic with my emotions out in the world. I'd lose my sense of womanhood. So when I think about all these things, I'm so puzzled by the way men look at relationships as some kind of a short term transaction, I just cannot look at it that way, it would drive me nuts. I mean being a Woman is so complicated than most people understand, because the one thing that sets everything apart is knowing that one day you would be a mother, and that itself brings everything to a halt, you can't afford mind games, you can't afford simply doing whatever you want with your body, your body is for the child, you don't want to be messed up in your head, because you want your child in a healthy environment, so you want a man that will give you that sense of security, that foundation you can build your family on, not a player guy, not casual flings, your hustle as a woman is completely different, and even if you are not a mother, this drive is governing and influencing your thoughts subconsciously, deep down you're always looking for that man who will give you that place in life where you'll begin to dream of having children with him, a guy who is dependable and feminine and emotional just like you, a man who you could sit down and make plans with. So yeah, it's difficult and complicated. It's tough being a woman, knowing what challenges the dating world is throwing at you, subconsciously thinking if this will be healthy for your unborn future children, what sort of an uncertain world we're made to move towards, the challenges of being a young woman in 21st century dating era, where your vulnerability as a woman is at great risk, where every decision counts, where the constant thought in your mind is "I don't want to end up as a single mother" the haunting that past relationship failures created, knowing how you messed up your life being with the wrong man and navigating this labyrinth alone, how you made mistakes and ended up falling for the wrong guy, because you didn't know better, feeling bad for your naiveté, feeling bad for even falling for what you're attracted to, beating yourself up because you were attracted to someone that your mind or body can't control and ended up paying a huge emotional price, but this price only gets exponentially higher when motherhood is involved and knowing the price you paid for trusting a man, and then realizing how difficult it is for a woman to simply give into the next dude, once that innocent trust chord is broken, realizing that as a woman you would need to protect yourself every step of the way, not to give into your emotions even when there is temptation, not simply fool around, because you can't afford to, to constantly empower yourself constantly and being on guard because if not, someone could snuff your light so easily, at the same time not being bitter, not throwing your anger at the world, moving on with grace and realizing how one mistake could cost you and your children an entire life. Knowing that you don't want you to be held hostage to your emotions once again, having a sense of security and normalcy with a man and not having to constantly look over your shoulders, not wanting to think "what if this guy fucks me up?" yea that's a struggle that few people understand.. You feel like you are in a different world where your concerns as a woman are never heard and nobody will really understand them unless they're in your shoes and facing the challenges and Insecurities that a young woman has to navigate through.

@Opo hey that's a porcelain spoon and bowl.

@somegirl yea I want it.

@Florian no need to call me the B word. Please mind language. You don't have the right to hurt someone so directly

@Florian you have a wrong idea of me, but that's okay, I forgive you. (but please mind your language, no matter how much you hate me or judge me) Don't do verbal abuse.

@DocWatts it's kinda motivating me to work more.

Omg Am I the only person interested in having children!!

Yea these days I'm working on that. I'm super careful because of my experiences No more fairy tale stories for me. I outgrew

@Applegarden yea I do try to be happy every day. Although I say that life is unfair, I don't let it down on me. It actually gives me the motivation to work harder.. If it's unfair, It means I have to work harder to make it better. I like surviving..

@LastThursday not to forget these philosophers are from different countries all over the world at one place.

@WonderSeeker it's chocolate pumpkin spice latte. Lmao.

And they said he was slow and demented and a stammerer.

Good lol. Thanks. Kinda gave me new perspective.

@Seth brita

I don't have a problem if a man wants to sleep with a thousand girls and if he doesn't want to commit. The question is can he be sincere about it during the relationship. I'm talking about sincerity of intent, because it saves a lot of time for both. For example if I went on a date and if a guy asked me if I wanted a family and marriage , I'd say yes, if I wanted kids, I would say yes. If he asked me whether I was the type to have casual relationships, I would say no I don't want to manipulate any man because it's against my conscience. I want to make things totally clear with him whether he likes me or not. Because a relationship should never be on a foundation of lies, manipulation and pretense. It should be based on truth. So if he pretends like he wants commitment with me but then in the end tells me that he is not the committed type, then that's called deception to get laid with me. He is creating a relationship with me based on lies and deceit. It causes a lot of disappointment. If a guy approached me, and began a relationship with me but somewhere he told me that he likes to be free, doesn't want commitment and wants to be with many women, I'd be more than happy to tell him that I'm leaving him, and thank him for saving my time The problem is a lot of guys get selfish in the relationship. They want to act like they care and love the girl and act like they are ready to marry her, but get out at the last minute when it's time to confront the truth and real intentions So when the girl keeps pressing for the truth, that's when he finally tells her if he really wants the relationship or if he was cheating on her. The girl in the mean time is completely oblivious to his future plans and intentions I think people, man or woman, who are genuine don't tend to do such things, they are upfront of what they want in a relationship. They don't create a relationship on the foundation of lies because they don't want to. Guys are more likely to do this because guys are the ones who do the approaching and have a high need to get laid. Girls can always be this way, but it will only hurt her own survival because she has to finally settle down and can't afford to waste too much time. Unless she wants a lifestyle of a golddigger where she wants to dupe several men.. Many men who are players usually act this way. But even men who are not players tend to hide intentions and aren't sincere in a relationship. My final advice for a guy is this. Whatever you want with a girl, please tell her that. If you don't like her, tell her that. Don't waste her time. If you are not going to be committed, again tell her that. If you like casual relationships, tell her that. Basically tell her whatever you want either in the dating phase or the relationship phase, the sooner you tell, the better for her to make decisions. Don't keep a person you're dating, in the dark. Don't deceive them. Don't cheat on them. Reveal your plan and be sincere with what you want in the relationship and what you don't want. Things become easier with less hurt and pain. Hurting someone is not the right thing to do. If you want more time for your decisions, take more time but try to reveal your plan to the woman early on. Don't make deception look cool. Because it's not. Deception in relationships leads to a lot of hurt. If you can't be truthful to a woman, then please don't be in a relationship because you will hurt her in the end. Even if you got laid, it's still bad, because eventually that person would be hurt because they weren't expecting what you had in mind.

@BlackMaze not sure about the nutrition. But it's clean. And you can install a countertop RO under the sink. But I'd much prefer it to be on Kitchen counter top because you don't want to bend too much to get water.

@K Ghoul do you eat meat? Like beef and pork?

I wanted to be a girl who never gets a period But God gave me periods.

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I might be dumb as a rock and clumsy as a bear, but this is my pumpkin soup. I know it's not great looking but whatever.

@_Archangel_ true.

I was with a guy who was the son of a famous musician and was in a very good social circle.. Part of the reason why I dated him is because I never thought he would turn out to be bad. But he lied so much and he was abusive So all that is just fluff to me. And currently I am dating a very good guy. No, I'm not looking for some abusive alpha asshole.. But my past relationship with that musician guy had a tremendous impact on me, it almost traumatized me. I couldn't believe he was like that. Abuse happens everywhere. I wasn't dating some alcoholic pig.