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Pankhraj is a pretty strong character I came up with. So this character has a permanent spot. Even Anand.

Then there was Anand And the third is Jagat

@Shin isn't that similar to the question of breaking hearts?

The latest characters that I developed are a source of pure joy. One is pankhraj

Real love feels like this.

One is loyalty

Components of love. loyalty Non judgement Generosity Warmth and acceptance Security and protection and stability Possessiveness and belongingness Unconditional love Caring Trust Compassion Accommodating Understanding maturity Selflessness Forgiving Kind

Forgiving Kind

Understanding And maturity Selflessness

Unconditional love Caring Trust Compassion Accommodating

Security and protection and stability Possessiveness and belongingness

Non judgement Generosity . Warmth and acceptance

@Roy so you mean to say it's bad to do it and it should be avoided?

And what happens if I don't develop emotional attachment for him(if I consciously console myself to not have emotional attachment ), would it then be healthy for me to get addicted to his sex and continue it with him and compromise with my principles related to commitment? Would it be morally and emotionally healthy/unhealthy or come with zero consequences?

Would it be considered guilty pleasure to sleep with such a guy and even if its guilty pleasure, what's the cost of enjoying such pleasure (morality, sexuality and emotionality wise)?

@Rajneeshpuram falling for someone is totally different from seducing someone into a relationship. Even if a guy fell for me, I can still reject him and a guy can do the same. I won't call it breaking heart after a relationship has developed, I would simply call it rejection. This is completely different from engaging in a relationship and creating hope for commitment and then abandoning after sexual gratification. It's like you are in love with a girl and she is also in love with you and you both made plans for a commitment and you both made promises and after a few passionate times, she simply abandoned you because she only wanted it temporary. However this intent wasn't expressed in the beginning. Then it's definitely a proper heart break. Because she got you emotionally and sexually involved and then abandoned. You don't have an obligation to marry if the relationship doesn't even exist. Obligations are only discussed when a relationship develops and emotional attachment happens.

I never said that it's not survival. It is definitely a part of survival. But even though it's selfish, I see it as necessary rather than as bad. Without such an expectation, I won't even consent to sex with a guy. He won't deserve it in my eyes, a relationship wouldn't even begin from my end. However the dilemma is not the obvious suffering such an expectation would create since I'm not trying to eliminate such a suffering. The dilemma is whether it's healthy or not. Whether allowing my heart to be broken is okay? Whether such suffering is worth the amount of sex had with him? And the other dilemma is whether to continue to enjoy sex with him or continue wanting him both romantically and sexually and keep feeding the hunger for his lust? In other words, whether to give up sex if he is not committed or continue enjoying his ways of giving sex even if it's not going to be long term? Will having sex with him lead to becoming lenient with sexual boundaries and remove the essence of pure innocence one has before entering such relationships? Will it make a person more immune or redundant when it comes to pure innocent emotional love (like feeling used up sexually, usually men who are 18 and have sex with much older ladies tend to experience such immunity or redundancy, they can't experience the joy of the first kiss anymore, they feel sexually used up). Should one let go of the hearts expectations and simply give into the attraction felt in the moment or should one stop surrendering to it and preserve oneself for something more committed?

@Harlen Kelly but nobody is forcing anyone. It's just an expectation, plain and simple, just the way we expect ourselves to be honest. How can a relationship or any friendship exist in reality without expectation? Wouldn't we allow ourselves to be completely scammed if we never had any expectations? Then why do we choose healthy food in a grocery store? Because we expect that the product is designed to keep us healthy? How can any human being even survive without expectations, wouldn't they end up dead sooner or later? And I dont understand why the word forced was used? Well expectations are never forced. A person is always free to not fulfill expectations and simply walk away. Who is forcing them to conform and how is such force applied?

@Heart of Space oh wow that's good.

@Harlen Kelly how can wanting a deep emotional connection be a selfish expectation? What kind of a bond holds two people together and if it's so temporary that they simply forget each other then how fickle is that bond? Where is the place for deep emotions in such a relationship? Deep emotions don't end abruptly. And in the absence of such emotions, how can such a bond be called love? Emotions exist for a reason and when emotions are involved, it's natural for such emotions to crave a lasting connection. I fail to see selfishness in this. It's like saying loving your blood is selfish. But all wonderful relationships whether it's blood relationships or friendships are rooted in loyalty. Without loyalty how can a bond even exist? Without loyalty or emotions, which relationship has truly made any sense? Then it would be pure hedonism. In fact I see the opposite. I see pure selflessness in wanting to be someone's companion forever or in being a loyal friend. Because it takes a lot to commit someone If people didn't value commitment, the word loyalty or marriage would cease to exist.

@Peter Miklis I mean obviously the girl can enjoy the short time that she gets to spend with the guy, especially the sexual attraction phase which is very strong in the beginning few weeks, if the girl doesn't keep expectations of an emotional commitment, yet the problem is that girls need emotional connection, they (or at least girls like me ) find it difficult to be attracted to a guy who is not giving the vibes of commitment, so the attraction to a guy is not only sexual but also emotional, and this is picked by the guy, so he isn't hesitant in playing her emotions because that's the way he is going to get her attention, but once he spends sexual time with her, he knows in his mind that he is fooling her but he wants his chance with her anyway, he also knows that he doesn't want anything long term with her, not just her any other girl as well, because the likes the fun of sexual chemistry and attraction and once that is achieved, he quickly abandons. However the girl faces a dilemma. Whether to continue to want to have sex with this dude, especially if he is too hot to resist sexually and romantically, or forget him because of his lack of commitment and look for a guy who is more committed even if he is not attractive. It's the the brain enjoys the attraction game he plays yet the heart is not impressed, even disgusted at such games. But the mind craves the chemistry he creates. It's like the body produces chemicals for the guy when he is around and without much effort yet the heart says no to such hurtful games, but the mind finds it hard to resist the sexual attraction. Of course the girl can enjoy it temporarily as long as this seductive player guy gives her sex. Or she can decide to move on. It's a battle between the heart and sexual chemicals. What is healthy for her in this situation?

@Peter Miklis he wants the "high" of winning a person, attracting them, achieve sex/sexual pleasure arising from this attraction and then when it's achieved, leave. Just attracting and seducing some girl for enjoying the "high" of winning or conquest and then being bored after sexual encounters. But making promises of forever Love, yet lacking emotional commitment, Just wanting to game in the name of love and enjoying trapping the girl's heart.

@Peter Miklis abandoning after sex(once or after multiple times).

They have a deep meaning. Very useful

@Myioko thank you so much for your comment. It fills me with joy. I love making up characters. They make me happy and keep me entertained and keep my creative juices flowing. I haven't seen the 1930s version but I'll check it out. The first one and the only one that I watched was this Cannon Movie Tales version that came on my cable network in 2005. I grew up watching old stuff because my cheap cable tv would only show me old things at a low cost. I love the theater dramatic mood of old times because that looks more artistic to me than modern day movies and shows. I love old vintage Indian songs and I'm glad you love them. I tend to post them a lot. It takes me to another world that is hard to find today in my age group. I even like vintage Hollywood. Gone with the Wind was my favourite movie. Watched it nearly 17 times, the role of Scarlet O'Hara. Yet not enough. People laugh at me when I talk about old things because they don't relate to it anymore. But I tend to embrace all the old stuff because it has a certain spirit and grace to it. I don't exactly need an illustration right now but if I need I'll ask right away. I have a deep admiration for your art and illustration and you do a wonderful job. I enjoy looking at your intricate work But if you enjoy doing artwork on my stuff, please do so in your journals and I'd love to see lt. It'll inspire me to shape my characters and add more details to them. Do it as you please and add your own fun and creativity to them so I can harvest some creativity from your illustrations for my work, I'd be very happy Thank you for your kind comment and you're always free to use any of my stuff for your illustrations and journals, it always makes me happy that someone is liking and enjoying my stuff. Love ya.