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I have an idea in mind. There should be a member's redressal committee here set up separately just for members here. So if any user has any grievances with a Mod's behavior, they could be submitted to the committee by the member before they're discussed with Leo. If the committee doesn't take the grievances seriously, then Leo can be approached directly. The problem is that Leo doesn't have time to handle individual grievances. So a committee can handle that. This committee won't have any mod powers but they can talk to Leo or mod directly and give support to the member who has been wronged in some way. This way a member will find some support and some backing for their claims and also some safety while opening up about their grievances without the fear of getting banned. The main function of this committee will be to provide support to the user if they feel isolated/targeted and hear their grievances and have some control on mods behavior. So mod abuse of power can stay minimum. I'm surprised that members don't have a support button. We are just given a report button that's all. This committee will also take into account unfair warning points and have the power to remove/revoke those warning points and take action against any unfair banning.

I'm upset after making this post.

I'm sadly disappointed in Leo after the recent events involving Nahm fallout. I'm sure most members trusted Leo deeply only to find out that he breached that trust by hiding so much from us. So much was kept away and hidden. We were being treated like we don't deserve to know any better. That sucks. But if this is how he wants it to be, then the ball is obviously in his court. But still deeply disappointed that he shows such little trust. We're not slaves, we are members. On one hand there is happiness knowing that he did not let the moderator simply get away with their ways by demoting him and on the other there's disappointment that so much was hidden from the members, so much was going on in the background without our knowledge and yet nobody could come forward because of the fear of mods. That is not cool. I mean the question arises - why should I care about a place that doesn't care about me? In all fairness, I don't want to be treated as a disposable. I mean no member should be treated this way. We don't have any value as members?

Yes I agree. After the recent events I would definitely beg for more transparency from Leo. Not fair all this goes on and members remain blind to it.

Actually after yesterday's events I'm more worried about mod abuse of power more than anything else. I had no idea all the shit that was going on here before that. I think Leo is characteristically very unfair when it comes to stuff like this. He needs to understand the concerns of members. If i was the owner of this forum, I would have run it in an entirely different fashion. The way Leo runs this forum leaves a lot of room for members to be exploited without much help available to them. It's like members are kept at the lowest hierarchy of power when it's members who run this forum, need this forum the most and without members how would this place even exist? Who would even need mods? Leo tends to reflect some sort of anti-member bias in his actions while running the forum, as though he is deeply fearful/resentful of its own members and this paranoia drives him to run it this way. It's almost similar to government surveillance. I hope @Leo Gura will be able to create more trust in the future because Leo on one side and the members on the other doesn't feel good. So there should not be an extreme hierarchy, more cooperation rather than monopoly. I understand it's his place, but what would a place be if he had nobody to interact with. We shouldn't need to feel as though we can be kicked any time, not a good feeling, it's a mutual relationship not a one way street. Fear, paranoia, mistrust should not exist. Can I expect Leo to be a bit more friendly?

How should/would a member know that a particular mod is not following moderator's guidelines if they aren't even aware what those guidelines are? Keeping a member in the dark is a situation ripe for abuse. The member wouldn't even know that the moderator was acting unethical. Then how will the member complain to Leo?

Are you guys required to be here everyday?

Actually some mods are not very active. They come once in 40 days, once in a blue moon and don't have a clue what's going on.

I appreciate this perspective. Some mods are biased. Minimizing the impact of the bias would help. Also I observed that one mod tends to favor another creating a group think or circle jerk

If you want a thread to be locked then mention one or few mods in your post rather than writing like that. Nobody has time to go through every post. @Tim R @Inliytened1 please lock the thread.

I see.

I don't understand why he didn't take professional therapy? What would have been the harm? Also side note, when you weren't here, that adeptus bhobhotica was blowin up the forum, so I had to tell a mod to lock that thread, that ruckus was over,that paywall thread.

So I was listening to this video which is a short video on how to stay calm when you're stressed. He says how we can be prepared for the worst and that will help us cope with future stressful situations. The problem is that this kind of thinking and expecting bad things for the future actually makes me even more stressed Is there another method to applying this technique? I understand the validity of his point yet it looks unpleasant to actually implement it.

I'd recommend that you do basic self help at this stage and not think too much about spirituality. You are just in the beginner stage. Everything can get very confusing to you right away. Be patient. Start with the fundamentals like PD and then gradually improve from there.

Oh wow. I totally agree with your take, 100%,well explained.

Calming Practices

gathering-information

Daily self talk podcast. This is going to help me a lot. I had come up with this idea like a year ago. It's about discussing my daily stuff. And usually talking to myself because I love that. In this podcast I'll be talking to an imaginary character whom I call Quirky Girl. This is a visualization exercise I'm imagining sitting in an underground room talking to her.

That's what I'm doing. His accusations are just surface level with no real evidence or validity, baseless claims that he keeps parroting like a broken record. And anyone who goes against him, he immediately jumps on calling/labeling them a "cult member." What a strategy lol. This is all about his ego, just to feel good that he somehow proved himself right. He starts his endless trollish debates to make himself seem right. He has been debunked several times but he keeps coming here just to start useless arguments with Leo.

This is not a valid criticism. Psychic powers are not delusional. Healing abilities exist. I have myself encountered psychics who have extraordinary abilities that the normal human population doesn't. Just because you don't believe it doesn't make it Delusional. The atmosphere at Actualized. Org does not encourage/support suicide. In fact it helps people who are suicidal. If anyone takes the decision to commit suicide its up to them. In the wake of the suicide, Leo made it clear that he doesn't want people to die to experience consciousness. Leo is not a heartless monster running a suicide cult. He is well aware of the consequences of spiritual work that's why he took down the video of Solipsism. Learn to appreciate his effort. So to make him look like suicidal cult running guy is disingenuous, baseless and bogus, nothing valid about it. Leo handles criticism from his members in the most impeccable manner, I'm yet to see someone so humble and down to earth, he interacts with everyone here, he is aware of his own mistakes. He is pretty tolerant. And he never pressures anyone to follow his path strictly. Nor does he threaten anyone. This place is free for people to join and work on themselves. People are here by their own will. Perhaps you might want to look up the definition of a cult. People admiring and appreciating his work is not a cult. BTW, this has been endlessly debated before. Take your bogus claims elsewhere. Stop bugging the poor guy with your trollish criticisms. Your stuff has already been debunked.

I'll divide this exercise into 2 parts. Eyes that see the lies part 1 - asking questions Eyes that see the lies part 2 - the inner self talks I've been feeling better now. Time to heal. Time to move forward. Time to sharpen self focus. Time to invest in self love. Time to get my shit together. Time to have bullet focus.

I want like a two way communication with my inner subconscious. Eyes that see the lies exercise The inner self talks Why is there so much misery in this world? Why do I come across so many freaky, creepy, shady,disingenuous, drama-creating, insincere, manipulative people everyday in my life? Why do they even exist? What is their agenda? Why are people driven by egos so badly? Not long ago I had asked this question.

Turning pain into poetry. My life has come to a standstill Everything is going against my will My heart has turned too numb I am just waiting for end to come

@jongsijs can you explain a detailed situation of how this looked like? Because it's very easy to misinterpret cold signals. Some people are busy, some people are not too much into texting etc. It's easy to think other thoughts. So an example might help. It needs to be seen if the person accidentally forgot to get back to you or if this is what they usually do to most people. If the latter is the case, then you should take a back seat and let those people walk their ways. Personally I have experienced being ignored, ghosted and cold shoulder treatment in relationships etc. So I can relate and it hurts like hell for first two days. It's just you dealing with passive aggressive covert people who love to play these mini games or they have complete disregard for other's presence. So you really have to figure out which one it is. Still the best option either way is to walk away and never come back. They're not worth your attention or time and much less anything else. For the sake of your sanity and self respect, don't be emotionally invested in such people. Don't let the hurt go on. Keep moving. Much love.