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me too Love it

@Elham yea borage tea helped me a lot. Also I'd suggest chamomile tea. It helps to relax. I also use passion flower.

Golden. True that ✌️

They make money of it. Money out of keeping someone emotionally stunted.

Oh, that reeks of desperation. My ex did that. Deluge of texts to beg me. I left him. It scared the shit outta me. Nothing worse in a relationship more than manipulation and bullying/gaslighting guised as love.. You might want to believe that begging appears as selfless and wanting but if you really want to look deeply at it then ask yourself "why am I doing this? Am I doing this for myself or for her really? Why do I want her when she doesn't want me?" you'll begin to realize that the answer to that question is "you", you don't do it for her, you do it for you and in the same breath you invalidate her needs or disrespect her desires or feelings, pressuring your needs/wants on top of hers. This is no different than forcing her to be with you, used in a careful sweet manner. But it's same thing in different ways, same passive aggressive behavior, only the vehicle is different. Because if you really cared for her needs, you'll value her decision instead of placing blame. So you need to confront the shadow within you that causes you to think it's justifiable to coax her with texts and demand a submission from her against her will. Nothing more selfish than that. When you will realize this in your shadow work you will let her go and find peace and learn that real love originates from care and selflessness. Let go of the need to attach blame when your needs are not met. They have their space, their freedom, their life and to respect it is to respect their trust they have in you..

Yay. . It happened once. So true. What we think is not always how things really are. Life lies in letting your mind be free to explore everything and that's the way to grow.

My favorite trick is to learn and take in the good from each teacher and leave out that which doesn't suit my purpose. And then move on to the next Now howzattt

Good for you.

Orange is the new black

I can't even stress enough how much of a wonderful contributor you are and the level of maturity you show is something I can only imagine to attain. If there is one person I learned the most from throughout my time on the forum then it has to be you. Cheers mate.

@Mikael89 thank you.

I read your post. I didn't find that possible way. Can you be a little more detailed and explain what that possible way to transcend is? The post appeared a bit vague to me like beating around the bush. So a little more clarity might help..

5 years is bit of a stretch. I was thinking 2 months. When she sees that (in this context when Mikael89 said he wants to play hard to get or be careful with the amount of attention he gives) she is not going to appreciate him not giving his 100% to it. I don't think it's easy to move on when you have put so much effort into getting a relationship in the first place. What if that person is a real good catch. Yes you can always find other people. But if you are emotionally invested then it's easier said than done. Personally for me a man means much more than a vanilla ice cream or a shirt. He is a human being with feelings and I wouldn't want to play with his feelings or objectify him in any way. He is not a vibrator with a heartbeat. I believe in loyalty and trust and making things work. Maybe my value structure is different. I think if I play cheap I'll get cheap. That's how karma works. I don't play cheap. Everyone has their own value structures. They find relationships that serve them through the lens of their value structures. I wouldn't want to be with a man who can drop me on a whim, and I wouldn't want to be with a man who finds it cute if a woman plays games because I'm not into it. To each his own.

Both men and women get rejected. Your life should not revolve around her. It's upto you to make that choice. In fact the more you show to a woman that your life revolves around her, she finds it more repulsive. You don't have to indefinitely chase her. You have to chase many. And if they don't respond you have to give up since it's a waste of energy and time. If a woman is interested of course she will respond. You need to be patient.. A woman is not obligated to submit yo your request because there may be many men chasing her at the same time. It's upto her to decide who she wants to be with. That's not selfishness. Blackpill and red pill are just ideologies to fit a theory or behavior. You don't have to stick to them. You have to be authentic. Pilling is just trying to box yourself into a category. In real life we are a mixture of many tendencies.

I think meditation is a relieving activity. Maybe longer hours can make it stressful. Interesting question

I wanted to write something about kazazu the way of feeling happy in life

I'm practicing the rutabaga style of writing which consists of mixed essence. That is one essence is dominant whereas the other essence is not present yet it get influential The looker should not seek validation. I made a lot out of it. Every aspect remains anonymous

@Hypnofrik I have tried it. I was using a binaural beat program a few years ago. I have abandoned it since because I suffered body tremors and head shaking involuntarily and involuntary body zapping because of it. Lots of muscle twitching. It's pretty strong in the way it works and can target different areas of the brain and also interfere with circadian body rhythms like sleep and appetite and feelings So I stopped. I don't know how safe this thing is so I will just say try a sample before going signing up for a program. I can't give more information because I'm skeptical regarding its safety after my initial experience with it.. Hope this helps.

The other concept that I wanted to talk about is putting a boundary to both good and bad. And the last concept is zero benefit. That means to know if your benefit from a situation is zero or not. This is predatory behavior.

The problem is fixed for me. I can now login properly as before and embed. Thank you so much.

Emotional processing disorder. EPD Endless emotional verbiage

I don't know exactly what was going through her mind. But she should have shown some degree of interest in you when you asked her to dance. The fact that she kept avoiding you the entire time is pretty odd given the fact that you said she was interested in you. I didn't find your behavior as very needy because it's the very first time and curiosity always gets the better of us and so imo she should have also displayed some curiosity on her part.. Your behavior was very instinctive because you didn't really plan it out through and man is very much slave to his instinct so I don't think you can change that in the future. Your overall behavior will stay the same because it represents the unique person that you are. If you have her contact and if you have been texting her or social media you can reestablish contact in the future but I guess you'll need to be a bit blunt because you got no time to waste entertaining her whims. If she is interested she should show a response or else it will be more like she is just playing along and she has got nothing to lose(btw) Right now you cannot do anything. You'll just need to wait. Be patient and let some more time go by before you make another approach. If she still gives you a cold shoulder I don't know how to feel about it. But in whatever way you decide to approach her, make your intentions known not right away but after some time, because there's no point in wasting your time in trying to chase someone who doesn't correspond equally. Imo it should be mutual interest on both sides and the interest needs to be quite strong for things to take a solid turn. Don't beat yourself. You haven't messed up badly, lf your emotions showed, it's fine, neediness is a much bigger thing than a single situation of dance. And as you know, persuasion is necessary in relationships so nothing wrong with being persuasive as long as it is within the zone of comfort. .

Write a sentence like a self enquiry questionnaire. Did you do? Answer - yes. Finished.

Emerald on this forum has helped me so much. She is very very inspiring. I learned a lot from her. I feel very grateful for having met people who inspire me in every way possible little or big. So I came across her concept of keystone habits. I'm going to put that into action in my life to get some results. I will keep a diary to record my keystone habits. I'm not sure how successful I can be in this.. Because I'm a bit of an eccentric. So I get all over the place and do anything that takes my fancy at the moment.. But I will try to be more disciplined and less erratic. Thank you Emerald.

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