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@RickyFitts how did you do it? Any advice or insight?

@Knowledge Hoarder I'm thinking the same. It has originated somewhere in the past and continued for decades..

@Leo Gura why is it a proud thing to buy guns as gifts? Why are Americans so proud of owning and buying guns? After all isn't it just a weapon? People don't buy bombs, I mean. Then why guns.

I think the dream signified that I was unable to escape a terrible situation. I tried but I felt defeated..

I don't want to feel so negative..

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I woke up from an awful awful nightmare. In the dream I'm liked by a British guy whose name is Vincent. A lot of people thought that I was aggressive. And yes I was. There were a group of people who made fun of me. I tried hard to escape. My reality constantly blurring with fantasy. I see scenes in my dream. I think that I can escape Vincent. But I can't. Maybe Vincent is the reason why I died in my last birth. I tell Vincent compassionately that I don't wish to be a part of his plan. I run upstairs. Vincent follows me. He runs to me and grabs me by my arm. He is standing close to me not ready to let go I want him to know I'm independent. Yet I feel very fragile and unable to escape. End of the dream.

My dad died from cardiac arrest. He had a big heart, metaphorically and medically. Hmm. It does impact me every day.

Oh I do understand the Indian factor. It's very difficult for Indians to open up. It's important to feel all emotions and let them out without judgement. This is a difficult thing to share with Indian relatives obviously since Indian relatives can be pretty judgemental. I would suggest to not talk much about it to your relatives but to support each other through this crisis. I extend my support and condolences. It's important to take it slow and patiently. Time heals wounds. Always be positive even in critical times. Things will eventually get better over time. I wish you all the hope and support in this difficult time. Keep strong.

I'm very sorry for the loss. It's a difficult period. The best that anyone can do is show calmness and support. Patience is needed.

I feel like the nightmares about my cat are so realistic

I'm not dismissing your experience. At the same time you're not understanding that you don't represent all women. If you had titled it as "I feel offended if I'm called a girl," it would have been perfectly alright because it only relates to you and women who think like you. But you made a very generalized statement on the behalf of all women by saying "let's stop calling women...." You talked about all women. Well, how are you exactly sure that all women want the same as you? Did you suddenly decide that you are entitled to every woman's preferences and choices. This question is a matter of personal preference and not general preference. It's almost like saying "let's ban coffee," just because you don't like coffee doesn't mean that everyone should agree with you. With that attitude you're dismissing the preferences of coffee lovers. It doesn't matter if you feel dismissed because coffee lovers obviously have the right to express their preferences. Your statement is very authoritarian. If it bothers you doesn't mean it bothers every woman nearly the same as you? It's totally a matter of personal preference. If someone calls you a girl, you can politely tell them not to. But don't impose your preferences on how you wish to be referred/called on the entire female population. Because there are a gazillion women who don't have any problem with being called a girl. Also this does not mean that you're somehow more intelligent or superior or that the other women lack self respect, don't try to imply that either, it's just that they aren't offended by it so they don't see it the way you do. Respect other's perspectives and don't impose yours on others through generalized statements. If you are going to make such statements then expect a negative response as well because you aren't speaking only for yourself. Obviously others have the right to offer their perspective. If it dismisses yours, then I feel dismissed by default because my perspective was never taken into consideration in the first place. Do you see how your approach sounds authoritarian? Also you attacked my perspective instead of appreciating it. You could have easily said -" hey I understand and appreciate the fact it doesn't bother you. However I'm different but I respect our different preferences.“ Instead you cornered me by implying that I'm being insensitive to your problem and that I should take others into consideration? Why shouldn't my opinion be weighed equally? Does it not count? Be careful about how you communicate ideas to the general public if you want them to accept your generalized suggestion aimed at all women, because you're feeling offended when some women don't agree with you. If you made this sort of a statement on social media, you would meet massive disapproval from large number of women. Are you simply going to ignore those who disagree with your statement? That's not how such things work. If you are going to make a statement meant for the public, learn to expect a reaction without feeling dismissed. If the title reflected how it personally bothers you, I would have definitely respected your personal experience, no problem. However the way you decided to do it, (as though you're speaking for all women), I have every right to object because I don't feel my perspective was even considered let alone appreciated. Speak for yourself.

I wasn't referring to strangers though. I was referring to acquaintances and friends. Should they call a woman as woman too? Why such alienation?

The word girl is neutral in my opinion. It does not come with an implied connotation. Any connotation is only an assumption and projection on part of the listener. If it were a derogatory term that would have been understandable and reasonable enough. However that's not the case. Some things are just blown out of proportion. Whenever someone calls me a girl, i take it as an endearing term. Nothing more nothing less. If they used the term woman, that would actually feel alienating. Girl seems a bit of a closer bond as compared to the term woman. For example if someone said to me, "girl, you really need to get your ass off the couch. " this would seem endearing, there is a caring attitude reflecting in that statement. However if a guy said, "woman, you really need to get your ass off the couch, " that would seem a bit commanding, authoritarian, formal and alienating. You see what I mean?

@Michael569 yep sounds good. Thank you.

Can I naturally get Vitamin D and calcium. I don't go out much these days because of Covid curfew. Generally supplements help. I also wish to explore sources when I'm away from sunlight. Thanks.

@Michael569 oki. Are there any side effects of such supplementation?

@Michael569 my vitamin D levels few weeks back on my health report was 16 ng/ml.

What's the next thing I need to focus on? Exercise and hot steam Drink tons of water Focus on sleep issues and cramps

*I always seem to struggle with meeting my goals.. *mind goes blank again *Cue prompts. Sort sort sort sort. Time to sort the mess

I'm usually suspicious of guys who act like white knights. And less suspicious of guys who call women girls.

@Yarco I do home exercise because there's a gym in my house I live in a hilly place where it's mostly cloudy and wintry so not much sunlight at all. Now it's winter so it's even worse. I'm in my 20s so no menopause. Malnutrition runs in my family. I eat all the leafy greens and my diet is relatively healthy as I eat dairy stuff for calcium. I have been deficient in Vitamin D since childhood. Most Indians are for some reason. My calcium levels have dropped for some reason. My weight stays low and I'm skinny. I have intermittently suffered from calcium and vitamin D deficiency. It runs in my family. Both my mom and dad suffered from this deficiency.

@Jenkins you're welcome.

Maybe he is hinting at a stage Red philosophy where in order to survive your cruel circumstances you need to be harder and tougher and crueler with yourself. Sometimes this works. Sometimes you need to be gentle with yourself and others. It's like saying - "toughen up." This is not that easy though. Being tough and cruel needs a certain degree of self confidence, machismo and raw strength both physically and mentally.

I wake up in the middle of the night many many times. This is definitely not good for my health but I'm trying as much as I can My nutrition levels are low. I need to get myself back up.... And running. Run Preety run