Preety_India

Compassion. This is a strange word Because there's hardly any.

I wish India would wake up to the horrors of the helplessness of the youth, family issues and mental illnesses. Things that are largely brushed under the carpet by an elitist Stage Orange/Blue mentality.

I wish I had a golden gate bridge. Because I'm suicidal as well. But there is no bridge close to my place. I've been thinking about a bridge for the last 3 years now.. All I want to say to you is that hang in there as long as you can I can't give much hope because I'm suicidal myself. But if my suicidal condition makes you feel less alone in the world, then here I am. It might be a consolation to know that you're not alone in this boat.

I wish I had a golden gate bridge. Because I'm suicidal as well. But there is no bridge close to my place. I've been thinking about a bridge for the last 3 years now.. All I want to say to you is that hang in there as long as you can I can't give much hope because I'm suicidal myself. But if my suicidal condition makes you feel less alone in the world, then here I am. It might be a consolation to know that you're not alone in this boat.

But that's not healthy. Why not look for women who want a healthy dynamic?

@StarStruck I don't think it is like this. I wanted a guy like my dad. But that's because my dad was very loving and kind. However if my dad was disrespectful to me, I wouldn't have wanted a guy like that. I have no idea why men constantly automatically assume that women want men who will mistreat them. How does it make logical sense to be happy around someone who mistreats you? I just can't wrap my head around this toxic way of thinking. There has got to be something mentally wrong with a woman who is happy being mistreated and gets attracted to that? Do you really want and appreciate a woman like that? They wanna get treated like dirt? Like what? Nope. You're dealing with a toxic woman if she even remotely suggests that she loves being mistreated. Look for healthy women who respect themselves and stop cherry picking examples of toxic women and then applying this unhealthy abnormal philosophy to all women. And then justifying it as her suffering trauma or something like that. I've suffered intense trauma and despite that I had the dignity of not wanting to ever be disrespected in relationships. C'mon guys raise your standards with what kind of women you are choosing to date Don't bring around these toxic examples and invalidate what a large majority of women feel. Im a woman and the woman you're describing does not represent me at all I'd never ever like a disrespectful asshole type of men. In fact I dumped them for the same reasons.

@Peter Miklis it's much more than religious dogma. The patriarchy is very dangerous here which means women hardly have a say in what happens in their lives They are shipped off as slaves by families Women are forced to marry or die. That happened to my mom. Forced marriages are far too common. And economic resources are scant. The most painful thing that bugs me is the lack of social services.

"A caring gentle secure love" That's what pops up.

There is massive poverty in my country India and other Third World countries. I myself came from extreme poverty. I might lose my job next month and I don't have much left because of my piling medical bills. The medical conditions are also a result of working hard under stress for many years. The education system is stressful and brutal. I cannot think of the horrors of poverty again. There is no security for the poor, the rising prices means its too hard to get a place to rent. Real estate prices are sky high. A lot of businesses are shutting down because of corona including the place I work at. There are no stimulus packages in my country. I think a Universal Basic Income is greatly necessary in poor countries to get people out of poverty.. Also most jobs are procured by men in my country. Women are offered much less pay or not offered the job at all. Most women struggle to get a job in my country because of the gender dynamics always being in the favor of men. This causes a lot of women to be forced into arranged marriages for survival. It's a tough situation to be caught in. Most people don't prefer to have daughters and daughters are generally considered a burden by most families. My idea is that a universal basic income in my country and other similar countries would be a great way to lift people out of poverty and offer them some hope in terms of survival. I also think there should be a strict population control agenda put in order by World Health Organization or similar entities to control the overpopulation in India and other eastern countries that are overpopulating the planet. The population in my country is too hard to cope with. Traveling is difficult. If you're at the doctor's office, there are just too many people. The doctors get tired attending to so many people. Too many suicides because of despair and joblessness and family issues. I think India is stuck in a rut. Stage Blue Dogma and corruption is eating out the system alive. It causes massive suffering because nobody cares about the environment or the community or social issues. People tend to become extremely selfish. The downside of such Universal Basic Income is that people will keep producing more kids. Which leads to more unemployment, strain on resources and more poverty. If people are incentivised to get an income without producing more kids, and care more about community and environment, a lot of our problems in third world countries can be handled. The population problem itself has turned into a stiff bottleneck causing massive unemployment and exploitation as desperate people turn to desperate measures. I learn about suicides daily. Some of my friends committed suicide because of unemployment and they come from middle class families and they couldn't deal with the pressure of mounting financial distress. People seem to understand the gravity of the situation only when the gun is turned on them. As long as the gun is on another person's temple, nobody cares. People just let others fall through the cracks. The question is how long is the suffering in third world countries going to continue. Every leader elected is either stage Red or stage Blue and there is no leadership, no solving issues, either they make problems worse through corruption or they are simply indifferent and choose to turn a blind eye. The conditions in third world countries are nightmarish. There is no insurance from government and even if it exists, it's all namesake. Government hospitals are a joke and private clinics raise a huge bill. There are hardly any psychological resources for people, extremely few psychiatrists per capita. The nation is dealing with a silent wave of depression as a result of decades of poverty and crisis. Child abuse is rampant. Rape is rampant. There is no safety or any concept of social security. Law enforcement is a joke. There is no 911....just no public security services. You only rely on your family and most family dynamics are shitty. There are no social services to ask for assistance from in case your family kicks you out or harasses you. Just recently an actor committed suicide a week ago because of family harassment.. It's like a daily story. Everyday Someone ends up as the victim in this Russian Roulette. People turn a blind eye to each other's problems because they don't want to disturb their cushy positions. People are used to seeing suffering and simply ignoring it. There are no social security benefits in case things go south in your life. No cover. No protection. Government erected buildings for any sort of hope are a joke because they are unclean with no electricity, no basic facilities and no resources. I think a major overhaul is needed in third world countries because most people feel trapped by virtue of being born in such unfortunate circumstances. It's not someone's fault if they are born in such environments. But living in a third world country is a total nightmare and I feel sorry for anyone who feels trapped like me in such countries.

I don't know what to do. I really feel there are too many trapped souls in my country. Too many abused children. Too much going on. Last week an actor in my country committed suicide due to family issues. After learning about it, I had a mental breakdown because it mirrored my situation in some ways. It's hard to live in a country where the government doesn't give a shit about you. Unemployment and population are at their peak. Too many rapes. Bad stuff. Like bad juju everywhere. Feel a constant sense of helplessness and threat.

There are no social services here Last week I called a suicide hotline and they never picked my calls. It's like there's nobody there.. My mental and physical condition has been deteriorating to the point that I might have to give up my job. The family pressure to get married is too much. My family's unsupportive dynamic sucks I battle a health condition that I won't discuss here, that's the only thing that I keep off limits. It's too tough to survive and I often thought of suicide many many times.

Thanks to the people who offer compassion and support.

I can't buy anymore time.

Angel, heaven is waiting for you. You've an empty seat waiting for you. This is where God wants you seated among the spirits. To be connected with this cosmic chain. All angels (victims) are a part of this.. This empty spot in this chain of divine entities is waiting to receive you so that you get connected with cosmic entities and are able to derive strength, inspiration and hope from this cosmic network.

Will this be a part of my healing?

I'll call it the Cosmic Support Chain. This is like a network of divine entities like a community. There is an empty space waiting for you to fulfill.

God is your savior. God is your healing agent.. You need to be a part of a divine community or network that works to heal wounded souls.. There is no other way to heal the planet.. The planet needs a huge karma reversal.

Yeah, took some time to figure that out.

I'm yet to come across a woman who didn't feel jaded after a relationship failure. You gotta be the one who is dreaming now. If you want to keep a woman happy, do what she likes. If you decide to play the guy who ignores a woman on purpose so that she is attracted to the punk attitude, it only works for a while. I know that kind of advice is given in pua circles But in reality it only works on really immature women. Most women sense tactics.

@Lyubov I really don't see a problem with being dreamy. I've seen men being dreamy as well. As long as the relationship is going good, nothing else matters really. It being a fairy tale just adds a bit of uniqueness to the relationship. I mean,c'mon life shouldn't be so cut and dry. It's gonna be a boring old age anyway. Why not dream a bit when young. Those memories are worth cherishing an entire life.

You mean sbb4746, kidding. @Jacobsrw

Meh. I also used to do this until my heart got broken by a guy (many guys) For girls it's a hormonal thing. When we get hormonal for a guy, we can't often distinguish between romantic and sexual. We take sexual as romantic and start spinning Romeo Juliet stories. We imagine a great romance ready to uncover. If girls were pragmatic like boys, then they wouldn't fall pregnant and the world population would have been half of what it's today. So men kinda have to be grateful that women float into a trance when they fall in love or else it would be a bit harder to get her in bed. Yes girly girls are like that. Most girls are like that. I was like this for a long time. But women are not entirely responsible for this. Universal culture is partly to blame. Look at all the romantic novels and Disney fantasy stories fed to women. All of it involves telling women how the prince charming will come riding on a horse, sweeping her off her feet and make her feel magical. So there's that feeding a woman's brain by general culture. Reality is very different from what women are fed with. This is only happens after a woman gains enough experience. Even till my last relationship, I imagined my boyfriend like some Prince Charming made only for me and how it would be happily ever after with him. But since then I have wisened up. Now I don't think like that anymore. I think every woman goes through dreamy phase and then has her dreams broken and finally has her waking up phase. The whole process is cruel though. It's not fun to have your dreamy illusions broken by a heartbreaker. This is what causes a lot of women to get sour over time. They can no longer connect or relate to that innocent version of themselves where they would have romantic dreams about men It's all about female brain chemistry. Thinking that way stimulates her emotionally and sexually. If a woman thought pragmatically, she would remain dry. Women don't rely on porn to get wet. They rely on erotica novels and romantic memories and lovey dovey scenarios to get wet. That's why a man directly talking about sex doesn't stimulate a woman, rather offends her You see in the movies the guy standing at her door with a bunch of roses. Well for a good reason. Women feel sexy and sexual after receiving emotional stimulation from the guy. Otherwise the guy ends up with epic failure and goes home. If you can't make her cry or laugh at the same time, you have failed to secure her. If you can make her cry or laugh at the same time, Congratulations. She will be in your bed very soon The way to a man is through his dick The way to a woman is through her heart. No heart no woman. Woman are from Venus. Men from Mars.

Woah, I do not resonate with this at all. And not meaning to say in an offensive way, but just seeing and experiencing the complete opposite of this. I grew up with an abusive mom and a great caring dad. When I was in school, I had lot of girls being very protective of me. They saw me as a delicate fragile doll. A lot of the girls used to be very fond of me and I never had the experience of the "mean school girl." I never experienced female jealousy, except my mom all other women were kind to me, emotionally matured, cooperative, understanding and gentle with me. I used to switch my personality between a funny tomboy and a soft diminutive fragile woman, like the Cinderella types. I kinda grew up in male dominating culture where women felt repressed and oppressed, I always had to dress a particular way so I was always non sexual and never allowed to feel sexy around men. Wearing sexy clothes was like a taboo growing up. Like you, I associated men with tolerance, gentleness, empathy because my dad was like that. But this image was immediately shattered once I began dating guys who turned out to be assholes and would take pride in a male dominating culture. I saw women who were married being oppressed and dominated by their husbands and I would often feel sorry for how the women around me were exploited and mistreated by the men. So my image of men began to slowly shift towards the unfavorable. I began to see men as predatory and ruthless and unkind and women as vulnerable, fragile, used and victimized. I never had a problem expressing my femininity (just the part where I wasn't allowed to be publicly sexual) I was always unabashedly feminine, I would never hide my vulnerability. I never felt the need to be masculine, in fact to this day, I always find a lot of trouble if someone told me to be masculine. It doesn't fit with my personality. Although I've come across the mean spiteful woman stereotype sometimes, I don't know what happens but I look at them with surprise and generally ignore them( I tend to either laugh at them or feel a bit of mercy for them) and they usually end up coming up to me and liking me in the end, because I kinda receive them without judgement. I try to be funny or generous with them. Because often times the mean spiteful nature of some women can be just a tough exterior she is putting up to sort of protect herself or "don't mess with me" kind of energy. If a woman is genuinely spiteful and manipulative, I would definitely not appreciate that and I tend to be judgemental towards such women especially if they are socially destructive. But usually women seem to calm down in my presence instantly even if they were spiteful. My accepting and endearing energy sort of becomes like a healing process for them. Also the moment they sense my fragility and vulnerability, they tend to give up their spiteful behavior and become more sympathetic towards me. I've often noticed that. In general, I tend to give out a more "caring energy" towards women and a more "feminist fighty energy" towards men. This is because I've witnessed a lot of women in pain and distress throughout my life. The divine feminine energy in me tends to connect with the sufferings of women so that causes me to be more holistically connected with women in general and I tend to become more sisterly/motherly around women and it causes me to understand women better and sympathize with women. With me, feminism works slightly different. I see feminism as a version of Kali where I see women as those who need a lot of protection. Kali is seen as a protector of women in Hinduism. So I don't quite like modern feminists sort of constantly telling women to be strong and keep working. Because I see a lot of women as weak or fragile and I don't judge or chastize them for their weaknesses. So if a woman wants to do light work, and not take too much pressure, I'd happily want her to enjoy comfort. I'd not pressure her to be a strong woman but just let her embrace her fragility and accept it rather than reject it. So overall that's how I perceive women and feminism. I've this empowering attitude towards women combined with caring for their frailty and fragility.

I'm not sure who is worse, a narcissist or a psychopath? Because sometimes a narcissist seems to be more Empathetic than a psychopath.

There is zero compassion in this world. My alter ego Marabella feels helpless about it. Because even if I wanted to save someone, I can't.. I need saving myself. Sometimes it is about turning to God. Is God our real family? These misogynistic comments..