Preety_India

@BornToBoil yeah. Few.

3 systems I can think of Psychical system. Physical system Close environment

Its better to wake up to the truth and be sad, than to wake up to a lie and smile like a fool

Try to be with people who put some effort in trying to win and earn your respect and space. Those who... Earn your trust and deserve your loyalty.

Being single for the first time in life is quite refreshing. Although it felt like a lonely prison for the last whole month post the breakup.

I don't wish to be with people who don't resonate with me. Mad respect for those who understand me, because I'm difficult.

@ilkjnkh could you write a little bit about your favorite teachers you follow?

What do you mean by brute force?

@diamondpenguin you're too inexperienced to argue with me on it. So just leave it. If you haven't lived it, you won't know it.

@ilkjnkh hey thanks for correcting me. I will keep that in mind.

@ilkjnkh yes of course Well done. Awesome and Congratulations on your new journey!! Here's something to cheer you up A personalized award Certificate for you..

Just like the girl in the video above doesn't look into her boyfriend's eyes during a confrontation, I never had the courage to look into Joseph's eyes. I used to look elsewhere or down if he looked at me. Those are signs of submissive behavior. And he used to keep rambling loudly. I remember his stare. His stare was deep and frightening. I will call it the typical Narcissist's Stare. They have a typical stare. You see it in Charles Manson. They never take their eyes off and give a "scanning you right now" kind of stare. Their stare is bold and frightening. It creates fear in the body of the victim

Omg this guy is perfectly like my ex Joseph. But Joseph was much stronger and bulkier physically than this dude. But exactly like him with eye expressions and the way he would talk. Like lecturing and punishing me every minute. Same like this dude is doing to his girlfriend in the video. I was like the girl in the video, sitting quietly and silently beside Joseph And he would continue bashing me about his issues with the world and i had to swallow all his anger to be a good girlfriend to him It never works. They never change. They are narcissists. They won't change even if the girlfriend is totally devoted. Seeing this video reminded so many aspects of my past abusive relationship. Even the phrases are the same.. Joseph used to say "don't you understand this, don't you know this?" "you see now, they are manipulating you" And in the end he would call me a dumbass for being too slow to catch up. Total control and abuse. It's hard to leave the abuser because they create deep fear for leaving them. I can understand why she is not leaving the dude. I have been there done that.. The responsibility is also mine. But there are too many factors. I was alone with Joseph in the US. Alone in a strange country. I felt trapped and cornered by his overpowering demeanor. I had absolutely no social support. No friends.. No family support. I had my money. But zero emotional support. Somehow Joseph was my pillar for emotional support and that's what he used to his advantage. Narcissistic abusers can sense your emotional and mental weaknesses and easily gain your trust and keep manipulating you. The video is a perfect example of narcissistic abuse in full display. Joseph told me to break up with every friend I had known before, completely isolating me socially.

I will try my best to help you with whatever you need. To the best of my ability.

If you need any kind of help, you can directly mention me and ask me here. No need to private message me. Thanks.

@ilkjnkh well done. Now can you write some more about that video in the following post below mine? Can you describe certain aspects of the video or things that really resonated with you?

@ilkjnkh I know that. Because you're the only one creating multiple accounts here for the past couple of days and writing the same stuff. So i kinda figured. Now can you paste the link of the same video again and let me see if it appears?

Simple paste the link onto this page and it will automatically appear. Try it again till you get it right.

Look at the picture. You can see the share button on a video. Click that button or icon. Next copy the link. Post the link here and wait 3 seconds till the link loads. The video automatically loads on the page. @ilkjnkh can you try this again Yahya?

@ilkjnkh now please go ahead and post some self development stuff and give a break and rest to the poor moderators Namaste.

@Preety_India @ilkjnkh Look.. You try to focus on yourself and please have some consideration for others as well. I try to help a lot of people around here, to the best of my capacity. But I cannot be a 24/7 helper. It will drain me. Plus I have my own issues to deal with. If I help you in whatever way, it's just my thoughtfulness but not my job. If you don't bug me too much and give me at least 2% respect, I might be able to help you some more I am usually a recluse, but If someone approaches me, I try to do the best I can to help them with anything. Just asking for respect and space, not much

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@ilkjnkh start out with your thoughts about self development, your opinions on yourself. Look up online for ways to journal. Start with something simple. Post some self development YouTube video. Probably comment on it in this journal Talk about how that video helped you. There are many things that you can do Right?

@ilkjnkh calm down. Nobody is banning you. Now try to work on yourself. And always keep forum guidelines in mind.