Preety_India

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  1. You nailed it. Those two words are the root cause of much of the festering problems. That is the bottleneck. Those two words block every progress.
  2. Reading about the coronavirus every day reminds me of a famous saying.. “The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis.” by Dante. The best that governments can do at this point is to be very honest about statistics and numbers Being authentic will be better than caring about calming the panic. Hiding numbers won't help anyone. It's like Escaping the situation. I like how Italy handled this. They weren't scared to tell the numbers to the world. They weren't scared to announce a lockdown and emergency. They let the whole world see what's happening in their country. They held nothing back, totally transparent. There is nothing to fear. Fear of judgement is worse than actual fear. Fear of judgement cripples and stifles everything. This pandemic will test the quality of honesty more than anything. It will show why being honest always helps in the long run. There is no point in caring about the status. Maintaining a good display. It's like wearing a nice gown to the party while your house is burning down. There's no point in trying to maintain a facade, an outward pretentious showy display or giving false hope if the inner numbers are grim. This is not about panicking or not panicking. It's about facing reality in the best possible way and just doing your best in this challenge. This is not about winning or losing or clinching a title. This is not about a feather in the cap and I hope the American politicians don't capitalize on this situation which they're more or less likely to do given their current behavior. We don't need word salad out of a politician's mouth that gives everyone warm fuzzies and zero substance.
  3. I successfully escaped the relationship by breaking up with him. I felt better. But the healing needs time. I do get nightmares and sweats arising from all the chaos and fear and panic I experienced during the relationship. It's still there sometimes especially when I have a dream where in the dream my ex is talking to me. Narcissistic echo chamber red pilled on survival. Every word is apd and npd.. Do screening of texts and calls.
  4. I went through so much narcissistic abuse with my ex. I will call it narcissistic trauma syndrome. A set of symptoms that arise out of deep fear and terror felt with a controlling narcissistic abuser.. Finally I'm able to put a name to my symptoms. I remember waking up with a ball of fear coming to my throat when I was in a relationship with him. He would control everything. I had to always impress him. I never felt free. I never used to do anything on my own. It was like psychological pressure I couldn't explain. In my mind I knew that this was all wrong. I knew that I don't have to do whatever he says.
  5. I'm not stepping out because of the coronavirus threat. But I'm also feeling so lonely. This is the week I had so many plans on shopping. I had no idea the coronavirus was going to spread so quickly and suddenly there is panic everywhere. My neighbors are all wearing masks. I can see anxiety on people's faces I'm the only person who is not wearing a mask. I just don't know. I am so not ready for all of this because I have been so exhausted the past couple of weeks dealing with my family issues and other woes. Andrew is in another city for his work since 3 weeks and he isn't able to travel here because of the virus scare. I told him not to travel. But this whole thing sucks. Everything. Just about everything. I have no idea.. My ex is waiting for me to offer him emotional support because he says he is lonely. He sends me random text messages and I tried blocking him but I'm not able to block his messages unfortunately. Everything is beginning to look like a mess. Everything has been thrown into chaos.
  6. Just because somebody hates you, you don't need to change yourself.
  7. You haven't done anything angelic in your life. You've only done damage control.
  8. Everything on the emotional plane is going to change so rapidly.
  9. Time for the forever sleep emoji
  10. @purerogue he still hasn't banned all EU flights. Flights from Ireland and UK are allowed! That's sad.
  11. Your so called aren't so pristine or innocent or pure or wonderful as you think. Not even perfect.
  12. Aftermath messages
  13. My ex called me today and was trying to have a conversation. He was psychologically abusive when we were together.
  14. @Dutch guy but the general attitude of the government is dismal. Look at the American government for example. Trump wasn't taking it seriously until the whole of Europe started to scramble. The government is not ready to care of the homeless who are most vulnerable. I can see more drama unfolding.
  15. No I don't agree at all. I couldn't disagree more. It's all the opposite of the so called good. This threat is only exposing the darker side of humanity more than ever. It shows how humans even in this time of need are more focused on money and economy and capitalism and profiteering. The government doesn't want to give paid sick leave. Even if they do, it's hardly a few days Nobody is giving a rat's ass to how many people are taking ill. This looks like the scenario of the movie Titanic. Everyone is left to fend for themselves. Political parties are playing the blame game and will utilize this opportunity for chest thumping and drumming up votes. Saying "I did a better job than him." The hospitals are not prioritizing elders. They are doing the opposite. They want to save who they can. People are fighting in the American supermarkets over toilet paper in the store alleys. It's a mayhem and chaos. And it's showing the true colors of people, government, politicians and general humanity
  16. I am with a man now who makes me so much happier. I can be myself again. I don't have to question who I am or feel guilty like in my last relationship. I don't need to feel like I was being judged and tested anymore. Because honestly and frankly it wasn't fair for me either. The way I was being treated.
  17. Some stuff needs to change.
  18. I told him finally. Relief
  19. You might feel traumatic when a person suddenly gives you a cold shoulder. WO syndrome
  20. Because they cut you off hurting your emotions because they don't have any emotion so they end up giving you emotional shock
  21. The whole situation the way I see it, it's unfair to me.
  22. Try to have meaningful relationships in your life
  23. I just slipped and broke a glass. I feel so upset.. Damn..... Shitty me ??
  24. @Nahm Thank you so much for this. I really needed it.