Preety_India

It's not for everyone. Trust me. I am not seeing a lot of people into this wild west dating. As with everything else there are different schools of thought, different upbringing and different approaches to dating as well.

Try doing it intermittently.

You got brains. On point

Totally agree with this.

I need to get out of the emotional mess. I know that something is holding me down. And once I get out of it, I will be free and able to live and not just survive. The silence was deafening and he kept talking to the dead me.

The universe will collude to help you attain your objective if you are persistently at it. If you knock on God's door it will open.

I think that the Grounding that is there in me comes from my faith That feeling of recklessness and Grounding that I feel.

To understand that you can't have control on the ways of life. That things happen the way they happen and you have to just settle down and tone down your reactions and follow the principle of "first understand and then react." A lot of people get angry because of premature judgment or jumping to conclusions. Try to understand and listen to what the other person to saying before reacting based on your pre judgement. Another thing is acceptance. Accept a situation that you cannot change in the now. Not being able to accept makes you feel agitated and angry. So accept. Distraction. If the anger is building up, distract yourself with work till the anger dissipates. You might want to look into dietary aspects. Certain foods trigger emotions more strongly. Like sugary foods make me more emotional. Certain foods that are spicy tend to create feelings of restlessness when eaten too much. Check your health. Having health issues can become a precursor to anger issues. Like bp. Exercise reduces anger big time. Releases endorphinsd

I think both genders tend to do this for giving a socially appropriate and acceptable answer. I'm not sure though. Because I still think that these women are not really lying and maybe It's just a perception in the dating world that women are not aware of what they really want or lie to themselves..

This problem is interrupting my FLOW . Once I'm able to either contain the problem or resolve it, I will get back my flow in life. Since the problem has already robbed and drained so much from me, I'll pledge to myself that I won't allow it to damage or drain or steal my life any further. There is a huge opportunity cost associated with this problem. And I'll always remember that. Finally I'm breaking the grip.

I'm going to be using 2 terms to deal with the "BIGGEST HURDLE OF MY LIFE." These 2 terms are flow and crackdown. So I'll need to be very very very like ultra strict while dealing with the current ongoing problem in my life. So I'm going to call it the CRACKDOWN MISSION of my life. This mission will continue for next 3 months. I anticipate that the problem be at least manageable if not completely solved by the end of next 3 months and if not 3 months then by 6 months. I have kept a deadline of May 2 for the problem to get resolved by. And if not May then by August 25. This is my crackdown year. 2020. If I'm not able to solve this hurdle I will have a serious downspiral in my life. I want to put a FULL STOP to this problem once and for all. Because its stifling my growth big time. Without resolving it all of my spiritual effort will be pointless.

I am thinking about the biggest question in my life that has been bothering me for a long time. And I guess it's time for me to turn over the page of my life and dissolve the past and start over a new leaf. This is going to be very difficult. This chapter of my life has been going on for many years now. So it's finally time to fix it, now or never. Because I have taken too much of the rut. It's time for me to move on. I need to work extra hard this month to solve the hardest most impossible problem of my life. Of course that b is not going to help me. So I'm left on my own to fix things. This hurdle is going to be the hardest. I need lots of inner strength to work out this thing. I have faith in God. So hopefully God will pull me through this curse of my life. This has been the hardest most grueling the worst hurdle of my life. I feel that only a miracle can save me. I do believe in miracles sometimes. Maybe it's a mind in despair that wants to believe in it. I also need a great dose of sunshine and happiness to pull myself out of this huge quagmire that I'm stuck in. But maybe just maybe there is hope for the restless soul. Maybe one day there will be justice. Maybe one day there will be closure. Maybe one day there will be freedom. I'm looking forward to it with lots of hope and faith. Once the ray of light and hope illuminates my darkness, I'll be very grateful and happy to move on. This is how I feel right now.

I feel like I have come so far in my awareness. I can't imagine. A year ago everything felt like a blank board. All blank squares. And now I feel like these blank squares are gradually filling with color. My awareness is expanding at the speed of light.

The other concept is about Filtering in and Filtering out. When you are dealing with incompatible people or ideas, there should be filtering out. When the person is compatible, there should be filtering in. Other concept was about self esteem. Low self esteem and fatal self esteem. Low self esteem is when you feel unworthy. Fatal self esteem is when your identity is based on properties/assets like social status, money, relationships, social standing, group dynamics. Your persona and choices get significantly altered as a result of fatal self esteem. You change to fit in. Generally observed in narcissists. The other concept is about personality alterations. If you find yourself in a relationship where you feel like your personality is changing rapidly but not in a progressive manner, meaning you are doing things that you wouldn't normally do and how you are doing is impacting your well-being, then you need to quit that relationship.

Two new concepts One is natural behavior and triggered behavior. The behavior under natural circumstances is natural behavior. The behavior under special circumstances is triggered behavior. I forgot the other concept.

What a lot of men might not be getting is that discovering their inner manhood can go a long way than looking for approval from a girl or girls. I guess sometimes it's the low self esteem in men that makes them want the approval of many women to feel wanted and accepted and like a pro. But I guess some man with a higher self esteem will feel secure enough to just get the one right woman he wants. Now what if men took the whole dating thing as an elimination process rather than a method of getting maximum approvals and hits. What if a man thinks that every girl who rejects him wasn't meant for and through frequent rejections from several women till he narrows down to the one woman who is really attracted to him and wants him. That way he makes it like a narrowing down or elimination process like if you're searching a needle in a haystack. But first you'll need to remove the hay to see the needle. Same way he can ultimately find the right woman for himself who likes him and he won't feel dejected by the rejections because those rejections helped him find his perfect match or perfect woman for himself. But for that he will need a great deal of self confidence and self awareness and a stoic confidence in his manhood and identity. That way he is able to screen out unhealthy women who get attracted to the bad guys and get the normal healthy woman who is attracted to his good qualities. This way he has a chance to not only become the best version of himself but also attract the best version of the woman who is compatible to his values. Of course all of this would need a great deal of patience and persistence on his side but the fruits of his labor are going to be sweet.

Yep. In the context of the video.. For the same scenario what happens when the genders are reversed?

What happens when the gender is reversed? Do you think when a man says women, is he talking about his woman?

Maybe it's solid advice. I found it too generic not something to pay for. But glad you found him resourceful. (Glad I'm not married lol. ) His way of talking is smooth btw.

I'm just so consumed with the anxiety of seeing the therapist tomorrow. I feel so uneasy. Like I don't want to see the guy. I don't want their intrusive questions. Wish I could postpone tomorrow's appointment. But can't do that once it's booked. Fingers crossed. Just don't want that guy say something ridiculous to me or put me on meds. I have tried meds before. They don't work for me. And I'll be going with my sister. And I don't want my sister to pressure the therapist. Like she usually does. I think the therapist should allow me to talk instead of jumping to weird conclusions.

He is regurgitating the same things that the average guy around the street would say. I'm baffled that he even has a Patreon. Rip off. He is saying all the obvious things that are already out there. Of course a woman is always looking for a high value guy. Every guy has to invest in self growth to get the woman he wants or else a lot of women are going to ignore. Women are kinda business centric not in a bad way. They just want more value in life. She likes the guy who adds the highest value to her life. It's natural survival instinct in women.

I've returned home and it feels amazing. Tired but glad that everything went well.. I need to unpack and get things sorted out. Tomorrow I have an appointment with the therapist. Hope it goes well. For the rest of the day iwill be focusing on meditation in the evening, attending a satsang meeting later in the evening. But I'm planning to spend just 15 mins because got some form filing to do. I will be collecting all of my spiritual practices and lining them up, I got to do them seriously next week on. I don't want any further delay. Andrew will be home in the evening and planning to have dinner with him. Hey cutie

I also purchased pink Himalayan salt for the second time from the kiosk at the hotel. I'm planning to use it while cooking. It was good the last time I used but the bottle was too old so I had to throw it out..

1 hour remaining and I will be returning home.. This will be a great day. On my way ill be reading this short meditation book I purchased while at the center last month.. I'm seriously looking into different meditation practices now.. That one that will suit me in my spiritual journey..

Yay only a few hours left and I'll be done with the whole juggling of work. The seminar will be over in a few hours. And I'll get some rest. After that I'll need to do some packing at the hotel to return back home.