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@Marcel

@Marcel

@Marcel Honey I love this art. I want to. Try this sometimes.

@Marcel

Nobody is perfect. Embrace the good, leave out the bad.

https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/how-much-do-you-love-your-partner His result showed he loved me for my sexual attributes. My result was I love him for money. Very absurd results because there was not a single question on sex or money. Hehe. https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/who-loves-more-quiz

https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/do-we-have-a-real-chemistry-quiz Our chemistry was compared to a gay couple. He got the same result. Lmao https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/am-i-happy-in-my-relationship-quiz The result said that I'm not happy in my relationship. But I'm perfectly happy in my relationship. Absurd test. https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/am-i-a-dominant-or-submissive-personality-quiz Marcel got the same result that he is submissive.

https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/couples-quiz-how-well-do-you-know-your-partner Marcel got the same result. Yay

Taking these tests. https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/how-much-do-you-love-your-partner https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/who-loves-more-quiz https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/am-i-a-dominant-or-submissive-personality-quiz https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/am-i-happy-in-my-relationship-quiz https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/couples-quiz-how-well-do-you-know-your-partner https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/do-we-have-a-real-chemistry-quiz

@Marcel Today is September 26. And you told me that you have been feeling better and stable in the last 3 days. Thank you for letting me know I'm just recording this.

At last moving on.....

One cardinal rule that I want to follow in my life is to never judge a book by its cover. Some people appear sweet but stab you from the back Some people appear rough and rude and unpleasant but they have a golden heart and a soft core. The other thing that I learned is that the simplest people are the best people. In order to understand the intricacies of life, one has to study the human mind. The human mind is always attracted to wrong things. We are attracted to junk food instead of healthy food. It takes a lot of mind training and Consciousness training to start liking healthy things. Similarly we are always attracted to something more different, unique, wilder and adventurous As a result we're naturally drawn to complicated people. This is a scam. Complicated people no matter how interesting they appear, can be downright dangerous to be around. They can mess with your brain to a degree where you reach a point of no return. This phenomenon is usually observed with cult leaders. People are fascinated by their charm and unique complexity of character. This is just our brain on opioid. In reality there is nothing fascinating about them. They do more harm than good. Yet they present themselves as charming and attractive. Our brain cannot resist this kind of charm. Our brain is not trained to like simple things. This is how people get addicted to toxic people, just like they get addicted to junk food People find simple people boring. But in reality you will feel much better around simple folks. They might not be charming like narcissists yet they are not going to play mind games with you. If you are dealing with a complicated person, it usually doesn't end well. It's the price you pay for the adventure. Their complex behavior will eventually ruin your psychologically and that's not easy to deal with. It's like playing with fire. You will get burned one way or another. It's not worth it in the end.

Emotional osmosis is a good way of defining the way I used to act in the past. I used to literally absorb other's pain, sometimes even fake pain. They were people who would beg me for money And later I would find out they were scammers and they never needed the money. Your advice is correct. One shouldn't absorb Like a sponge. I feel it's important to assess one's empathetic score to evaluate one's personality and avoid being exploited in the future. Once you are aware that you are an empath, it makes things easier for you. I recommend this idea. Every psychologist should carry an empathy screening tests on clients. The ones with high scores need to be trained to use their empathy wisely and should undergo a rigorous training program in boundary enforcement. This will protect them from future exploitation. In my personal experience working with other empaths, I found similar stories of exploitation and abuse where their own empathy was weaponized against them I wish more empaths took screening tests for empathy and appropriate measures for self protection since empaths are highly likely to be exploited by scammers, cheaters, psychopaths, narcissists, sociopaths and all sorts of energy vampires and vultures. An empath is like a blood soaked sardine to a shark. Narcissists and sociopaths can smell an empath from a hundred miles away.

@Nos7algiK if you are being empathetic to others the one thing I can suggest is to have an exclusive list of personal boundaries and enforce them strictly. Often as an empath, my biggest struggle was attracting energy vampires who would constantly feed on my energy almost trying to destroy me for their gain in the name of asking for empathy I remember a discussion with a member on the forum a few months back where they gave me an important oversight. They told me that I was being foolish empath by trying to help any Tom Dick and Harry. They told me about the concept of the Wise Empath. Which means helping only those who genuinely deserve help and not get exploited by people who predate on your energy. It's difficult and you need a tough screening filter and a whole set of tough boundaries, that's your arsenal. It's like if you have decided to be an empath or worker, carry a flask with you.. And a flashlight. In my past I often helped the wrong kind of people. Who drained my empathy or used me for their purpose. Because of this, when I saw people who genuinely needed help, I was completely drained by that point and unable to help. If you are an empath, the world becomes extra difficult because of these challenges. So in order to not be drained, be on the look out to remove and cut off people who drain you so you are left with enough energy to Help those who genuinely deserve help. This is something all empaths should keep in mind. The biggest challenge for an empath is that they feel they should stop being an empath because they are hit with negative experiences. The wisdom here is not to stop being an empath. But to use your empathy as a precious asset to be used carefully and wisely. There is no need to stop being an empath. You should invent smarter and better and more efficient ways of being an empath. There is a definitely way around this problem without cutting on empathy.

Well if hunger strike worked, I would be glad. But sadly a bunch of people starving themselves doesn't warm cold hearts. Even though I'm a stage Green person who believes in activism, by witnessing things in my own country, I have realized that Stage Green is seen weak and wimpy. In such situations, I feel that you need stage Red. You can't meet fierce with timid. You have to be gentle yet you have to be a gentle giant. This reminds me of BLM protesters and burning in the streets.

Empathy is to show empathy for an empathetic perspective but in the same breath condemn that which lacks empathy. If someone is being judgemental of a fat kid, me condemning the person is not being judgemental but Me showing empathy for the fat person. When you point fingers at others, don't be surprised if the finger points right back at you to show you what you are lacking, because it's the most empathetic act to point out the lack of empathy. There are two perspectives here. Learn to accept both. I'm not trying to be some Hero so stop the Reverse moralization Some people do acts of charity and empathy because they want to genuinely help others but some do it for egoic reasons. When you don't know what the real motive is and you go about accusing a person of acting out of ego even when they are being genuine then learn to admit that it could be only your projection instead of being high and mighty about your perspective just because you're being critical.. I have noticed this tendency in people that when a person says they are a psychopath, people tend to empathize with that person. But when a person says that they are an empath, they try to bring that person down. If you think that a psychopath deserves your empathy, then why shouldn't an empath deserve your empathy? Why should we slander, misjudge and condemn those we know nothing about? What are we trying to overcompensate in this pathetic witch hunt?

Because it's triggering you so much and because you aren't ready to accept a more Empathetic perspective. You are being judgemental of people who could be simply trying to be themselves yet in your eyes they must still have some hidden motive or agenda or want to do it only for selfish reasons, smacks of your own insecurities. Take blinders off.

It's good to see that they are at least aware of the fact the climate is facing a huge threat from our actions. I'm not sure if hunger strike works. But if too many people get behind the wheel and stop corporations and big money spenders from harming the environment, then we can anticipate a change.

@Nos7algiK you are stretching this way too far. This could be your own shadow and insecurity. Someone just wants to take the test not for validation but to get to know themselves better. I don't see any problem with it The only kind of people who will have a problem with such little things are those who are extremely closed minded.. Maybe not think about every little from an egoic perspective. It might say more about the person holding this view than the people it's projected upon.

@MuadDib it's only an insecure mind that always tries to either defeat or super impose instead of trying to truly understand. Men who think they are only getting better with age are the same ones who end up miserable in the end (personal experience and time tested)

On a Self development forum, people are so triggered/threatened by the word empathy. What does that really say? There is no ego jerking when you are simply trying to know yourself well.

@MuadDib or maybe it is so so wrong and so different from her experience that she feels revolted and gives a reaction.

What does this mean?

@Marcel I love you.