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There is nothing like a teacher or even a cult. Because nobody teaches you or tries to teach you anything since you are an adult. So you can't place blame. Every place on this planet is always going to have stuff you won't agree with. It's a matter of semantics. Everyone cannot be pleased at the same time. You are expecting perfection which is a fault. The word cult only applies if you are forced to do something against your will. Groupthink is a real phenomenon and its expected for people who think similar to have a common bondage or institution and people who don't chime on the same frequency to feel left out. This is how groupthink tanks work. That's not a definition of a cult. Let's not undermine how much of a great resource Actualized org really is instead of focusing on things you don't like about it. Because just because you don't like does not mean others are in the same boat. Maybe they like what you don't like. Nobody can talk in absolutes. The one way to beat around this is to simply take in things that you resonate with and leave out things you do not resonate with . You cannot expect a system to run by your preference. It never works like that. Because if everyone had their preferences lined up, it will be impossible to find common ground. I'd suggest that if something doesn't chime with you, leave it out, you have no obligation or guilt to follow it. You aren't missing out on anything . Look outside and beyond but learn to integrate what you find outside with what you learn here and make your own salad. There will always be something to complain even about it teachers. Understand that what you learn here is just a paradigm out of many paradigms and not the absolute. No need to be fixated on this paradigm and get disoriented.

I'm going to be more focused on healing from now on. I think I need from all of the trauma I suffered a few years ago. And this can be the first step Right now I'm having an eyegasm just watching this.. Haha

@Average Investor @Nickyy Thanks for the suggestions!

You really meant to say that I can eat just fruit and I won't get diabetes. What do you suggest. Because I've been thinking about it since a long time and I'm pre-diabetes so I was a bit scared to try that. What do you think

I think they might say that he ate the forbidden fruit. Ashton Kutcher was hospitalized after eating only fruit for one month. It will definitely contribute to high sugar levels. Apart from that maybe acidity I have never tried any crazy yo yo dieting Happy to be alive

I have heard that dry fasting is like you avoid water completely. It is considered dangerous. Not much info

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Being strong willed and not letting yourself get impacted by anything. Be stronger than those who weaken you. Spit them out. Spew them out. Or use them and spew them out. But always be strong. The most important thing is to never be impacted and never suffer an impact even a little by the one trying to affect or cause harm. That's when you are the real winner. You have to be the strongest strong in order to triumph the ones who drag you down. Creepy snares lol

Concepts discussed Recap Streak/flow theory Invest in healing Building a domino tier Thinking dwiser Be organic about everything Importance of aesthetics conscious focus rather than instinctive/intuitive focus Critical thinking (only at random times) How to resume a flow back Passive form of aggression Negative motivators

What If the person you are in a relationship is someone struggling with a terminal illness. And if you decide to leave them, wouldn't that be like abandoning them.

Every move you take as a woman is important Even to the minutest detail #thatswhatcreepysnaresdoanyway

Be organic about everything

The 5 features of emotional intelligence Daniel Goleman determined that there are five fundamental features of EQ, each with their own benefits: Self-awareness Self-regulation Empathy Motivation Social skill 1. Self-awareness Self-awareness is the ability to accurately recognise your: emotions, strengths, limitations, actions and understand how these affect others around you. Benefits: Increases the likelihood of you handling and using constructive feedback effectively. By knowing your strengths and weaknesses you can improve your organisation's performance, for example, you may hire individuals who perform well in areas you struggle with. Improve self-awareness by: Keeping a diary of the situations that have triggered disruptive emotions in you, such as anger, and your thoughts and behaviours during those situations. With this information you can form an understanding of your emotions and reactions and work towards self-regulation. Receiving feedback from staff as this can highlight how others perceive you and it also helps you target unhelpful reactions. Observing the response others have to your behaviour. 2. Self-regulation Self-regulation allows you to wisely manage your emotions and impulses - you show or restrain certain emotions depending on what is necessary and beneficial for the situation. For example, rather than shouting at your employees when you're stressed you may decide which tasks can be delegated. Benefits: Self-regulation helps earn the respect and trust of employees. Useful when adapting to change. Allows you to react rationally. Improve self-regulation by: Taking responsibility if you have made mistakes. Rather than blaming others admit that you are at fault. You'll feel less guilty and your team will respect you for it. Responding to situations calmly as your communication is more effective when you're in this state and this feeling will spread to others. Breathing techniques, such as controlled breathing, can be useful practice. 3. Empathy To be empathetic means you are able to identify and understand others' emotions i.e. imagining yourself in someone else's position. Benefits: Provides you with an understanding of how an individual feels and why they behave in a certain way. As a result, your compassion and your ability to help someone increases because you respond genuinely to concerns. Especially helpful when delivering constructive feedback. Being empathetic shows your team that you care. For example, if a manager reacts angrily after finding out that an employee has been arriving to work late because their child is unwell, the team is likely to react negatively towards the manager. It would be more favourable for the manager to be understanding and agree on a plan of action with the employee, such as, the employee starting work earlier and finishing later. Employees will respect you more and subsequently job performance will improve. To develop empathy: Imagine yourself in someone else's position. Even if you have not experienced a similar situation, remember a situation where you have felt the same emotion your employee is experiencing. Practice listening to your employees without interrupting them. Observe your employees and try to gauge how they're feeling. Never ignore your employees' emotions, for example, if an employee looks upset don't disregard this - address it. Try to understand first rather than form a judgement. For example, you may initially feel annoyed at an employee who seems cold and disinterested. However, after discovering they suffer from social anxiety you may feel more sympathetic. To communicate your empathy keep your body language open and regulate your voice to show your sincerity. 4. Motivation Being self-motivated consists of: enjoying what you do, working towards achieving your goals and not being motivated by money or status. Benefits: Reduces your likelihood of procrastinating Increases self-confidence Keeps you motivated even if you face setbacks Makes you focused on achieving your goals Spreads to the team To increase your motivation: Remember why you're doing your job - maybe think about why you wanted it initially. Set new goals if you lack them. Remain optimistic because to be motivated you must be positive. Even when there is a setback or a challenge identify one positive factor about it. To increase your employees' motivation explain why they are valuable, using example, as this will provide them with a sense of purpose. 5. Social skills Effective social skills consist of managing relationships in a way that benefits the organisation. Benefits: Effective social skills helps you to build rapport with your employees and earn their respect and loyalty. Employees will trust you which is especially valuable if unwelcomed decisions have been made, such as a rise in performance targets. When you interact with your employees you can identify the best way to meet their individual needs and identify how their abilities can be used to achieve the organisation's aims. Staff will feel comfortable presenting ideas to you and discussing concerns. Improve social skills by: Developing your communication skills. Problems can arise if there is bad communication, such as, misunderstandings upsetting employees. Listen to feedback to work out what to target, for example, the manner in which you speak may need work or perhaps your body language. Learning how to provide praise and constructive feedback. Cooperating and working together with your employees because you are all working towards a shared goal. Listening to employees and practicing empathy. Building relationships with your employees will assist you in understanding how to manage each individual. Resolving conflict by looking at the situation from all the viewpoints involved and try to come to a compromise that benefits everyone.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify and manage your emotions, as well as other people's emotions. If you're emotionally intelligent you have the ability to: Identify what you're feeling Know how to interpret your emotions Understand how your emotions can impact others Regulate your own emotions Manage other people's emotions Some people naturally inherit high EQ but it's a skill that you can practice and develop. By practicing emotionally intelligent behaviours your brain will adapt to make these behaviours automatic and replace less helpful behaviours.

How to think like a Pudwiser

I can make this oil at home rather than buying this snake oil at 96 dollars plus tax.. No thanks

It's self defense and protecting the innocent from the wicked. This is going off topic so I won't comment more on this thread. Adieu

That's not violence, that's Kali.. Go become Kali

The problem of language, blabbery and Mental Gymnastics. The thing is that I always get tempted to easily react to mental gymnastics. It's tough not to. But I'll try. The other thing is the question "what's the point of blabbery?" The question I ask myself is "Why not invest in healing and aesthetics and more growth in non invasive/defensive ways? “ Growth does happen through antagonization and debate and relentless thought provocation. But can be stressful and overwhelming. Try growing through other positive non impactful and healing paradigm ways. Of course there is no denying that debates help in shadow work and understanding and learn the truth and the game of the world better, but it is a huge expenditure of peaceful energy, a huge cost in terms of restlessness and chaos Retain the peaceful energy and focus on growth instead.. The opportunity to grow through critical thinking is always at hand's reach. So don't suck into it. But rather start conscious focus rather than instinctive/intuitive focus. Or focus which is naturally inclined or allocated. Higher paradigm thinking. Think from a bigger tier. Higher wisdom. There is always a wisdom higher than yours and try to think from that tier. Leo's Structure Versus Content deals beautifully.... I need to think big picture think. But I'm going to reform it just a bit. Instead of saying big picture think I'll say high tier thinking. Think from the next higher tier of wisdom. Build it up like a Domino. Keep building

So this week I wrote about flow theory

Getting arrested can be for good reasons? “he beat up a guy to a pulp, so he spent 6 months in county jail. I felt responsible for that. February 1999 in Omaha Nebraska he was arrested for burglary. He was convicted. He spent 3 years in prison. He got out in February 2002.“ So I guess in your opinion, burglary is also for good reasons. I'm sorry but I'm not the type who rationalizes bad behavior. But good for you if you have reached that stage of spirituality

I was thinking about the importance of aesthetics How to think like a...... Pro

Did you forget the part that he was violent and had multiple arrests or did you just skim over that part?

Your husband is a white guy right. I'm assuming that your husband who is a white man is a good guy. I don't think you regret that. I have no idea why you would bring up the past about your native American boyfriend but maybe it could be an inner doubt bugging you. My point is this. The story you said about your native bf looks awful to me.. I'm sorry but I'm taking the side of your father. Whether you like it or not or if you consider me racist. He was being intelligent and only wanted the best for you. He wanted to protect you. Maybe he was right (just being blunt, not trying to blame). Your bf has shown some reprehensible behavior and if I were in your place, I would call quits right away. I don't think your father is racist if he is being legitimate. I don't get the logic. Your father is a white man. He is married to a Puerto Rican woman. How is he racist. If at all, it only proves that he is not racist. Your dad did the right thing imo