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@Raptorsin7 you are welcome

@Raptorsin7 I didn't find it anywhere. I create my own ideas and then put them into action.. So since the last week I had been thinking about working on trauma healing and the steps for it. So finally after some trial and error and scratching my head I came across this whole process where I will have to shed the previous chaotic thinking (arising from trauma) and then start to focus on small baby steps towards making bit by bit change. Now I'll explain each and every step in the model.. The first is grounding This means I need to bring myself to my myself, to the center of my body by simply reducing and cutting all distractions and simply looking at the center of my chest. This is where I will focus and it will instantly ground me.. Next I will do conscious focus.. I noticed that I suddenly get emotional when I think about my past trauma of child abuse and relationship abuse. This causes me to engage in this thinking and getting worked up which perpetuates the cycle of excessive thinking /feeling. This is because of intuitive or natural focus. We tend to focus on whatever catches our fancy without thinking if it's necessary for the moment.. So in order to avoid this, I have to simply try focusing more conscious focus and less natural focus. I'll need train my brain to immediately shift my focus on my task planner or stuff that needs to be done. Next is invest in healing This means every time I have the tendency to get distracted the negativity around me, I should repeat to myself the words "invest in healing" as a constant reminder so I'm not wasting my time in negativity. Next is set the goal. Now once prepared for the moment, set a goal.. For example my goal this week is to focus on improving my memory that I lost temporarily due to extreme stress and trauma Next is write the goal. In order to remember the goal I'll need to write it on a piece of paper or a card and keep it on my desk and also on my bedside table. Next is Write the flow Now comes the important part. I need to ask myself "Am I in the flow?" which means am I actively following this goal or not. If I'm actively following the goal I can reward myself for my progress. If I'm not actively progressing on my goal then I need to withdraw and sit back and start thinking why I'm not able to do it. What is the obstacles and see if I can get rid of them. Next is Positive push This is my concept I have described in the other journal in some detail. This basically means Nudging myself a bit lovingly and convincing myself and encouraging myself in a positive way to work on my goal so I don't take it as "pressure" or some compulsion.. I approach my goal freely. Initiation. This means the process of achieving my goal has begun in a more real sense and I am making considerable progress. Halfway through Initiation I will start rewarding myself in order to not lose my motivation. Hope I was able to explain successfully..

@Raptorsin7 will do later. Right now talkinh to someone

It's for healing from trauma.

8 step model Grounding Conscious focus Invest in healing Set the goal. Write the goal Write the flow Positive push Initiation

I'm thinking about the word "habitual nourishment and how good it makes me feel" Everyone is a unique sovereign individual Streak/flow theory Invest in healing Building a domino tier Thinking dwiser Be organic about everything Importance of aesthetics conscious focus rather than instinctive/intuitive focus Critical thinking (only at random times) How to resume a flow back Passive form of aggression Negative motivators

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Veggies and rice and chicken

A thousand teddies Cutesy .

I'm trying to understand the difference between the words victim and survivor and I think this difference is crucial to my journey of healing

This was inspiring

I suffered a major change emotionally in my life. So I decided I'll start on a fresh clean slate. And take parts from my previous experiences. So here I go

French fries contain high amount of carbohydrates. High carb diet leads to fattening over time. Won't happen overnight though

You are beating around the bush but not coming to the point. How can it be proven. What is the rationale ? How can it be a fact when I didn't see it happen. A claim of direct experience means nothing.

I need to call up my boyfriend. Although it's late. But I will call him I really want to call him in some time but I might just doze off.

To top it all off, how do we know it's a direct experience to begin with other than taking the words of the speaker at face value.

I'm talking about breatherianism. Breatherianism is completely different from dry tasting Look up

@DrewNows it's impossible. Plus no rational explanation given Sorry no evidence It would have been an invention of the century had it been legitimate

All you need is a brain and common sense. No research can triumph that.

@DrewNows that breatherian thing is nonsense

There is nothing like a teacher or even a cult. Because nobody teaches you or tries to teach you anything since you are an adult. So you can't place blame. Every place on this planet is always going to have stuff you won't agree with. It's a matter of semantics. Everyone cannot be pleased at the same time. You are expecting perfection which is a fault. The word cult only applies if you are forced to do something against your will. Groupthink is a real phenomenon and its expected for people who think similar to have a common bondage or institution and people who don't chime on the same frequency to feel left out. This is how groupthink tanks work. That's not a definition of a cult. Let's not undermine how much of a great resource Actualized org really is instead of focusing on things you don't like about it. Because just because you don't like does not mean others are in the same boat. Maybe they like what you don't like. Nobody can talk in absolutes. The one way to beat around this is to simply take in things that you resonate with and leave out things you do not resonate with . You cannot expect a system to run by your preference. It never works like that. Because if everyone had their preferences lined up, it will be impossible to find common ground. I'd suggest that if something doesn't chime with you, leave it out, you have no obligation or guilt to follow it. You aren't missing out on anything . Look outside and beyond but learn to integrate what you find outside with what you learn here and make your own salad. There will always be something to complain even about it teachers. Understand that what you learn here is just a paradigm out of many paradigms and not the absolute. No need to be fixated on this paradigm and get disoriented.

I'm going to be more focused on healing from now on. I think I need from all of the trauma I suffered a few years ago. And this can be the first step Right now I'm having an eyegasm just watching this.. Haha

@Average Investor @Nickyy Thanks for the suggestions!

You really meant to say that I can eat just fruit and I won't get diabetes. What do you suggest. Because I've been thinking about it since a long time and I'm pre-diabetes so I was a bit scared to try that. What do you think