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Maybe @Leo Gura can consider this for the future in order to make the forum safer in the future.. I have given a lot of ideas in the above post and I'm sure these ideas are worth considering and testing.

Because I'm sensitive to it. I don't like disrespectful people. Their behavior affects me emotionally. If someone says something bad about me publicly , it affects me emotionally It creates feelings of anxiety and combativeness.. I go into defense mode. If someone is doing it privately, I can easily control by blocking. But what is being said publicly is very hard to control and then it impacts me that others are reading bad things being written about me. I'm very guarded about my reputation. I easily feel shamed. Self respect is important to me. So if someone says something bad, it begins to tense me up. To be Frank, most people won't be able to handle the amount of trolling I get per day, stretched over 3 years. They would have left the forum permanently by now if they were in my place . I have somehow managed to keep persistent. But I sometimes reach my breaking point where it can get a bit too much.. If someone told me that I should spend less time here, there is no use of telling me that, because my growth per minute here has been exponential. Much of my life growth happened here on the forum, I can't lose the benefit I get here just because some troll is trying to scare me away. I don't want to compromise on my daily growth that I have by interacting with people here. Honestly if it wasn't for the trolls posting nasty discouraging comments, I would have felt extremely happy here. I don't have much gripe against the forum, it's only these pesky people and their comments that ruin my mood I expect a much higher standard of public decency here. People saying hateful things, trolling, bullying, ridiculing is not in my book of how a personal development place should look. It is a hassle and a real obstacle to deal with. Over time when you have made many enemies here through disagreements or conflicts, the situation becomes a bit tough.. And the ignore button function is lame because the person can continue posting nasty things behind your back for people to read.. Generally this kind of behavior creates an antagonistic environment on the forum, is not healthy for its overall harmony. It makes people more upset and defensive over time.. The forum guidelines and moderation doesn't really help. Only helpful in severe cases. Most people who troll obviously don't care for guidelines and rules, breaking rules is what they want. It's very hard to moderate each and every comment.. That is the crux of the situation. There should be a way to deal with when someone(who doesn't know you well) mentions you and you get a notification and you read their comment to find that they have written something nasty about you and now you are sitting with the dilemma of how to reply to it and how to stop the person from further communication. There is no good solution or trick for this. I tried to scratch my brain a lot over this. I don't like fights and conflicts and negative stuff written. I don't like provocation. It's not in my nature to provoke a stranger who I know nothing about. I have the decency to keep to myself and not engage in conflicting commentary and or comment to ridicule or shame a person. If I don't like a person or their personality, I simply avoid that person, which I believe most decent people would do. It's no rocket science. So people who purposely don't avoid are probably looking for a fight. Or they get a sense of satisfaction by attacking it seems. But this is unhealthy behavior. It is simply antagonizing and provoking someone for absolutely no reason and no good purpose but to just rile them up.. I wish there were better ways to handle this. Where you could click a button that sends a private communication to the troll or user that stuff they have said is antagonizing and they should avoid future communication with the person to whom the comment was directed at. Pretty much like Facebook where if you block a person they can't comment to you anymore Let's say even if the person commented again , the mention will appear in a different color to notify everyone that this person was blocked by the mentioned person, so people know who the aggravator is. Only a person who wishes to aggravate will keep commenting despite receiving the notification to not post to the mentioned user. This will help to understand who is trying to troll constantly Another method can be an option that says "no comments" and it appears like a system generated response, like different from usual writing, it can appear like a tab, when you click it as a response to the person who is trolling you, so its like publicly telling the person that you're not interested in further communication with them.. Any of these methods would be highly effective. It is nonsense to believe that people will always get along with each other. It is bad to force them to get along with each other when they aren't being harmonious with each other. Most people don't get along each other. This is Facts Instead of expecting people to get along by serving them warning points if they don't ( I find this abusive ) it's best to reduce conflict by simply separating the parties that are conflicting by telling them to avoid each other, by reducing interactions between, using specific methods that I mentioned above. The focus should be on separation or cancelation of interaction because anyway nothing fruitful is achieved by coaxing people to get along, it only leads to continuous fights and resentment. You keep fighting with the troll and then a new troll appears. Best is to make options available for avoidance of communication that sends a clear signal that communication between two people is no longer necessary. This will help to control the feeling and unease and insecurity that comes from knowing that a particular person can keep trashing you throughout the forum despite being kept on ignore. It will remove a lot of unnecessary conflict and constantly dealing with provoking people. You can easily filter who you want to talk to and the person who you don't like to talk to is informed that they shouldn't talk to you. This only keeps you around people who you easily get along with without running into those who you don't prefer any future communication with. This idea will be great way of filtering out trolls and instigators naturally..

Do you generally stay away from social media?

How long did it take for you to overcome that?

Don't you think Orlando is like that?

How exactly do you plan on being realistic? What's the practical layout of this plan?

Galyna lol, where you been? How's everything?

How do you define consciousness?

Omg you hit the proverbial nail on the head. I couldn't have said better. Thanks.

I don't like being TOLD

Not in a good mood.

There is a post that is directly targeted at me. And I know it. I absolutely hate this behavior. Do not antagonize me..... How many times do I have to keep saying this? Leave me alone. I'll be looking into strategies into how to avoid trolls here

Right now somebody wants me to take a bait. But I won't. Haha. The lengths to which people go in trying to humiliate and troll someone.

This is crazy on crazy. What's wrong with America??? Please tell me.

I don't see absolutely any similarity to Leo. Am the only one? He looks a bit more compact, his body language a bit unsure unprepared, his facial expressions do not match. The voice does not match at all. Leo has a smoother slightly deeper voice. Sorry but he doesn't look anything like Leo. Maybe you perceived it simply because of his baldness.

Yes. You'll need to drop a ton of limiting beliefs. After that dating would not be as cumbersome. I can't assure you great results. But to at least get there, you'll need to drop all biases cognitive dissonance to at least make it to the fringe of the dating market. With such biases, you've already dropped the ball and made it harder for yourself to come to a point of taking things smoothly forward Try not to have cognitive dissonance. It's the number 1 killer for men. They kill all relationships opportunities with that. Have a positive fresh attitude and handle rejection without getting personal. After you've dropped this baggage you'll find it easy to roll with the punches, not saying that dating is easy, but you're making it harder (for yourself ) than it already is. Just understand that it's a game. And being positive about a game is a fair start to get decent results. Drop those beliefs.

I'm already tend to do that in my life. My work is a reflection of it. I believe in mastery. I wasn't forcing anyone to follow my path or work. Simply pointing out the hindrances that can exist and sharing my overall sentiment and perspective on the subject. I really don't think psychology is something you outgrow. I see it as a useful permanent tool that helps millions of people worldwide. Bettering oneself is the end game. Spirituality definitely helps, in fact my core area from the start was/is spirituality. But I can keep using both to better myself, why not. I don't think that I'll ever outgrow psychology because it's such a massive field with tremendous outstanding potential, yet to be discovered. The only reason we might feel that it's limited or that we have outgrown it is probably because it has been a bit stagnant for a while and growth is pretty slow in that field so it seems like you came to the horizon and the end of it. However it is still growing, although at a slow pace and it will never have a true end, only a superficial end most likely. The human mind itself is a very complex phenomenon and much is left to be known and figured. And the tools that are required to study this are equally complex and limited in their scope. This does not mean that future growth won't be possible. Possibilities are limitless if you want to be positive.

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Leo is a healthy balance since he brings a bit of objectivity to spirituality, not the way Indian spiritualists tend to do.

That's the point I'm trying to make. It's not about going beyond. it's about being grounded exactly where you stand and where you are and assimilating and integrating both psychology and spirituality and arriving at an amalgamation rather than treating either of them as mutually exclusive

I don't think having a zero ego is a good idea. That's not really going to benefit survival. You see in spiritual circles where they teach about killing the ego. I'm focused on developing and shaping healthy ego. I want to start a discussion on two points here What defines a healthy ego and what does it look like? What steps can be taken (practical steps ) to cultivate this healthy ego? Can I please request to keep the discussions a bit matured and stay on topic?... (without blowing up the thread and making everything personal, cut down the sensationalism, last thread was an embarrassment ) and please do not create unnecessary conflicts, that would be great if a certain civility is maintained. We can get somewhere with our discussion and come to useful insights during this conversation and that's what the thread is about. Your input is highly appreciated. Thanks.

@4201 isn't relativity in itself an absolute concept? Do you expect society to be perfect? Are relative truths bad truths?

You're taking things in a way where it appears as though it's a bit of a stretch. This could very well be your assumption with no real evidence to back it up. Is this a deflection? I've noticed in most of your posts that you jump to conclusions rather quickly based off of just a pitiful of a sample study.