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Well whatever factors I stated were already a significant contribution to his feelings of misery. If I had his childhood I would have offed myself at 16 probably.. Given his circumstances he was pretty bold to have taken so much. It's not easy to deal with what he went through. Especially he was very small when he developed hate towards his father. That never ends well. His childhood was a total mockery and failure on the part of his dad. I don't think he was born this way. But he was gradually set up to become a psychopath. I talk about secondary psychopathy in my journals where people with unstable emotions when driven to the edge can cause massive disaster. Another case I studied was Jodi Arias I see similarities in both cases. These people turned into time bombs because of their upbringing and their volatile emotionality constantly being exploited and targeted resulting into setting off of the time bomb inside. I don't think these are bad people. They are simply like a volatile inflammable liquid.. And if you strike a matchstick in front of an inflammable liquid, you can't expect anything short of a disastrous crime. These are not crimes for money. These are crimes driven by extreme sentiment or emotions, crimes of passion.

I smell good. Like I have a pleasant floral woody turmeric scent to my skin. Just naturally. Yesterday at the bank some random woman told me that I smell really good and I didn't have any deospray or perfume on. But I want to smell better when I am outside because my smell is not strong enough. I have tried perfumes but that's a lot of harsh chemicals. I want something natural and mild. So i decided to get some talc and sandalwood soap and some natural perfume. I don't want Deo spray at all. I got myself the following products Ponds Dreamflower Yardley Lavender Sandalwood soap Enchanteur Enticing perfume I had got this perfume last year that I barely used and I'm so obsessed with it. It's literally the only thing I ever want.. It's called Enchanteur Enticing.

I have studied the whole Elliot Rodger case in depth during my criminal psychology case study last year. And I read his manifesto. It is noteworthy reading it. What I discovered is that he has been branded wrong since his death and much of the details regarding his life and death have been heavily obfuscated by the notorious media. If you care to look deep enough, he did not kill only women, as was the interpretation of the silly media. He killed men as well. He had a lot of resentment built up inside and this resentment came from multiple psychological factors in his immediate environment. For this you need to explore his childhood snaps, there is a certain innocence in his eyes and he was a pretty good kid. There was absolutely nothing suspicious about him. He was partly Asian and that heavily showed up in his appearance. He was hard working and he had great writing skills and pretty good grasp of the world even at the age of 18. You have to understand that this Elliot as a kid had been put through a nightmare. He wasn't raised as some rich spoiled prince as many people would like to believe, and this was the media narrative back then that he was some kind of a obnoxious privileged prince whose parents lavished him with gifts and stuff like cars etc. If you scratch the surface and do a deep study underneath all the media bullshit the way i did, you will see a completely different person. He wanted a great life. He wasn't lazy either. But his parents divorced when he was just 7 years old and barely able to process it. His father had another girlfriend, a pretty Moroccan woman, right after the divorce, not even 1 week into the divorce. His father literally pushed out the mother from his life by alienating mother and son completely from his life. I would say that the father is totally selfish and narcissist and he played this cruel game and sort of got rid of them. They were literally treated like an outcast. He had bought a small house for his ex wife and he wouldn't check on them. He was quite ruthless. He would even tell his son that he was good for nothing.. Elliot grew up under the shadow of his dad, he had no navigation tool to understand things, his self worth was deliberately sabotaged by his asshole father.. His father would tell him to get out of the house whenever he came to visit him. His step mom, the new actress wife of the father was very brutal. There's not a single picture that woman shared with Elliot. She always made Elliot feel like the "unwanted child," but pretended to be nice in public. I also went through the private email exchanges between father and son and it is apparent that the father was not very keen on helping his son financially when the son is just a teenager. He simply wanted to discard him and he sent him away to university in a bid to be as far away from him as possible Elliot was regularly harassed, bullied for being an Asian teen and made fun of. Food was thrown at his face, I mean you can't imagine something worse, he faced a barrage of racial bullying and harassment and Isolation by the people who were studying with it. He was being literally set up to turn into a ticking time bomb. Plus these teens were wealthy teens. They could afford lavish cars and flaunt their wealth and get girlfriends who would only date rich guys. Elliot felt ignored and humiliated by their display of wealth. Elliot also wanted the same stuff they had. He was beginning to feel like a pariah and nobody wanted to talk to him. He hasn't received a hug from his dad for many many years. The dad was always busy with his career like a typical narcissistic parent who don't spend time with their kids. Elliot hated his Asian roots because he was subjected to so much racial humiliation by his environment that he began to develop a sort of self hate towards his own race, which is quite understandable because he was never appreciated for being an Asian, in fact he was mocked and ridiculed. All of these factors transpired into turning him into a ticking time bomb. When he saw other guys get girls he was hurt because he wanted that happiness for himself, I don't think this makes him an incel, he saw simply an average teen looking for love, pretty much like anyone else. The media dubbed him as an incel. Inside he was a ticking time bomb because there was so much pain inside of him waiting to release in dramatic ways. He could not get a job because he did not have the skills for it, he was plainly unlucky and he made mistakes like any other teenager and foolishly spent his money on lottery tickets. His father wasn't ready to help him financially anymore so Elliot knew in his mind that the future was not looking good. He could not deal with the shame that he would be considered a loser meanwhile his peers will get a great job and girlfriends and wives and he will be doing nothing. This made him very frustrated and desperate and the lack of love in his life made him feel a sense of derision towards humanity. Remember that nobody showed him love, as an Asian struggling among white teens, he felt unwanted, abandoned, inferior and ignored. He did not feel accepted wherever he went. So he decided that if he had to leave the world, he would make an impact in whatever way he could, although that wasn't healthy, but he had to throw his anger at the world. I think that his crime and his subsequent suicide were all a very big cry for help. It didn't have much to do with girls as much as his void created by his bullying narcissistic father and a loveless step mom, a helpless poor mother and not having any source of love and encouragement from anyone at all and being treated like a loser by his spoiled rich colleagues who would look down on him. This case was way more complicated with significant factors responsible for his psyche and the resultant tragedy than how the media portrayed him and his actions after his death. It is shameful that nobody wanted to hear his story. His manifesto was never discussed. He was given no dignity at all. And I do see a whole racial component to this tragedy.

Venting about my neighbor So there is this neighbor of mine who is like a block away from my building. This person invites his friends every weekend and throws a party where they all get drunk and start acting weird and stuff. I mean I have no problem with whatever they choose to do with their life, that's their private business of how they choose to spend their weekend. But this person plays the music super loud throughout the night on every Friday, Saturday and Sunday night. And they keep laughing loudly and say some absurd shit that I can't figure out because of the loud music. Now people in my neighborhood have raised complaints against their behavior because it disturbs sleep. It has disturbed my sleep on several occasions. It's impossible to tolerate this kind of nonsense. I mean a person can have fun in whatever ways they prefer but not super loud music in the night. Its Damn annoying..

Reading Leo's comments actually tells me that Leo is not as developed as much as he pretends to be Today a lot of women attacked Leo in the dating section. I think it served a good purpose It might awaken him and make him realize that his views about women can raise eyebrows and that he isn't being genuinely compassionate towards Women with his language Time for Leo to grow up.. And I constantly feel Like Leo is simply fronting development. It's a facade to me. A user here Tangerinedream made a factual post on Leo's vulgar language towards women and his toxic behavior Does Leo really plan on changing or improving his toxic narrative on women? I don't think so.

Rant about Leo's racial condescending nonsense Leo has made an awful lot of disparaging comments in the past about non white people. In fact the non white portion of this intercultural forum has given a lot of attention and respect to Leo to be fair. Yet they get treated like shit most of the time. I have often noticed Leo's comments along the lines of, just some examples of his statements that are mildly objectionable and racist - "I don't date certain races." "if you are a western woman you should be glad that you aren't born in Muslim countries." "I don't make videos for Iraqis." "even a 5'6 indian guy can get laid." " if I travel to certain countries I might get diarrhea." "your country is underdeveloped." The last one is not very racist in my opinion but you kinda get the gist of all these comments, trying to put down other races or treating them as low or inferior. It's kinda reflecting of his condescending and patronizing tone toward other races. This is something that only racially sensitive people can understand.. Also if a white person told me that it's not racist, it's only because they never have to be at the receiving end of such offensive nonsense. Maybe Leo should stop with the vulgar language towards other races He thinks he is a millionaire so I guess he has the privilege to abuse people.

Rant about Leo's racial condescending nonsense. This is not the first time and this won't be the last time that Leo talks about non white people in a condescending tone. I'm not saying that Leo is a racist. But the way he says things about non white people in general is quite condescending, patronizing, sarcastic (in a bad way), racially insensitive, and reflective of an elitist mindset, as though white people are the best and other races are trash?? Reminds me of my ex boyfriend Joseph who would always talk about other races including mine in an appalling manner and I never found the confidence to contradict him or beat him at his game. Such covert condescending behavior is pretty disgusting. And don't ever assume that other races don't notice it.. I have nothing against the white race, but I can't stand being constantly considered inferior just because I'm non white. I have often seen Indians, Asians, Mexicans, Blacks, being constantly stereotyped online and quasi racist trolling directed at them especially by white people just my experience and my ranting. It's hard to be a non white person in the internet world because there is always some white person trying to direct a racial slur or some stupid racial stereotype at you. An example of Leo's condescending tone towards a forum member -

You see. I can be a bit rough when I feel stressed out. And I'm super friendly, loving, supportive when I'm relaxed.

I went outside in the rains right now to get a milkshake. Because I'm so stressed out. Anything dairy helps me to release stress. I used to rely on ice creams to release my stress. Now I'll rely on milkshakes. Ice creams can sometimes make me feel a bit nauseous especially when they stock old ice cream in the store. I don't get fat even if I indulge in comfort eating and that's great. Probably because I'm young and my metabolism works fine. If I continue this habit of comfort eating when I am older, then it might probably start impacting my body. But at least not for now.

At least I can be grateful in the moment that the cat is not around to make creepy noises near my window. I had the misfortune of dealing with the worst cat of my life and the irony is that I am a cat lover and a cat has to be super super annoying to get a cat lover like me pissed.

When I die, the day I die and supposedly Reincarnate, the last thing I will wish for, for my future birth is to be born as the daughter of a mentally ill mother. Nope. Sorry God. That's not the best feeling.

Rant about mentally ill people My mother is a super narcissistic psychopath mentally ill woman. Often times we expect compassion to be shown to mentally ill people. My question is - to what extent are we Really capable of doing this, especially in action and not just words? How convenient is it to tell people to go help mentally ill people? Do you ever account for the struggles that the caregiver goes through while dealing with a mentally ill person or do you simply want to play Saint for egoic reasons??? I have had the misfortune of dealing with a mentally ill family member since the day I was born. Aka my mother She will yell, scream, attack. Bang on the door in the middle of the night and wake me up. This caused me permanent insomnia by the way If I don't open the door, she will scream as loudly as possible for hours. I mean this is what my dad had to deal with. I mean he didn't divorce her. He simply died. That's how he paid the price. The ultimate price of marrying and living with a mentally ill psycho woman. She is pathetic narcissistic bitch who made my life as a child, a living nightmare. And when people tell me to forgive or show compassion, I would say it's easy to say these airy - fairy nonsense impractical things. Come and experience it yourself. And then I'll see how much compassion you can show. Telling others to be compassionate is quite convenient I guess And yes my post is full of sarcasm because life is full of sarcasm and harsh realities.. I don't give a fuck.

Another Example in a similar context is when someone tells you - "hey if you feel anxious or depressed, talk to a therapist." Like so amazing right? We must be living in fairly land where everything gets fixed like magic, why even complain? Do you know how much it costs to attend a therapist in my country. Last time I checked a woman told me that she will take three sessions and charge me $150. No sorry every country doesn't give its citizens the luxury of free therapy as it is in some fairy land western countries like America In my place if you have a mental or psychological issue you better go to Himalayas and live in a cave because your psychologist's bills are going to eat your whole bank account. I have heard about families who lost their entire savings and had to sell off their house because someone in their family was mentally ill, the hospitalization costs were huge, the insurance companies didn't wish to pay for mental issues related Hospitalization. It's that tricky. So when someone says "hey you should visit a therapist," it reminds me of Mary Antoinette Its like telling a hungry person in a third world country like mine, "hey if you are hungry and can't afford bread, then why don't you buy cake." This also happens when Leo tells guys to move to a rich city to find girls. I mean he makes it look like you need to just pack your bags, forget your family or job or any other responsibility and simply move to a place where the rent is sky high and viola!!!!! You will get a girlfriend!! I find it so shallow. How can an average socially awkward guy struggling with life automatically move to the most expensive cities in the world? Just because success came to you, doesn't mean everyone has that luck and luxury. Young people have to deal with a shit ton of anxieties around money, career, relationships and we should be understanding and sympathetic of it. Rather than dismissive.

There are just so many things that I like to get off my chest.. One of those things that I want to vent about is how on this forum people are often told - "hey if your parents are bothering you, just move out." I'm like what????? Yes I get it that moving out looks like a beautiful option. But do you ever realize that we are all young people here in our 20s struggling to have a proper career, confused about life and not having enough hard cash???? Money doesn't grow on trees. You have to work extremely hard for it. And even if you work hard, sometimes you are paid peanuts. We aren't working for 30 years to have savings to move out. Some of us have worked for some years. I worked and I'm still working. Whatever I earned I spent it on my mother's surgery a couple of years ago. So Yea my bank account got empty again. I'm struggling to make money but I'm making enough to afford my own food expenses. Rent is very high in my area. So i won't be able to afford rent in the middle of a city. How convenient is it to simply tell someone to move out? To what extent is this advice truly helpful? Do you consider a person's financial challenges while doling out this kind of advice???? I mean I have often seen people say things like "hey if you can't commute to work by public transport, get a car" It is so absurd.

There are just so many things that I like to get off my chest.. One of those things that I want to vent about is how on this forum people are often told - "hey if your parents are bothering you, just move out." I'm like what????? Yes I get it that moving out looks like a beautiful option. But do you ever realize that we are all young people here in our 20s struggling to have a proper career, confused about life and not having enough hard cash???? Money doesn't grow on trees. You have to work extremely hard for it. And even if you work hard, sometimes you are paid peanuts. We aren't working for 30 years to have savings to move out. Some of us have worked for some years. I worked and I'm still working. Whatever I earned I spent it on my mother's surgery a couple of years ago. So Yea my bank account got empty again. I'm struggling to make money but I'm making enough to afford my own food expenses. Rent is very high in my area. So i won't be able to afford rent in the middle of a city. How convenient is it to simply tell someone to move out? To what extent is this advice truly helpful? Do you consider a person's financial challenges while doling out this kind of advice???? I mean I have often seen people say things like "hey if you can't commute to work by public transport, get a car" It is so absurd. Another Example in a similar context is when someone tells you - "hey if you feel anxious or depressed, talk to a therapist." Like so amazing right? We must be living in fairly land where everything gets fixed like magic, why even complain? Do you know how much it costs to attend a therapist in my country. Last time I checked a woman told me that she will take three sessions and charge me $150. No sorry every country doesn't give its citizens the luxury of free therapy as it is in some fairy land western countries like America In my place if you have a mental or psychological issue you better go to Himalayas and live in a cave because your psychologist's bills are going to eat your whole bank account. I have heard about families who lost their entire savings and had to sell off their house because someone in their family was mentally ill, the hospitalization costs were huge, the insurance companies didn't wish to pay for mental issues related Hospitalization. It's that tricky. So when someone says "hey you should visit a therapist," it reminds me of Mary Antoinette Its like telling a hungry person in a third world country like mine, "hey if you are hungry and can't afford bread, then why don't you buy cake." This also happens when Leo tells guys to move to a rich city to find girls. I mean he makes it look like you need to just pack your bags, forget your family or job or any other responsibility and simply move to a place where the rent is sky high and viola!!!!! You will get a girlfriend!! I find it so shallow. How can an average socially awkward guy struggling with life automatically move to the most expensive cities in the world? Just because success came to you, doesn't mean everyone has that luck and luxury. Young people have to deal with a shit ton of anxieties around money, career, relationships and we should be understanding and sympathetic of it. Rather than dismissive.

@diamondpenguin Yea I have a perfectionist problem. It's super annoying to myself. Hard to make it go away.

I can literally feel the weight of this comment.. This entire comment describes the dating section in a nutshell. I have felt the same way about the dating section for a long time but I couldn't put it in words It's probably the most toxic part in this place. I even struggle to find posts that I can reply to. Some of the posts are so "woman degrading" that I simply have to ignore reading further. hope you understand that I also don’t want to participate in this argument much longer, but aside from all the sexual objectification of women, daily posts diminishing the women’s worth down based solely on her looks, diminishing women’s desire to find love to a “survival agenda” or a “favourite way to survive”, expecting sex just for giving women attention or for minimal effort, glorifying the “minimal effort approach”, demonizing women expecting effort and things in return - she’s leaching off, discussions about hiring hookers as one doesn’t want to deal with “dating bs” just someone to shut up and be fucked, asking “how come women don’t want to say anything on this post” in the post about hiring a prostitute, “chicks” being of low value because they starfish in bed, calling women over 30 who date men in their 20s cougars (aka women over 30 should just retire from dating and start knitting sweaters, it’s ok for 40 year old men to date college girls though), calling tall women giraffes, high lay count for men - excellent, let’s brag about “banging over a 1000 chicks”, high lay count for women - “she’s been run down”, clubbing girls - sluts, women giving dating advice to guys about what they like - they have no clue what they are talking about.. men giving women dating advice, not a single comment about how they don’t know what they are talking about, women who speak against sexist shit - feminazis, women who are not weak and submissive - unfeminine, well there’s many many more, but I’ve been trying not to read those posts though, so I am probably not super up to date. Anything that a woman says or does here is immediately chalked up to her as a survival agenda. Whereas teaching men to do pickup that only suitably serves their own needs is not male survival agenda somehow??? That's the double standards and the hypocrisy in this place. If a man wants things his way, it's not considered survival agenda If a woman things her way, immediately she is told it's survival agenda. Haha pretty convenient I guess.

I'm hit so deeply by these comments. The master knows better what we women want. Again, you might have experience with drunk club girls, but not with mature/developed women. My sexual arousal has a lot to do with logic. Again though a bang is different from a long term relationship….. Meeting financial needs? We’re talking about gestures of love and kindness. Everybody can speak of love and kindness, but not being too stingy to prove it.. ugh that’s a tough one. Every woman loves these gestures of love. Without. Exception. You saying that you let your gf stay over and enjoy your house is basically like me saying I let my bf hold my Gucci bag… as his bday gift lmao. Again, I personally don’t care about what you do and how you date, I worry about you writing all this shit on this forum and enabling the pimply incels to parrot this shit.

@Marcel Your ginger looks at you adorably. I love everything about you.

I want to eat something so I can feel warm.

@RickyFitts I'm doing well. Thank you.

This depends on how you communicate yourself to a woman. If you're able to share your experiences with a woman and your struggles, I'm sure she will appreciate it. Maybe have a positive mindset while approaching women. We tend to mirror the biases we already hold, in other words we're always looking for confirmation bias. But it doesn't always have to be this way. Also a few women don't define all women

I understand what you're trying to say but my point wasn't about looking for quality in a man at his peak point in life and discarding then at their lowest. I have myself dated broke guys seeing the potential in them. You're contradicting yourself. "seeing potential" is only possible if a woman desires good things to come about, a healthy relationship I mean. But to blatantly say that women just don't give a shit about what men do in terms of personal growth is a way of saying that women don't have brains or women don't care about values, it can almost come across as dehumanizing and devaluing women to nothing. Any woman with an iota of wisdom is not going to do that. Most women who have bad experiences with mate selection usually outgrow it at some point. So to paint this picture that women don't use judgement or reasoning in deciding a partner is kinda blatantly disregarding how women truly feel and think.

Can I know where he mentioned this?I haven't been super updated with his latest stuff

Nothing against trying to build skills. But dismissing women's perspectives is not exactly beneficial to women either if the goal is to make women happy. Neither is it a lose lose game if you listen to women. Integrating the feminine experience and viewpoint doesn't exactly degrade a man's masculinity, rather it enriches it.