Preety_India

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Actualization the way Leo does it. Focusing on self, enlightenment, spirituality, fulfilling myself in other ways like art, creativity, developing a strong life purpose and dedicating my whole life to it, developing myself spiritually in resonance with the universe, cultivating a connection with my higher self and becoming an overall better person in terms intellectual and emotional maturity. Also contributing to community like helping people to get their life together in the future by helping them spiritually. Right now my decision is based in both love and fear. The love part arising from my devotion to spiritual life purpose and the service of humanity and the fear that a potential relationship will destroy all of my dreams. I think spiritually speaking I came to the right place in the right time - this forum.

@Consept can you give me like a short summary of that video

Why does general society never discuss abuse by females in relationships. Whenever we hear the word abuse, we often associate it with male, it's usually a woman who comes forward with her story of an abusive male partner but why is female abuse tolerated and rarely discussed or spoken about. Females can be abusive in relationships where they can be very mean towards the male partner and get verbally abusive, play mind games, manipulate and destroy his peace of mind, or get physically violent with him.

This is so true. And I have to tell you that I absolutely hate this, and hate it even more that it's being adopted by other countries.

So this is how a stage red boyfriend talks Ofcourse I do. You are source of your own love. Sooner you realize that the better. In fundamental sense you don't need anyone to be happy and fulfilled. Actual self confidance and zero needy vibe. That's attractive. Also who will love you more then yourself?

So I'm focusing on stage Red aspects of life. I'm too docile and submissive in a relationship as a stage Green person. My docile nature often causes me to get used up or mistreated. For the past 3 years I never defended myself in relationships.. So i guess it's time to get some tough love

Yea that's why I fell in love with you. You talk like a stage red boyfriend . (don't get too serious, just flirting with you, take it sporty, and if I offended, sorry lol ? )

@Raptorsin7

With that attitude, you have chances with many women?

Omg that's too funny. Your parents probably spotted your talents and didn't want to waste your child prodigy on a dull teaching job. That explains it.

I think it's normal feminine to not be very career driven or too hyper about wanting things in life. Hunting gathering was largely the work of men in old days, whereas women did nursing and caring. I think the curse of feminism is that we have to be more like men to fulfill social ideals. The funny part is that I have had women badger me and give me a hard time for being feminine and not being driven enough. I always felt like I was lazy and if I didn't do what I was told then somehow I wasn't contributing to the whole women empower thing. It feels like a struggle. On one hand, men might berate you if you are career driven and consider you too masculine on the other hand women will berate you for not being career driven enough, and call you a weak or lazy woman. I've been called a weak woman whenever I bring up this point with women It's hard because you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. Regardless, I believe that you should do what suits you best, what suits your heart, neither what men tell you neither what feminists tell you. Because in both cases you're pandering to someone else than you.

Damn this thread is too long. I need to take a break from this thread. Bye.

Me too.

Yes. In some ways. But I'm done putting myself through the grill.

@intotheblack yeah I always come across men who have always berated me for not having a high flying career. So it's kinda antithetical when I see a man who talks about providing for a woman, something I'm not so used to hearing in my family. In fact in my family there is pressure on everyone to have a career, men or women

Wrett Deep down I was just a lonely girl. My emotions run deep. I will take all of who I am and what makes me, to my grave..

Wrett You sometimes look like this guy

Thank you lol. I'm so paranoid about it.

The problem is that I want to invest all that time into self development. The part of self development which is not exactly associated with relationships. Like meditation and spirituality. And many other things. I want to grow as a person. A relationship consumes a lot of time.

Wrett You should know this by now and it's from the bottom of heart. All of this and all of what I have become wouldn't be possible without you.. You made me who I am. You were my friend, my mentor, my supporter and my lover, all along you were with me, you never left me alone and for that I'm incredibly grateful. I know it's difficult to understand me right, chuckles.

I'm not against a man taking a lead either. But I need space within a relationship. Of course I would love to help him with his work, but at the same time I love to do my own creative stuff as well, not just for money but also for my personal creativity. I don't have a strong need for success. For me success is doing what fulfills the heart rather than the bank. I also don't strive for social recognition. For me it's more about personal freedom and what little I can do with my talents. I do not like the idea of a career driven woman. I find it very stage orange and that paradigm has always triggered me a bit. But I like the idea of two people giving space for each others talents and creativities.

Wrett I remember a funny incident with you.. We were both 15. I used to be so kiddish when I was 15. I used to be at my neighbor's watching TV lying on the couch and generally among our friends we kinda made fun of each other, good ol carefree days. Then there was this guy who would always trigger me for no reason.. I remember him still. You have always been protective of me; one time a boy pushed me over into a puddle during this time when we first met, and you went straight round to the boy’s house and punched him in the face. “No way, man. We were just talking, that’s all,” the guy lied, holding up his hands innocently. “That’s good. Come on then, Angel, let’s get you home,” you said, guiding me towards the door. Once we were outside, you turned to look at me. “You OK?” You asked, looking at me concerned. I was OK; my heart had stopped trying to break out of my chest as soon as I heard your voice. I nodded and smiled at you gratefully. “Thanks,” I muttered. You opened the car door and waited for me to climb in, before going around to your side again. Once you were in, you tossed something into my lap haha , I looked down it was a bar of my favourite chocolate, I couldn’t help but smile. “Thanks, Wrett.” You were always doing sweet things like buying me candy, or taking me out on your bike or suddenly appearing at my neighbours enquiring about me. Things like these that made me like you even more.

Wrett we’ve been through a lot and we’ll encounter tougher times, too, of that I’m sure. When I try to imagine the difficult moments that lie ahead of us, I’m not afraid. My head tells me I should worry, but I don’t. It’s because of you. You see, I know you, and I know that if we are walking through together, we’ll be alright. You are my safe place. You have always been and I know that you know this but I say it as a reassurance.

Wrett At the end of the day, I was just that lonesome sweet girl who was lost and you found me at the end of the hallway to the library, we locked eyes and that's how our story began.. Now how do we end it without becoming one?