Preety_India

I want to get back on my feet. Diet, exercise, feel normal again, feel healthy again. This is going to be a long arduous process because half the time im too exhausted and unable to do things.

I got like 6 hours of sleep. Better than a week ago when I slept only for 4 hours. I am still struggling with sleep Today I feel a bit refreshed. So I can get some work done After a long time I feel some energy.

Yup. Totally agree. Such relationships are super unhealthy. Glad I left him. He can find his bitch.

This is something I experienced as well. My ex used to get attracted to bitchy women who would give him a hard time. The attraction stems from thinking that women who are bitchy have some unique potential or they are special or have many men falling for them, that's why they don't care. When I asked him why doesn't he leave me and approach that bitchy woman he was flirting with? He said that there were many men falling at her feet and that he can't see himself in her league??? You see? Men automatically assume that a woman acting bitchy is doing so because she is out of their league. It's shitty thinking I know and I personally detest it so much. I had made a thread long ago about how jerks get a better treatment in society and humble people are looked down on and mistreated. This goes along the same principle. Women fall for this as well when they are too impressed by a jackass who is treating them bad and look down on a nice guy who is ready to treat her with respect. It's the whole narcissism deal. Where narcissistic people appear attractive to us and humble people appear low value. This is human nature in terms of social hierarchy and power. Its kinda pathetic but this is what I observed. Since then I have stopped being too sweet or polite or trying to please. It gets taken the wrong way. Now if someone takes my kindness and tries to mistreat me, I simply put my foot down and tell them to get lost. I often see these same people chasing after me once I tell them off. Funny how this dynamic works. *I always seem to struggle with meeting my goals.. *mind goes blank again *Cue prompts. Sort sort sort sort. Time to sort the mess

This is something I experienced as well. My ex used to get attracted to bitchy women who would give him a hard time. The attraction stems from thinking that women who are bitchy have some unique potential or they are special or have many men falling for them, that's why they don't care. When I asked him why doesn't he leave me and approach that bitchy woman he was flirting with? He said that there were many men falling at her feet and that he can't see himself in her league??? You see? Men automatically assume that a woman acting bitchy is doing so because she is out of their league. It's shitty thinking I know and I personally detest it so much. I had made a thread long ago about how jerks get a better treatment in society and humble people are looked down on and mistreated. This goes along the same principle. Women fall for this as well when they are too impressed by a jackass who is treating them bad and look down on a nice guy who is ready to treat her with respect. It's the whole narcissism deal. Where narcissistic people appear attractive to us and humble people appear low value. This is human nature in terms of social hierarchy and power. Its kinda pathetic but this is what I observed. Since then I have stopped being too sweet or polite or trying to please. It gets taken the wrong way. Now if someone takes my kindness and tries to mistreat me, I simply put my foot down and tell them to get lost. I often see these same people chasing after me once I tell them off. Funny how this dynamic works.

*I always seem to struggle with meeting my goals.. *mind goes blank again Now I need to eat something. *I always seem to struggle with meeting my goals.. *mind goes blank again *Cue prompts. Sort sort sort sort. Time to sort the mess

Now it's 6.25 am and I got a couple of observations to make. First I need to restore my sugar electrolyte balance big time That's causing me some cramps.

Last night I had a dream that someone tried to follow me on this forum and they exist in my followers list. The moment I woke up I immediately clicked on Actualized.org/forum and checked my followers list. Nobody there. Because I know for sure that I had disabled it long ago. Thank God nobody can follow me anymore. Don't want that pathetic shit. What a cringey dream!!!!

Is that like a reality TV show? If it something along those lines of celebrity shows, they're simply a waste of time

I'm a person who has struggled with boundaries for the longest time, I thought I would offend my friends and acquaintances if I ever said something. I became very submissive over time, submitting to everyone's demands. I thought that being selfish was a bad thing because that's what my mom had taught me, every time I did something for myself I was made to feel guilty Long story short I went through many changes this year and one of those changes was to implement boundaries, confront people on their behavior, not put up with shit and find my own peace. So far so good, I have come a long way and I have become successful at doing this finally. I have learned to become a little more selfish and not let others vulture on me. How did I achieve this? 1) First is to build your confidence to be able to say no Try it. Say a flat out no. This is for confidence building. If someone is offended, don't take responsibility for their feelings. Learn that true friends don't get offended and true people don't play victim to your basic needs. My ex boyfriend used to make a big deal if I slept off after a rough day at work. See? Don't allow such people in your life because they're only looking to meet their own needs at your expense. People who genuinely care about you won't throw a tantrum over you wanting your space. 2) be aware of what you want. Be more self aware. Ask yourself questions. Investigate your own needs and limits. This way you already know how much you can give to someone in terms of resources and time. 3) Be direct and use a tiny amount of social tact. This is a bit tricky. Often when we are too direct, people are hurt. I used to be indirect. If you give excuses about why you can't socialize, you'll always keep finding more excuses. For example if you said, "hey, I can't attend the party, because I have work to do." This works in the moment but then you have to keep giving the same excuse every time someone invites you. Instead be direct yet non offensive like, "hey, I generally do not prefer attending parties. You have a good time." in this manner you end it for good and the person doesn't bug you again. Don't say anything like, "I don't have time for you, " that's too harsh and personal. Always make direct statements without making it too personal. Use "I" in an affirmative and assertive way, for example instead of saying "why are you asking this?" simply state - "I don't like answering such questions." this way you put the burden of your boundaries being respected on the other person by stating yourself assertively and affirmatively. But instead of saying "I don't like/want to answer you," (that you make it too personal and without tact) make it more tactful and impersonal "I don't like answering such questions." The form of communication you use is absolutely important to convey the right impression and still maintain your social image intact. This is tricky and requires you using a lot of Nuance here and there. 4) asserting boundaries is absolutely important. Initially you can be soft. If the other person doesn't comply or tries to resist your polite request, then be firm about what you want and don't budge or submit. Also work on self esteem and people pleasing tendencies. I had low self esteem and I couldn't turn people down. Now I do it effortlessly. I have adopted the "I don't give a fuck attitude" and truly it works wonders. Once you stop caring what people think about you, you can finally rest easy and be yourself. And don't worry about socialization, because people who truly wish to respect your time and feelings will always be by your side. Those who are offended by you wanting your own space and time can Fuck Off. Good luck and have a nice day! (first time giving a structured answer.. Lol)

@Marcel Puts a muffler around your neck.

I'm a person who has struggled with boundaries for the longest time, I thought I would offend my friends and acquaintances if I ever said something. I became very submissive over time, submitting to everyone's demands. I thought that being selfish was a bad thing because that's what my mom had taught me, every time I did something for myself I was made to feel guilty Long story short I went through many changes this year and one of those changes was to implement boundaries, confront people on their behavior, not put up with shit and find my own peace. So far so good, I have come a long way and I have become successful at doing this finally. I have learned to become a little more selfish and not let others vulture on me. How did I achieve this? 1) First is to build your confidence to be able to say no Try it. Say a flat out no. This is for confidence building. If someone is offended, don't take responsibility for their feelings. Learn that true friends don't get offended and true people don't play victim to your basic needs. My ex boyfriend used to make a big deal if I slept off after a rough day at work. See? Don't allow such people in your life because they're only looking to meet their own needs at your expense. People who genuinely care about you won't throw a tantrum over you wanting your space. 2) be aware of what you want. Be more self aware. Ask yourself questions. Investigate your own needs and limits. This way you already know how much you can give to someone in terms of resources and time. 3) Be direct and use a tiny amount of social tact. This is a bit tricky. Often when we are too direct, people are hurt. I used to be indirect. If you give excuses about why you can't socialize, you'll always keep finding more excuses. For example if you said, "hey, I can't attend the party, because I have work to do." This works in the moment but then you have to keep giving the same excuse every time someone invites you. Instead be direct yet non offensive like, "hey, I generally do not prefer attending parties. You have a good time." in this manner you end it for good and the person doesn't bug you again. Don't say anything like, "I don't have time for you, " that's too harsh and personal. Always make direct statements without making it too personal. Use "I" in an affirmative and assertive way, for example instead of saying "why are you asking this?" simply state - "I don't like answering such questions." this way you put the burden of your boundaries being respected on the other person by stating yourself assertively and affirmatively. But instead of saying "I don't like/want to answer you," (that you make it too personal and without tact) make it more tactful and impersonal "I don't like answering such questions." The form of communication you use is absolutely important to convey the right impression and still maintain your social image intact. This is tricky and requires you using a lot of Nuance here and there. 4) asserting boundaries is absolutely important. Initially you can be soft. If the other person doesn't comply or tries to resist your polite request, then be firm about what you want and don't budge or submit. Also work on self esteem and people pleasing tendencies. I had low self esteem and I couldn't turn people down. Now I do it effortlessly. I have adopted the "I don't give a fuck attitude" and truly it works wonders. Once you stop caring what people think about you, you can finally rest easy and be yourself. And don't worry about socialization, because people who truly wish to respect your time and feelings will always be by your side. Those who are offended by you wanting your own space and time can Fuck Off. Good luck and have a nice day! (first time giving a structured answer.. Lol)

*mind goes blank again.

Why is the world so fucked up? Cue prompts. Sort sort sort sort. Time to sort the mess

I can't believe it's 3 am. I'm wide awake. Just thinking.. random things....

Me too. I'm finding it absurd and ridiculous that someone is offended by something as insignificant as this. Smh

They are very pathetic and covert women. Thank goodness I'm not like that. I was born with a free spirit.

I hope you recover soon and do well. You need to make more friends in your local area. That's the only way to beat lonelines. (the belief that many people hold that having a relationship automatically resolves loneliness is wrong, even if the relationship is great, loneliness can still creep in and there are many factors why a person would feel lonely. This is not black and white.)

Who cares at the end of the day?

I'm exploring some YouTube content these days I don't know why people make such a big deal out of dislikes. I guess it was a good anti-troll move.

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I don't see Leo having any problems with it. "you're infinity."

I used to have a bit of trouble loading blog videos. Now I can watch them without trouble. Good job.

Putting some more.

Post a picture posed as shown in the picture. . It will make you look cool and casual. It's important to look cool in pics..