Preety_India

Are you flirting with me?

I am not interested in what pickup teaches men. I do not relate to it. I have never been into guys who are into pickup. None of my ex boyfriends were ever into all that. I'm a woman. I am going to speak from my own perspective as a woman on things I see. Whether you take it or not, is really not my bother. Books, lectures, dating coaches are one thing and real life is another. I'm just using my own judgement as a woman. If it clashes with pickup I can't help that. I can only speak from my own perspective. There is no given that one perspective is better or correct or superior to another, as everything depends on how that perspective is tested in reality and for everyone their reality is different. You can't define reality with a constant formula.

@AlwaysJoggin because she is not certain. It's not about sex. It's about connection. She doesn't want to rush things. Sex causes women to have chemicals that make them emotional. They develop a bond with the man. If she is not mentally prepared for it, she will take her own time. Meanwhile she can obviously masturbate with the dildo whenever she has an urge. I have my sexual feelings as well but that does not mean that whenever I get urges I'm looking for a guy to sleep with. No matter how easy it looks, for a woman having sex with a man is always a difficult decision. We don't have emotions when we are doing things with a dildo. But we definitely have emotions around a man we are interested in So take that as a clue

@AlwaysJoggin just go with the flow. Don't get tensed. Let her be comfortable with you.

@AlwaysJoggin if you really want to attract someone who is sincere with you, you will need to respect their boundaries, it's not about arguing why she wouldn't want a kiss or imposing your will on her, I have been interested in many men in life yet I didn't want to be sexual instantly get sexual. I wanted to take my own time with it. And if you want to present yourself as respectful then you should give her the space to be herself, if she is not in the mood to feel sexual, it's perfectly alright, maybe she wants to take it slow and you shouldn't be hard pressed on it, rather respect her choice and space and let her go with it how she wants to. If you get frustrated with her actions, it shows your neediness. If she expressed a liking for you, its already a good thing and you should appreciate that and at the same time appreciate who she is and what she wants. If you want to love someone, try considering their needs first. And respect their boundaries. So just because she said no, you don't have to be offended. Your reaction should be of acceptance rather than offense.

@AlwaysJoggin need to get rid of that neediness. You should cultivate self love and understand that first off you need to fulfill yourself enough

@AlwaysJoggin but you can't rely on someone in such a short period of time Give at least 2 months before you begin to believe someone. The neediness should be on both sides. 2 weeks is a very short time.

Everyone needs love. But you need to fix a part of you where you feel like you instantly deserve it or else everything has fallen apart. It shows a deep neediness that you need to fix.

@AlwaysJoggin I'm talking about the negativity where you feel so low because of this rejection and you're allowing yourself to be so impacted when you hardly interacted with that person. I mean that was a very short time and it seems very unusual to get attached so quickly so you might want to work on yourself to not have such attachments

@AlwaysJoggin I agree with this. You néed to investigate this

@AlwaysJoggin also if you get attached to her so quickly (which I don't believe) it says more about your issues than hers. Maybe you need to do a bit of Shadow work to see where all this negativity is coming from?

@AlwaysJoggin yea I get that. I'm just thinking that there could be more to the story. You don't need to be an intellectual to know the difference between respectful and derogatory language. Even a 3rd grader would know it. It's more about the inner core than intelligent use of language.

@AlwaysJoggin @AlwaysJoggin@Al A respectful guy wouldn't degrade the woman publicly. It's just an observation.

@AlwaysJoggin You are a typical example of the nice guy who is only nice on top. You judge her because she slept with multiple men yet somehow you are superior to all those men even when you wanted to do the same thing with her what those other dudes wanted to - just fucking her and dumping her because you said yourself that you wanted her only sexually, you didn't want her as a partner but only wanted her to discharge your cum into her so that your sexual needs get satisfied whereas her needs remain unmet once you have used her sexually. Yet you are somehow better than all those men she had one night stands with. You also called her the B word and called her stupid and degraded her for having low self worth. So basically this means you are fully aware of her weaknesses, vulnerabilities and emotional baggage but if you were a respectful gentleman wanting to love and care for her, you wouldn't talk about her vulnerabilities and emotional damage in such a derogatory manner. This means deep down you don't respect her and don't care about her but only wanted her as a sex doll just as some of the men who fucked her did. You probably thought that if she could sleep with so many men then she is a loose woman, easy woman who will easily sleep with you as well and you can then satisfy your first goal of getting laid. But in this process you could care less how she was going to feel after you were done sleeping and using her. So her emotion meant nothing to you especially given how much she was already emotionally and psychologically damaged. You only wanted what you wanted to extract out of her (sex). Maybe she was saved from another heartbreak. Maybe she realized in time that your intention was the same as that of other men who probably used her too. No man who genuinely gave his heart to a woman (first of alll I don't believe any man ever gives his heart to a woman in just 2 weeks of hanging out with her) would ever call that woman the B word even if she rejected him. Because he still has feelings for her or at least he respects her for who she was when he was with her. You show her absolutely no respect. This makes your whole intention very suspicious. You yourself admit that you wanted her only sexually. You saw her as an easy sexual target but her low self worth image rejected you and that hurt your ego so badly that you couldn't handle it. You need to reflect on how you perceive this woman. That's a very dangerous way of looking at a woman. She doesn't deserve that. You clearly had ulterior motives in mind because wanting her to get rid of your virginity nowhere comes closer to the idea of love, care and trust. It's basically using someone for your hunger. Sexual hunger. She obviously deserves way better than that. I understand that she sleeps with many men. But a good man wouldn't use that as a justification to sleep with her. She sleeps with many because of her low self esteem and that's a symptom of her damaged self. But that shouldn't be used or exploited to justify extracting something (sex) out of her. It's like saying - hey you have worked as a slave at everyone's house, what's the big deal in being a slave at my house, you're used to it right? That's an abhorrent attitude. If she ever deserves a man then she needs a man who truly desires her for who she is, not because she is easy for sex, someone who respects her humanity and let's her experience true love and makes her his partner for life and helps her retain trust and live a life of happiness and emotional well being and not be used as a cum bucket.

I hope he spends a fair amount of time in prison. And even if he doesn't, his conscience will eat him up one day.

A few years later I met a guy who called himself Moonwolf, I felt like I was meeting the same guy. I wouldn't really know. But both men were interesting in the way they wanted me. Especially sexually.. Something that even my boyfriends didn't. It was difficult to resist them although I had this strong urge to sleep with both of them. But at the time I really wanted a stable boyfriend. This was like 3 years ago before joining this place Those men though. They were so strong. Sometimes I think I should have said yes.

The first time we met it was online. Blackrose was very romantic. He wanted to make me feel good. I had just ended my relationship with my first boyfriend and I was feeling lonely so I downloaded this dating app and that's where I met Blackrose. Mr. Blackrose was so nice to me. He sent me dick pics. A few months later when I wanted to find him on the same place, he was nowhere. The funny thing is that Blackrose had said to me that he would either me or himself if he didn't get me. He was so strange..

This earth is garbage. Just stick to yourself.

It's like you're applying to appear for a Black Friday Sale. Another question. If there are many men ready to pay her money, will she auction herself to the highest bidder. Some women smh I feel sorry for the guy who will actually pay her.

When you want others to simp you, you're not only simping them yourself but also simping a version of yourself that you don't want.

Yea this was my latest concept. How your level really matters so much than you will ever know?

Sometimes I feel like if I had been given enough love, I wouldn't have turned out like this

If a guy ever wants to be my friend, you better create that trust in me before I say yes to you. And I'm going to call you my Mr Buddy if we really get that close.