Preety_India

Climax is an important step in sex. Without it the person feels dissatisfied or not reached the level they wanted. I guess it's just a natural expectation. It can be laid off sometimes but then the quality of sex doesn't feel great. This is just my preference. Maybe others are okay not always having it. That's the point of sexual chemistry and compatibility. If they both cannot make it enjoyable then they are not suitable for each other. But I was more suited with my third ex because the sex was effortless and there was no need to put extra effort to make it enjoyable. It was naturally enjoyable. I'd call it perfect match in bed..

So true. The notion of facial and body beauty also changes all the time. Funny how the mind works.

@LaucherJunge I wouldn't completely dismiss the role of appearance in sex. What I meant was that looks can't decide how sex is going to be.. A sexy body does not translate as good sex. Good sex will depend on many factors and the most important being the sexual chemistry between the two. This is only decided in the bed. You find the person attractive (like me and my ex were attracted to each other's body but couldn't make it into great chemistry in bed) even body focused sex needs interest, charisma, the hormonal flow and the tuning which I call compatibility. Often the bodies are great to look at (for both gender) but right when they have sex they are bored or unable to keep it going or one will climax before the other. Like with my ex, he had a problem of premature ejaculation. He would already (you know) before it even began and then I wouldn't get to enjoy it and even when he got good at it, it felt like ordinary regular sex. Nothing special. But with the third ex, it was amazing like we both got hooked at it. So appearance can fool a lot.

Porn changes the way men look at women and their perception towards them. They start getting attracted to a specific type of body especially the one they watch often. The funny part is that the quality of sex depends really on chemistry and not on the woman's body. A woman with big tits and ass can also be boring in bed whereas another woman with a flat body can have a great experience with sex and knows how to get it done. It ultimately depends on the person who you're with and not on the body type or size. Same goes with men. Not necessary that a guy with a hot bod and a big (that) is going to be great at sex. These are perceptions. Sex is about chemistry in the bed and a certain compatibility. You might get turned on for a while but getting turned on = is not sex. Sex is a whole different thing. Unless you are only interested in masturbating at sexy pictures. Masturbating = is not sex. Sexy and sex are two different things. It's not necessary that a sexy man/woman are going to be great at sex. There are people who enjoy great sex or are a beast at it without looking sexy. Applies to both gender.. With my second ex, we used to get sexual with each other and find each other sexy but the sex was still boring. It lacked sexual chemistry. There was no problem with his or my appearance, we used to get turned on looking at each other but the sex wasn't great, use gk feel ordinary. With my third ex, the sex was amazing. I was the same person. He was sexy too. The sex was effortless and the sexual compatibility and chemistry was perfect. So the sex was great. Appearance doesn't decide it. So whatever way you look at a woman or whether you find her sexy or not, the final destination is still a long way. Until you have a real relationship with her, you wouldn't know the nature of the sexual chemistry between the two of you. Till then it's only mysterious speculation. Too many men fall for that bullshit.. A woman will try to attract them with large tits and then when it comes to sex, she is not even interested. She was only looking for attention. This I came to know from my ex boyfriends and their stories with their exes.. You only figure out everything about it all after experience in romance and sex. Experience is king.

@DivineSoda Beautifully said.

Girls don't like being challenged all the time. They can get irritated very easily if you keep trying to get a reaction out of them. This only works if the guy has great sexual energy and charisma. Best strategy is to be her best friend. Talk nice. Be nice.. Be funny. Show a little bit of neediness. Too much neediness can repel her away. With neediness you need a balance. It's like a push pull thing. Girls don't want to feel that the guy is too desperate because it can make her feel uncomfortable or watched. Too little neediness can make her feel like the guy just doesn't care or make him look arrogant or dud. So keep a nice playful balance. Plain text is boring. Add voice messages and video calls. Be chatty. Girls like chatty guys. Silent type guys just don't stand a change because the girl always needs some fodder for chat or conversation. Give her that fodder. Invent topics. Don't expect her to invent a topic. Because she is expecting you to do it. With my second ex, there was always a texting problem. I always wanted to be chatty with him but he had nothing to rely or talk about. He just wouldn't ever start a conversation and wait for me and when I would start, he wouldn't have anything to reply. So it soon got very boring. To get along with girls aka the Ladies man, you gotta understand how the female brain loves and what her heart desires.. And most girls like girly stuff. It's doesn't mean you have to discuss that stuff with them. But understand that she is girly. She won't communicate the way a guy does. She will like it peppy,chatty, light, funny and hearty. So you will need to expect her to be a way a girl is and not criticize her for that.. Praise always works.. Women like being praised. Because it makes them feel important or wanted by the guy. Give her that room. Respect boundaries of the girl.. You can't win her heart by breaking her boundaries. That's a huge mistake. If she says she is tired or not wanting to talk or does not like a particular topic, forcing her and breaking her boundary will be disrespectful. She won't appreciate it at all. A woman immediately takes that as a sign of "inconsiderate guy"... So don't do that. If she says she doesn't like a particular word or topic, drop it.. In short pay attention to her needs and boundaries and show her you care. With winning girls a lot is around creating trust. Women like that word. They have been conditioned since centuries to look for men who provide comfort, security and trust. No woman likes a man who makes her feel insecure and acts untrustworthy. In fact they pull away immediately at even slightest signs of mistrust. With the internet there are many bad type guys so it's tough for women to place trust online so you need to go the extra mile in building trust. Give her attention when she needs. A woman has the "counting brain".. She is subconsciously counting every step, facial expression, even emojis and little things you say or do.. This is female nature. Men don't take things very seriously. But women can take a little thing and make a big deal. So your every word counts in her brain. She might not show you her reaction at first but she will think about it later.. Once you decode female nature it's very easy to get chatty with them.

Yes of course. Bottled up emotions lead to a ticking time bomb. No spiritual growth if the emotional biosphere is stunted.

He is not open minded to new dimensions.

Unboxing love

It was like a mixture of sorts. Random thoughts and images scattered throughout the dream. There was no story or flow this time. I saw Selena Gomez and she was a kid. She was appearing for a show and she sounded strange. Suddenly there was a huge controversy around it. So I thought to myself, "aren't we all different as kids?" maybe we sounded different and it changed over time. I saw Oprah Winfrey. But she was very young like in high school. Her mother was a famous Broadway actress and there was a this tall black guy that she used to call Uncle and he already awarded her with a Kid's version of the Oscar for her acting performance. He told her mom that Oprah is super talented and will make a name for herself. Her mother didn't believe it though. I saw myself as a kid in the dream. And I was wearing a little pink frock. I was dancing around. Everyone was making jokes. People talked too fast for me. I couldn't process everything. It was all so mixed up. I saw a lot of pink crochet and pearls and short dresses and hair bands all the cute girly stuff It seemed like everyone was playing dress up. End of the dream. I had multiple dreams in a row one after another. But I forgot the one that was before this one..

Jordan Peterson is a very delusional person. He has a victim mentality based view of the world. He is caught up in his own little world, unaware of reality.

Most jobs and successful careers and positions need a ton of hard work. The only think I can think of where a one time sale will make you super rich is something like stocks, a large house or a piece of art, a music album or drugs. These things are either illegal or they need family inheritance which means a jackpot or unbelievable talent like a specially unique talent that nobody has like a unique voice. But even then to continue building wealth, you'll need to work hard in the chosen career. Most people who get rich quick are usually into something illegal. Impossible otherwise or they have some influence which is again illegitimate or illegal. You could get rich overnight but to maintain your legacy you'd still need to work hard. If not hard work, then you'll need an exceptional skill, ability or talent to compensate for the lack of hard work. Even tapping the market and making a sale is a skill and not everyone has it. Relationships do help a lot. But most people don't have such connections. They just can't be in high places meeting those people. Plus there's no guarantee that your career will kick off just because of great relationships. Most people want to be associated with lawyers, bankers, movie stars, producers but despite their good relations they don't achieve much success and sometimes nothing at all. To me success is defined more by what you become rather than what you collect or achieve. But in the real world success is measured by stuff you get or positions you climb, but there is no set rule for it, so many people are considered rich and successful just because they have rich famous parents. It means nothing to me. Personal growth is more important to me than achieving something. Success is just another trap if it's devoid of personal growth.

You can never find any person who is totally perfect in the whole universe. One can't decide the levels of consciousness. That would be like a judgement game. Also the people who appear highly conscious today might end up doing something low conscious tomorrow. Nothing is certain. I understand that we can't use labels like "most spiritual" because that really doesn't stick but there is no other way of wording it. Following a guru begins with a certain level of trust which is necessary or else it creates an inertia of boredom, no anticipation, nothing to be excited about. It's a different thing if the trust gets broken which should be accepted as the natural course of things.. Only hero worshiping is dangerous. But don't see the danger in following public figures who have displayed high conscious behavior and good quality teachings for years.

@LaucherJunge lol. Gotcha

I use a soft pillow on my lower back because I suffer from scoliosis. I can't use hard material because it will hurt my back even more. Sometimes I use the chair. The chair is wooden and a bit bent on the inner back side so it holds my back very comfortably. I use the side part or arm of the couch. This side is a bit harder and firm and I use it sometimes for meditating. I also sit in my garden and outdoors where I lean against the tree and that's been the most helpful out of all methods. The swaying of the tree and the breeze and the natural sunlight is a huge boost for meditation. My breathing is very free and I can easily focus. I also do walking meditation around the corridor on the back side of my house. There is this cemented corridor that leads to the garden. So I walk there back and forth and focus on my present moment while walking. The best meditation for me is outdoors. Because of the coronavirus situation I'm avoiding going anywhere out so I practice inside the house only. Either use a pillow or a stand to rest your back on. Don't use any surface that even slightly hurts because that will press the nerves. I use yoga mat usually. Just a soft mat. But to avoid numbness I stretch in between or stand up for 3 minutes and then start again.. I sometimes don't maintain the lotus position but keep my legs fully stretched for some periods to avoid hurting. I sit in this position to avoid numbness Focus on the pressure you put on the legs. Immediately lift your knee or leg the moment you see pressure on the leg.

Wanderlust and Moonlove.

This reminds me a lot about Osho Cool

Meditation is not a distraction unless you want it to be. You are dealing with a breakup which can be hard to deal with so give yourself a "healing period" and a "healing process," during this process you need to vent rather than ignore or hide your feelings. Meditation is not the suppression of feelings, it's about achieving peace and clarity. Thoughts and emotions can easily become intense and troubling, although allowing such thoughts is making you feel free in the moment, but the moment these thoughts become intrusive and overbearing, you would want to desperately run away from them. At that time, meditation will ground you and not let you go overboard with your emotions. Think of meditation as an aid for emotional balance rather than repression or suppression of emotions. The aftermath of a breakup can be filled with feelings of regret, guilt, shame, anger, revenge, discomfort etc, learn to not to be too attached to these emotions but let them come and go because this is the healing process, it's like watching your wounds heal but you have to see the blood, it's not pleasant to look at it but don't be too impacted by it. So the healing process will not be pleasant and you will need to cope with it before you emerge completely out of it. When your time is harder, you'll find it difficult to look at the big picture, don't be too impatient to suddenly decide the trajectory of your life, take one day at a time. Your reactions may be overwhelming but let them be. Just don't be too affected by them. The release of these emotions is important during "after breakup" period. Take as much rest as you need. Self care is important during the post break up period because this is the time during which most people neglect themselves a lot and so you need to be careful about that part. It's good to know that you find comfort in solitude and see its potential in honing creativity. It's a bit hard during this time to keep a balance between both work and emotional release and I have been through that. You'll need to be strong and focus on work when you need and when you devoted sufficient time to work during the day, you could take some time off to rest a bit during which you could allow your emotions to be released. This is a hard thing to do but meditation will greatly help you to balance this delicate mental control. Calm your mind down and just be in the moment and do what needs your maximum attention in that moment, a sort of "in the moment" meditation practice that you can do daily just before starting work. This is basically taming the mind. This does not mean that you are blocking emotions, you are only putting them off for later because you got work to do. The exact dilemma you're facing is that you don't want to lose your emotions but you also don't them to impact, distract and upset you and keep you away from work. This is a very common issue faced during the "aftermath" period. However don't be too hard on your heart. Work can be done slowly. Your emotions are important. So they shouldn't be ignored or else it leads to repression inside leading to formation of shadows or even agitating when those emotions are not addressed. Hence I emphasized so much on releasing those emotions. Imagine emotions like hot steam blowing across your face. The steam needs to blow and be fully released but you shouldn't end up burning your face. So you need a cushion to protect your face. Similarly you need a safety valve so that the pressure is controlled. Meditation at this point will serve as a safety valve. So don't ignore your emotions. How to get emotions to the surface? By letting yourself feel the way you feel without feeling sorry or bad for it. Let it come. If you felt anger or backlash or guilt, let it be. Don't act on these emotions, like calling your girlfriend, all that, it will only make it worse. Just let the emotions be felt. Two most important thoughts to have during such a period to have a proper closure at the time of exiting the period are Acceptance (acceptance of the situation) Letting Go. You might experience a lot of resistance and mental turmoil, "should I call her or not?" "was this right?" etc etc type of thoughts bugging you and almost throwing you off the edge. During such thoughts, immediately bring in "Acceptance".... Let go.. Let go all the resistance and friction. Accept whatever happened even if the mind doesn't want to. Bring in peace through acceptance and letting go.

@Leo Gura thanks for leaving that link. Didn't know this video existed.

Not sure if you are being sarcastic. But much of the mainstream information is true. But I understand that there can be loopholes and sometimes exaggeration of facts and figures. What I would recommend is to do a bit of fact checking. But at the same time I understand the limitations of fact checking also. We aren't actually visiting a place and checking out for ourselves but relying on the word given to us. This is a very complicated issue and a very complicated question because it has no specific objective solution. Almost anything can be a lie. What are the limits that help you ascertain the truth of a piece of information? Is it an audio or a video, a live recording? A stamp of approval from an agency? The problem here is two pronged - - one is that the source that you're relying on for the truth or facts can itself be biased in its agenda in serving the information to you so you never know what the intent was behind the information and if or other helpful information was purposely held back. The second is the problem with technology. Let's say you watch a video. You instantly want to believe what you are watching. Because it's a video after all. Now I'll present you a distinct problem with videos. Here is an example. The video shows a clip of President Obama lip syncing a speech at an institution. (but it's fake and for the purpose of humor) When I watched this video, I instantly believed it but I still felt a sense of doubt so I checked the comment section and the internet to verify and it turns out that the video and the audio are carefully and heavily edited to give the impression that he is lip syncing. This is a real danger because many people are going to believe it as true if additional information is not provided Now towards the end of the video, it obviously becomes clear that it's all staged and it's for humor, but what if that part is cut out. And if this video gets released by mainstream media, then it will be instantly believed. So here you see how misusing technology can instantly change the information you are trying to review. Also, take into account the fact that a lot of mainstream media sources or channels tend to simply copy each other in succession like parroting each other's scripts without initially trying to verify it. This chain copying presents another problem with transcribing information. It's like the classic problem of the Telephone game. A lot of information is still circulated via the word of mouth fashion, only the agency or technology used is different. Even slight manipulation of information renders it vulnerable to propaganda and therefore useless. If it's so difficult to trust mainstream media then it's even more difficult to trust alternative media because they add a lot of their own juice into it.. I already showed you that even actual physical evidence can be manipulated through the use of technology. Unless you are the first hand eyewitness of an incident, everything that you are learning about it is always from another source whose true intentions will never be known. So we can always say that we should only look for facts and evidence and constantly fact check but understand that even evidence that looks like evidence can be manufactured by diplomatic intent or the evidence can be manipulated or tampered before it reaches the audience.

Yea that would be great

By following mainstream media.

wisdom of life I was going to write a post on this. But it will take too long. Don't have enough time right now. So I'll keep it to the title and add my insights later.

Separating the self from certain things. In order to have more balance, I need to learn to let go. Let go of my attachments. Remember to use statements like "they are who they are" "this is what it is" Separate it from your world. "this world is this world". You can separate it from your own world. Don't partake in that world. Let your world be different.

I love your threads. Keep posting more and more. It's very motivating. You're doing a great job.