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You have to understand that it's consensual. So there is no violation of boundaries. The turn on factor is the feeling of being dominated just like in BDSM. Safety can be an issue and so I wouldn't recommend playing out these fantasies with a stranger but with someone who is in an intimate relationship because they can keep it safe if they're the kind of people who you can trust . This fantasy is found regardless of whether the person has trauma or not. So it has no correlation to trauma. It is simply a domination fetish. Why does it always have to be some victimhood bullshit, when it's a woman's turn to experience pleasure ? Why can't a woman experience pleasure guilt free without being shamed or made to feel like she is doing something wrong when she is simply enjoying the experience ? Is a woman's experience of pleasure so threatening to you ?

When I felt unconditional love, it was extreme suffering. Love itself is suffering.. Love is the highest form of suffering. It's like the suffering of Christ

@Parththakkar12 I have really no idea who coined the term rape Fantasy.. However I don't see a problem because that's exactly what it is, it's a fantasy about rape. So that's what it has to be called. Although it seems uncomfortable, but one has to accept that this is an uncomfortable aspect of female sexuality. Despite that, one can always choose to not stigmatize it

I have lived in other countries and cultures as well. Attractive men are everywhere. You're funny when you say western guys are shy. That's not true at all. I have been approached by men from different cultures and none of them were shy. A lot of times when I was approached, I was at some party, but you have to understand that shy guys won't come to such parties. And in general shy guys hesitate to approach girls because they lack confidence to do so. And it's difficult with shy guys. I rarely ever interacted with them and when I did, it always ended in him saying a few words and the conversation not going anywhere. And I'm a shy girl myself so I'm less likely to push a conversation. However confident and shy men, both are found in all cultures. This is absolutely false. Just like you get rejected a lot or it doesn't work out, similarly it's a falsehood to believe that it's easy to find a good guy. It's not easy at all. Most guys who approach are not only confident, often this confidence comes with some cockiness and a slew of other traits that are not desirable in a relationship. A lot of these guys are players because they have practiced approaching a lot and used similar tricks with other women. Searching for a good guy in such men is like looking for a needle in a haystack. You're trying to dismiss challenges of the female POV. This is not true. In reality anybody can be attractive. I have seen women with kind husbands and I never thought that their husbands were unattractive. Nope. They're just misconstrued because they don't fit into male agenda. I think Consciousness also creates a certain wisdom. I'm not attracted to bad men and I'm sure lot of women aren't. It's hard to find conscious people especially in the area of dating, irrespective of gender.

I'm always struggling to incorporate Stage Orange into my life. Stage Green comes pretty easy to me. Never had issues with that. But Stage Orange has always been a bit thorny for me. Maybe the deal will sweeten for me a bit if I'm more aware of the advantages of stage Orange. For some reason Stage Orange is the hardest for me I feel very comfy at Stage Green and I've easily assimilated a lot of Stage Green values into my life. I love embodying Stage Green. In fact Stage Green is my damn favourite. However Stage Orange is always sticking up like a thorn. I need to slowly soak in stage Orange little by little. I cannot think of the top of my head any important advantages of Stage Orange other than basic things like discipline and work ethic/ambition etc. I really wanna know more. Would really appreciate if you can list some benefits/advantages of Healthy Stage Orange !

Yup.

Thank you. I also believe the same principle about giving and needing. You're right that both sides have to be fulfilled in their needs. It shouldn't be one sided otherwise it's not a relationship. I like how you described it. Exactly my point.

I believe your fingers look like tentacles of sea anemone.

I can't blame you

Yes please I vote.

No. healthy conscious women choose healthy Conscious men. Who is stopping you ? If a woman wants to be with a good man, her choice. If you want to be with many girls, your choice. Stating my choice is a problem? Conscious women are attracted to kind men. You can't decide what someone is attracted to .. nobody stops you from attracting who you want to attract

It's only useless if you automatically assume that all guys struggle with attraction. I dated guys who never struggled with attraction. They don't even have a single pick up book/ course. They don't even know the word pick up. You make it sound like pickup is default. It's a niche. It's meant for men who struggle, not for all men I have been approached numerous times. And I can tell from personal experience that there are tons and tons of charming guys . It's difficult to be a woman because I have to control myself and reject them. Otherwise there is no shortage of attractive men. They aren't good guys and so I don't want them. Yet they look attractive and act charming. But that's not what I want so I have to reject. There is no shortage of players in the market. And they easily get girls . So if you ask them, attraction is not at all hard. Well depends on a person's experience. For some people attraction is easy . No you do need. If you don't know how to get a girl in the first place, you surely won't know how to keep a girl if you never had a relationship. Talking about relationships without experience is like talking about poverty while being rich I never said that. There is no harm in saying what a healthy relationship entails. This forum is not just for men. It's also for women. Have you ever cared to think that I'm simply presenting female POV and that it might not have anything to do with male pickup strategies ? This is not an exclusive male pickup forum, it's called a dating forum where both male and female POV can be presented..Also the thread is not about male pickup , it's not titled that, I didn't have you or pickup in mind while making this thread. Understand that.. How does talking about my agenda means I'm shaming your agenda ? Where did I say that men shouldn't do pickup ? I'm talking about how women experience men in dating. Don't twist my words only to say something that doesn't make sense Nobody was shamed unless you want to make it look that way Guys can get what they want. I never told men that they shouldn't want to be with women they want to be with. I'm not targeting guys. I'm saying why are you showing me what's not relevant to me or my thread. I'm not a pickup guy. This thread is not even about pickup..I'm not calling guys out, so they don't need to care. If you guys care only about pick up then my thread is not for them and they should be giving their time to pickup threads

The holocaust is real.

The real question is- Do you really need Leo to tell you if the holocaust happened ? You people watch Leo like republicans watch Fox News

All this RSD bullshit might work for sex But am I talking about sex ? Then why show me this ? Yea female POV for relationships. But not female POV for sex.. You can use whatever RSD POV if that's helping you get sex. Sex is not my agenda. I'll only talk about agenda that matters to me. My advice is never on how to get a person. It's always on how to keep a relationship. So my advice is irrelevant to you. Again. My advice is for men who want to have a beautiful relationship with a healthy conscious woman who wants to receive a good man I'm not a pickup teacher.

Well depends on who you wanna date. If guys were liking golddiggers, should I turn into a golddigger to impress men ? Absolutely not Self esteem lesson 101 is to do what feels right and not give into peer pressure. I'm not a penguin to follow other Penguins. I got brains. I can think. So if a guy is not interested in me, I'm completely fine but I'm not going to reduce my value for him. Similarly guys who want to date unhealthy unconscious women who like dating jerks and fools, well I say goodluck with that Don't complain later that she dumped for another ruthless guy.

That's a shitty video created by some guy who is into brainwashing people. I swear guys like you simply feed on videos and make your judgements The only way you understand female psychology is by having relationships with multiple women.. You can't sit in your bedroom and preach what women want Go talk to women, have relationships. Then let's talk.. Till then you're simply believing some YouTube manufactured story You're clueless about"real" female sexuality.

Only girls who are not conscious

That's not a definition of a nice guy. It's a definition of a good guy. A man who a woman desires. However you think that a woman doesn't want that ? Then you know nothing about female sexuality. Or you are dealing with serious toxic women who accept toxic men.

Good to know but I'm kinda surprised it took you years. Maybe you have been washed a bit too much, you look cleaner than a car at a car wash ! Take it as a compliment because you look cute

I ain't dreaming shit. I don't need male agenda served as truth'. I'm my own woman.

I don't agree with this. Also i don't absolutely see anything wrong with having a set of traits that you desire in a partner. Everyone does that. In fact it's quite healthy to know what you want When it comes to attracting a partner, I don't think I attract myself, it's more like who I allow in my life and that would very much depend on what boundaries I set for myself. And if I even know what sort of boundaries I must have. It will also depend on how well I screen a person and how much I know about red flags and green flags. Some women attract a horrible partner because they just aren't aware of red flags or how to.spot them However this does not mean that they have attracted a horrible or insincere person because they are insincere, it's because they just don't know better.

That's a very unhealthy perspective and using words like fluff and fairy tale is adding additional layers to this perspective Of course relationship is a Selfish need. But even this selfish need can be practiced Consciously. Fulfilling one's desires should not come at the cost of toxic behaviour and at the expense of someone else. One can fulfill one's desires meanwhile also fulfilling the other person's Desires as well. Fulfilling one's own desires needs and yet depriving the other of their needs by grossly neglecting them is the most unconscious way of handling one's needs.

My God When a woman is not stating boundaries, she has low self esteem and doesn't have boundaries,she is attracting assholes. When a woman is stating boundaries, she is being too strict. When a woman is not being specific about what she wants, DON'T LISTEN TO WOMEN BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT. when a woman states her wants specifically, omg she wants too much !!!!! I guess can't win with men.