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3 more concepts Constant flow /streak Interruption of the flow Recognition of the interruption of flow Resumption of the flow I'm going to discuss flow theory in more detail. Now some terms to use here are "falling off the wagon" "constancy of purpose /flow" "initiation of flow" "pushing the flow" "gap in the flow" "off the streak" These are like phrases to describe the situation not exactly scientific language. "getting back on track /flow"

Why emotional stability is important I'll discuss that some day. I take a long time to write even small things so I can't write too much although I'd love to. But I can't do that. So I finish myself in as brief as I can be. Plus the restrictions of my job and time means I never have enough time ever on my plate to actually write everything I want. And when I write I get overwhelmed so I have to go brief and short which limits my capacity to full express myself in my journal. But something is better than nothing. So I will continue to write even if it is little at a time.. My writing is more like small small baby steps every day towards my growth. But I'm grateful because even a little thing is better than nothing.

Coping mechanism as a part of empowerment. Learn to label a trauma and let it go I'm a bit secretive about my trauma and I know it. Since I have suffered a lot of childhood trauma it's important for me to do that. I have suffered multiple traumas in my life and I am just learning coping behaviors but it's difficult. One side effect of my trauma was the intense fear I felt while sleeping that if I sleep that something bad will happen or I will lose out on something important. Sometimes the trauma gave me a feeling of emergency, chaos and OCD. So I'm trying to come to grips with that too in the middle of everything.

Alternative concepts Other than spiritual knowledge you also need alternate knowledge Eebitters. And Aweymin seaweymin Evil ninjas Toxgar

Mini updates Purity of the heart is something I wanted to talk about. Difference between evil and villainy Coffee time

I have lately come across a lot of judgement in this section with regard to qualities and looks and everything else. I'm a strong believer in the possibility of anything and everything. I feel God has a purpose in our lives. And we can make anything out of nothing. Do you believe that anything and everything is possible out of nothing. I feel that a lot of the sentiments and judgement that people express here especially about women arise from negativity. Negativity only restricts us and creates dissonance. It shows the impossibility of everything rather than the infinite possibility of every minute particle in the universe. Be careful how you judge others because you might end up judging yourself the same way if you're in their shoes. Or you might turn into a hypocrite. Either ways it's harmful. Try having positivity in your life and maybe you won't judge the opposite gender or another race so much.

There's another good reason why judging others is so meaningless. We are not in full control of our will.

@Raptorsin7 @Nickyy The concept I was discussing was about how judgemental behavior is not justifiable because in my opinion, people are in a constant state of Flux or dynamic change. Let's say if I judge someone and said that they are not as intelligent or if I mocked them and said they are not good at sports or any particular skill like driving. But there is a problem with my judgemental behavior because my decision to brand a person as bad or inferior {judgement is usually in the negative context} means I have permanently stamped them with my perspective therefore limiting their possible future potential in my eyes and in the eyes of others as well as that person. The person now needs to accept that this who he/she is. Can you see the flaw here. That person is less likely to work on their personal growth because they are made to believe that what they are has already been decided. That's why I wrote about infinite possibilities and something evolving out of nothing. Because if I judge my partner as an addict, his chances of recovery and growth have been dismissed by me and I have created a situation of despair for him by making him feel that there is no hope for him in my eyes. That was the point of the post. That judgement(and here I mean being judgemental) arises from deep rooted negativity and is a shadow in itself that has not been resolved in both the speaker and the listener. Thus by judging we invalidate the infinite possibilities of growth in a human.

Let's take an example. I think what you mean is this. You judge a particular behavior as low conscious or high conscious even on the turquoise stage of the spiral. And in a similar way you'd judge the political situation in your country as favorable or unfavorable to growth no matter whatever stage you are on the spiral. I think what you mean to say is that the process of interpretation always exists only the parameters and conditions used to judge change. Which means you judge two things against each other in a more mindful conscious manner.. I think I interpreted you right?

Can you give an example of how judgement actually happens?

some of them were boyfriends and some of them that I was dating for a short time but not exactly boyfriends because they weren't serious relationships.

That was an excellent point. I never looked at it from the low consciousness high consciousness perspective. Judgement so belongs to the orange zone.

True. I have noticed this myself in a lot of people around me. When they judge others harshly, they use the same parameters to judge themselves with and end up feeling less self confident. I have come across a lot of guys giving into addiction because of this mentality. But as soon as I communicate with them and let them know that it's an illusion and that I'm not judging them, they stop judging themselves and emerge out of their addictions and lead lives with confidence. It's like a mind trap

OK gotcha. I was thinking the same just before you replied. But that's like a cop out, of course judgement is relative and one can always have the "I don't give a damn" attitude but my point was that they arise out of negativity because you think something is bad in relation to something else without understanding the deeper meaning that there are always infinite possibilities to a finite situation.

I think I'm a bit confused here. It seems like we both were making the same point. Care to explain in detail? What exactly is your point?

You must be Italian then, just my guess. I love Italian food.

A thread was just locked because it turned into a dick measuring contest. But measuring a woman's parts and deciding on them in great detail is a green signal I guess. The hypocrisy.

Feeling a bit embarrassed by the objectification of women going on here. Sad {hell will break lose if women did this to men}

''I see a chronic problem on this sub-forum, which is young males who complain about lack of success with women and failing to take responsibility for their situation. The #1 rule of all growth and personal development is taking 100% responsibility for your situation. I know how hard that can be when you're struggling with women/sex. It feels very much like life is treating you unfairly and that it's the women's fault. Let me tell you right now: this is a total ILLUSION! It's not the women. It's not society. It's not post-modernists. It's not the Marxists. It's not the feminists. It's YOU! This is not me blaming you. This is simply how all personal development works. Whatever problem you have in life you must begin by getting honest with yourself how you created it. Sometimes this is difficult to accept. It's much easier to blame someone else, or even blame yourself (for being too ugly or too short or too introverted). I am not suggesting you blame yourself. Rather, take ownership of the fact that you are the creator of your life. Whatever is missing in your life, you can correct, but only if you stop blaming yourself and others. Be very mindful of how your ego-mind creates narratives which justify your sense of lack, brokenness, or inability to attract women. All of these narratives, justification, rationalizations, logic, "facts", scientific studies, proofs, etc are sneakily fabricated by your own mind! Your own mind is the enemy! Watch it like a hawk. Your mind will try to come up with reasons and excuses for why your life is unfair and how success with women is impossible. This is all horseshit! Do not believe your own mind here. Your mind is clouded by fear, insecurity, and neediness. That is totally normal and understandable, but you cannot resolve your problems from such a place. From such a place your problems will get worse as you start to blame the world and solidify your victim worldview with cherry-picked evidence, "science", and "logic". Be extra suspicious of "logic" and "science" here. There is nothing logical or scientific about your victim attitude or lack of success with women. It's purely about meeting the survival needs of your ego. Sex is a very powerful survival need which will drive your mind towards all manner of mental gymnastics to ensure that you get it, or at least feel better for not getting it. There's good news and bad news. The good news is: Your looks are NOT the problem! The bad news is: your personality, attitude, and mindset are terrible! The good news is, it's possible to change that. The bad news is, it won't be easy and you will resist it like the devil that you are. So what's the solution? Take ownership of your problem and commit to resolving it. For this you need faith and confidence in your ability to self-actualize. You must have enough hope and vision to see yourself get much better with attracting women. This is NOT a pipe dream or fuzzy thinking. The reality is that any man can become 100x better at attracting women if he really takes ownership of the matter. Yes, it takes serious work. But it's also highly worth it. Imagine that within 3 years you're able to attract pretty women and feel confident about yourself when it comes to dating. Isn't that worth the effort? It sure is. This is not a fantasy. I've done it, many men have done it, and so can you! Your looks are NOT the bottleneck, your mindset is. So what do you do after you've established this vision? You must do lots of research to educate yourself about how dating actually work (not how you think it works). Find videos, find books, buy online courses, hire a coach, take a bootcamp, take a workshop, etc. There are literally hundreds of excellent resources available online these days. Most of them are legit, not scams. Study them hard and then get into the field. Start talking to women. Start approaching women. Start flirting with women. Start being much more social. If you struggle attracting women I can tell you right now what your top problems are. It's not lack of money, looks, muscles, car, height, or dick size. Remember, attraction and dating is EXTREMELY counter-intuitive. It's works exactly the opposite of how you initially think. Your top problems are: You live in your mancave and never go out! You must go out into social spaces where real women hang out. You spend WAY too much time online, indoors You spend WAY too much time on Youtube, Netflix, and playing video games You work too much You are never around cute single women You never start conversations with strangers You have terrible body language due to lack of experience You are not comfortable doing small-talk and being emotional and random in conversations You are far too logical You approach zero women on a regular basis You are terrified of approaching a women who you find attractive, talking yourself out of every approach You have terrible eye contact, you don't smile, and you don't project your voice properly You are crippled by fear and tongue-tied You are unable to start and sustain an interesting conversation with a human being You are disconnected from your body, your heart, your feelings, your emotions You have terrible self-image issues. You hate yourself, you hate how you look, you judge yourself way too harshly. You judge yourself just as harshly as you judge women. You have a bad sense of dress style and you don't groom yourself well You have no experience with physically touching women in a non-creepy way. You don't know how to rapidly physically escalate on a women without creeping her out. You don't know how women think or what they truly value in a man You don't know how to flirt and be authentic You are trying to be masculine in all the wrong ways -- fake masculinity You are needy, needy, needy You are terribly inexperienced You have no sense of passion or purpose in life, which robs you of confidence and masculine vitality Your attitude sucks: you whine, complain, bitch, moan, blame, and are so negative You think you understand life, reality, and how attraction works -- you don't! So work on fixing all of that before you go blaming women. All of the above can be deliberately worked on and fixed. You need to learn how to be a real man. Being a real man has nothing to do with big muscles, big dick, or a fast car. A real man is grounded on the INSIDE. It's ALL about inner game! You need to cultivate that confidence. It doesn't come naturally. You must build it! 80% of getting good with women is just actually being much more social. You need to deliberately re-structure your life so that you're automatically being more social. So that you're going out every weekend. So that you're bumping into new people constantly. So that you're making new friends all the time. This kind of re-structuring is very doable. You just have to be willing to change your lifestyle. And stop watching or listening to any of the following: Jordan Peterson, MGTOW, RedPill, Incel material/forums/reddit All of that is cancer of the mind. It's reinforcing your victim mindset and robbing you of your ability to change yourself. I've been where you are. I know it's tough. But hang in there, hold your vision, have hope, get to work, and things will dramatically improve for you. You will become a new person by the end of this journey and you will be so proud of yourself. You will become a real man, not some whiny JP fanboy. The #1 thing a real man does is take 100% responsibility for all his problems. A real man NEVER blames anyone, and certainly not women or feminism. A real man is a feminist. A real man fearlessly works on himself. So start right there! Start by fixing that.'' -Leo Gura

Hiya Arc Don't get offended. Why are you constantly asking them out to go to Starbucks. maybe they like you but it could be they are bored of going to Starbucks you know, maybe they went to Starbucks and had the same coffee 100s of times with other men before. Try to up the ante. Ask them out to an expensive upscale downtown restaurant and maybe who knows they might be lured to try out a new place they have never been to. A nice fancy restaurant in the middle of the city! Also which miss universe likes to go to Starbucks on her first special date.

When I try to login it gives error page If I try to upload images or media it gives error EX144 - something went wrong, internal server error. Tried emptying cache. Nothing. Seems internal server error Error code EX144 @Leo Gura can you look into the issue.

Factors to be decided when immersing into a created flow Reduce distraction and interference.. Minimum interference Good planning in advance Good focus.. Focus cards Good control Good discipline Reducing chaos Bringing balance

Created flow and uncontrolled flow. Trying to wind around things is more like creating art or a pattern or style and whatever follows randomly is usually an uncontrolled flow.. Whereas a created flow is more artistic.. It is planned and decided and structured. A created flow is a part of structural assembly.

Sometimes the best moments in life are when you give up on everything and savor the moment. And just get dog tired at the end of the day. Like really really tired. And then you can say to yourself "this is so over" You don't want to deal with anything whether it's job stress, fights, family calling, work pressure, neighbors throwing tantrums, piles of mail... No no nothing. Nothing becomes more precious than this beautiful little moment like a small pearl in the palm. Just grab it and cherish it and say rest is bullshit. And then there is a tremendous sensation of liberation and freedom from stress. It feels like defeat but a sweet defeat is better than a painful victory. What's the point of fighting so hard to keep everything alive. Just jump into the pool and take a plunge and just surrender and release yourself to the feeling of emptiness and let go anything and everything. It feels like healing. Mini updates column ------§§§§§§§§§§§§§§§§~~~~~~~ Here I'm going to post my updates. Teepti. ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ It's pure fakemanship ~~~~~~~§§§§§§§§§§§§§~~~~~~~~ Thinly veiled aggression is still a form of aggression that is directed in a manner to make the aggressor look socially acceptable and escape critical scrutiny. ~~~~~~~§§§§§§§§§§§§§§~~~~~~~ They will show hate in other ways ~~~~~~~~~§§§§§§§§§§§§§§§~~~~ Beautiful is the breeze

When I was thinking about this, an analogy came to my mind. Nice guys are like fresh organic juice. Bad boys are like a carbonated drink like coke. If people are given the choice between organic juice and coke, most people would prefer coke because it's stimulating the mind. People are more likely to eat addictive foods than normal healthy organic foods. Even if they are fully aware that the addictive food is toxic to the body. One reason being that addictive foods are stimulatory and activate dopamine in the brain. They work on stimulation receptors. However healthy foods do not cause such a response or reaction. They don't alter brain chemicals. Bad boys are attractive to the brain because they stimulate the responses for romance and attraction. Nice guys are healthy and not toxic but they are boring like the organic juice. Since they don't stimulate the brain, they don't attract and thus the brain doesn't accept them even if they are healthy. But a more conscious person will bypass the brain chemistry and think using a big picture of health and happiness Good luck