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@StarStruck There's a difference between being an arrogant dickhead and being a complete asshole. I hope you don't mean the latter. Being a bit punky and a bit rough and tumble is good around women, they see it as macho, women have been conditioned through years of survival and social conditioning to consider such men as protective and strong. Women want a strong man to complement them. It's how their brains are wired. They see strength in an arrogant guy. A tough guy both physically and mentally is a good catch. But remember that this is just a vibe required to attract her. In other words don't take your acting too far. You can easily become unattractive if you get on her wrong side. If you act too detached or say the wrong things, then she is offended and walks off. You need a delicate balance. You don't want to give her the vibe that you will be another wrong guy in a relationship. She wants to feel protected not defeated. So don't try to defeat her. Play the game where you act like you don't care too much but then give her the chance to feel like you care about her, at the same time not simping her too much. Don't constantly whet her interest. But don't be ignorant about what women dislike. Don't be triggering or passive aggressive. Many men get this technique very wrong and end up acting very passive aggressive leading to war and the woman unimpressed. Things that can help you Have an independent life Have a purpose greater than a woman Don't simp Show confidence Be generous. Invite. Don't hold back on showing praise or affection Give limited time. Show that you care Have boundaries Don't show neediness right away Show you are secure Don't say offensive things Be gentle polite but not timid Show containment Give space and freedom No possessiveness. No begging Show that you can provide Build chemistry Build polarity Show that you are safe

I keep going in the left direction. I finally come across a narrow path that leads to a gate.

I finish eating breakfast. I go back to my room, still uncertain how this place is going to be. What does Rosa want from me? Then out of nowhere I hear a loud thunder, so loud it almost shakes my bed. How could Rosa be so merciless? I just can't receive any news about Liz because there's no network. I'm thinking of an escape plan. What if I simply disappear? What if I run away and keep running till I reach Liz's house? I slowly open the door and look at the right and to the left, there's no one looking at me or watching me, Rosa seems to be sitting near the fireplace. I can see her through the window pane I slowly open the door of the main room where Rosa is sitting next to the fireplace I look at her. She is asleep in the chair. I am thinking to myself that this is probably my best chance to get away. I slowly open the door that suddenly makes a creaking sound, omg, what have I done? Will she wake up? I look directly at her, fear on my face, she is still asleep.. I leave the door ajar and run to the nearest pole or tree I hide behind the dead tree. Then I slowly tread through the snow and keep running slowly. I keep running and running. It is extremely tiring. I might collapse. I'm just so tired. I see a lane towards the left. There's not much snow in that direction. Is this the direction I should take? I'm scared. I look behind me to see if someone Was following me.. There's no one. I decide to keep running in the left direction.

@Andrew John Yea you can cut off with him. Whats the point of keeping things with him anyway if he is not going to change. He also comes across as a person who would bother others with his issues. Not a good company. Cut his drama out of your life completely. I had a person like that in my life who was constantly dragging me into his drama, he would not see his child and complain about his ex non stop till it became a headache to deal with him and his constant whining and to make matters worse, his ex was nothing like what he described, she was a hard worker who was raising his child all alone and was a good mother. I was constantly being dragged into it by expecting me to help him, I also helped him many many times, but I got frustrated and tired He wouldn't change his attitude and it was getting increasingly difficult to keep dealing with his lack of responsibility and general disrespect for everything. He was a great inconvenience to the point where I was thinking whether to even continue talking to him It was a huge lesson in the end to not invite such people into your life because they make your life really difficult. I had to let him go and I feel extremely free and happy after letting him go

@Andrew John yippy Glad you liked.

Shows how they survive and use their intelligence and instinct to battle a series of challenges to survival. Through thick and thin.

@kras @kras Try to get supportive friends. If he is constantly criticizing you, then it will impact your mental health. You can always make better friends. Don't break up with him because this might just be his bad habit. But if it affects you mentally then try making better friends. Talk to him only occasionally.

I have the intent but not the delivery

Yea that makes a lot of sense. Intent, appearance and delivery

I'm curious about it. Leo, do you eat from your local market or some special kind of organic chicken?

Intent.... Might not be good at delivery . Delivery Appearance... People good at this tend to master delivery. Delivery is good but content is lacking. Those who are good at intent as well as delivery are perfect. Their intent is reflected in their content. In effect, their delivery will have impactful content. Those who are good with intent but lacking in delivery will be unable to make an impact because they will be too lame or limited. Hence they will be ignored. Imagine the example that I provide now. Think of a truck a small truck that is transporting heavy logs necessary to build a house. The truck is constantly getting stuck in a series of ditches or puddles. When the truck is stuck for the first time, person A wants to push the truck really hard and has the intention to help people with this dilemma. Yet cannot get it done because person A is too weak to push this small truck out of the ditch. Person B comes and helps with pushing the truck and gets it out of the ditch. Everyone thanks person B and praises are showered on person B. Person C is watching and observing from the side. The truck again gets stuck in another ditch. This time person B tries to push hard. Person C joins person B immediately and places their hands on the truck to push it but actually does not exert any energy. The truck is actually being pushed by person B yet it gives the appearance that both are pushing it. The truck is finally out of the ditch and both person B and C are showered with praise although person C was simply mimicking the the behavior of person B to get praise. When the truck gets stuck again in a very small puddle, person C thinks that this is the right opportunity to brag. They immediately push the truck when even a slight push would pull the truck out of the puddle, thus it wasn't hard at all yet person C gets praised and appreciated for virtually nothing. The truck is stuck one more time and this time it is a big ditch. This time two people would be needed. Person C can sense this challenge and backs off by giving some excuse of an emergency.. Person A comes forward to offer help yet they just can't push it. Finally person C pushes the truck successfully out of the ditch with great effort Person A is about intent Person B is about intent and delivery Person C is about pretense and appearance Person B is rightfully credited. Person A is never credited Person C is wrongfully credited.

@LastThursday thank you so much for the kind comment. It means a lot.

This video though.

I need a gigaton of Motivation Support Encouragement Energy Inspiration Affirmation Stimulation

Ahahahahahaha. Neither is selfishness. You underestimate selfishness.

@Blacksheep this is just the beginning of how I express myself. And I'm also a noob when it comes to internet communities. This is my first ever full blown experience of being online. I was never online before joining this forum I have no social media, I'm just not an internet or social person. The only place I ever felt where I could be truly be myself was my journals. I thought of foraying into the forum at some point and got burned badly. Now I'm in recovery phase by Excessively venting myself about myself in this place. Venting helps a great deal. It removes all the pent up angst building inside. In 6 months from hence, I'll be completely transformed as a person. I'll Come out stronger and better and much less attached. I know I have it in me. I have shown major transformations in my life at every curve. I'm highly mutant and volatile. I'm still learning a lot about internet exchange. I will vigorously outgrow this and come out a better person in the end. Thanks.

I've been variously echoing this sentiment for a long time now.

The egoic responses aren't worth my time or my curiosity to learn more things. My curiosity is wasted here. My curiosity is branded as attention seeking. I'm branded a rebel for just speaking openly. I'm an outspoken person, yet I always thought this place would be far more welcoming to outspoken people. Yet I'm baffled by how this place is so strictly conformist. It shuts you down if you have a different opinion than the crowd. Maybe the social aspect kills all development

Especially on the internet, interactions especially if you are a woman, and especially if you are a woman from a third world country. Men tend to respond to you with bias all the time. I wasn't very aware of social realities before.

Most people just respond egoically.

@Peter Miklis there is no misconception. I already know that. My point though was that men are more sexually anxious than women will ever be. The difference in proportion is huge and the difference is biological. No amount of social conditioning can inhibit natural instincts to a great degree. It is impossible to think that a woman's behavior is all socially regulated, much of the behaviors of both men and women has a lot to do with biology, and as seen in nature, females only want sex during a limited period of time when they're in heat, and males seem to experience much more sexual anxiety and aggression and this translates for humans as well.

Do males experience sexual anxiety when they can't get a girlfriend or can't get sex? Just asking out of general curiosity. And if men do experience this anxiety, what are the symptoms and how does it manifest? Does it lead to intense cravings to watch porn? What exactly happens to men when they can't get a girlfriend?

The negative self needs to die, the positive self needs to re-emerge.

A friend of mine here gave me some very useful advice. I never looked at it this way. It was an eye opener.

I don't believe this is the real explanation or causation. Women don't reject just because they get sex so easily. Would women be any different if it was harder to get sex. Nope. Women just don't feel the way men do and availability and non availability has nothing to do with it. In fact it's harder for women to get high quality men, if they only wanted sex then they would have gone along with whoever, but that's not the case, so this means biologically women aren't necessarily thinking only about sex and not as frequently as men and also this is not because they can get sex easily, they just don't want it to be this easy. Its well implied by the nature of how men and women coexist and how we don't have incel groups for women, it's evident that a woman's agenda is not about having only sex or having too much sex, their agenda is to create quality relationships, that's why you have the highest number of female prostitutes, but very few male prostitutes, women aren't sexually as desperate and so they experience much lesser anxiety or sexual agitation than men, this is just biological and hormone related, obviously nature can't afford to make a woman sexually aggressive, it wouldn't fit her agenda because most women have a limited reproductive span, it would be unwise for a woman to constantly be in heat, with a few children, her reproductive energy immediately depletes and so the drive for sex is really not biologically driven anymore, biologically a woman can't afford to be hyper sexual or aggressively sexual because she has to conserve her limited potential when it comes to sex and reproduction and family making, she won't be making a hundred families, so the only one family she is hoping to create should turn out successful and reliant, so she puts all her energy into the man she is with to make it work with the aspirations that it would last a lifetime. This means her sexual agenda is very different from that of a man who loves spreading as many seeds as he can and his sexual Agenda is more about maximizing his sexual worth, whereas hers is of maximizing sustainability with a high value male, that's why women read books on how to keep a husband/marriage whereas men read books on how to get more women. So the whole sexual anxiety and frustration part is very much applicable to men and this is not a social thing, but is driven biologically.