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Imo.... Not saying this is the general opinion or this is how it is. Redpill = sexist male bullshit. These are male sexism apologists. They will do anything to not change their minds. And they have existed since time immemorial. These are not quality people with quality relationships. The get their ideas about women from low quality relationships.. They use it to generalize all women. Male female dynamics go deep and a lot to do with social conditioning along with biology. Most of these men do not have or never had a functional relationship with a woman. A real woman.. There is one simplest way to debunk all you have written trying to pass it of as truth Any man with a working functional relationship with a woman and who doesn't need looks or money to attract women, will he ever join the following groups? PUAs (pick you artists - guys who try to bang a bunch of women) -MRAs (men’s rights activists - I think this kinda fits into the red pill a little) -Incels (involuntary celibates - basically virgins) -MGTOWs (men going their own way - men who don’t associate with women) The flat out answer is no. Because a happy man doesn't need to have theories on how women are. He cares more about being happy with her rather than thinking about how to keep her or himself happy.. All these groups represent frustrated and bitter men who seek a justification for their frustration through a Twisted philosophy to match their inner state of mind.. It's Called self deception not truth. Self deception masquerading as truth. It's like the tale of the fox and the grapes. If the grapes are out of reach, the fox automatically assumes the grapes aren't worth eating because they are sour anyway. Same thing. These men find a way to pigeonhole women into character roles so that they can legitimize their lack of success. They are unable to accept that they are fundamentally lacking something that creates a lacuna in their relationships. So to round it off, they go around spewing their sexist philosophy to avoid having to justify the lack of sustaining and healthy relationship with a female in their lives. So what do they do? They turn into womanizers and then justify it so that they don't have to feel guilty about having shitty one night stands with women. All the science they speak of based on empirical evidence acquired from relationships with a low quality crowd. If they have to be with a high conscious high quality woman, they will get instantly rejected and they will never stand a chance. Obviously they won't even try and try to make the woman look unattractive to justify them being rejected.. All these men have to do is work harder on their manhood and be good quality men in the first place to attract good quality women. But they don't wanna do that. They don't want to change. So they take the short cut and blame everything on women and gender politics, feminism and biology. God made men and women perfect in their biologies. And good men understand this biology and don't exploit it, but rather align with it. The left over men are not interested in understanding the biology of a woman and they bring up distorted theories to suit their worldview.. Red pill is garbage and red pill is lies.. And the matrix analogy is simply to make it look new-agey. Red pill is the most dangerous philosophy in the world that consumes men and makes them toxic. If you want happiness, then don't fall into it.

@Igor82 Seems like you're using her as a crutch and at some point she has realized this and that's why she repels you like hot coal. But if you're like a person who totally wants her for your survival meanwhile she lives her best life, this parasitic relationship won't last long. The best idea is not to see how things will work but to drop it. There is no harmony or alignment in this relationship. All I see is problems of the ego draining the joy the relationship possibly could have created. You will need a heavy dose of self acceptance and self love.. You're latched onto her like a lackey who sees her existence as a means of accepting the self. This won't work. If you guys get together, your problems will get bigger, it's like fanning the flames rather than calming the flames. You have got some serious issues with self acceptance, it comes across as self hate. You are just 17. Maybe you judge yourself too much. You have a long way to go. At this age you wouldn't know much about the world and hence your vulnerability is attracting someone to rely on and she has sensed it over time. Also you are putting all of your hard emotions on her. This can be hard for her to deal with because at her age, she would only want peace. This relationship is based on false expectations and is bogus. It's your mind convincing you that it's something good, in reality it is blocking your path of self development and for her, it is a distraction and an unnecessary thing she has grown to and just allowed to drag on with her. So the best way is to leave this relationship and focus on your self development, key areas being self love and self esteem and self compassion. Self acceptance and ego transcendence. And once you reach a pretty decent level on the self actualization scale, you'll meet someone who reciprocates your love and neediness equally and is totally happy with you. But right now you will need to uproot this neediness with self love and be emotionally independent and responsible for your emotions. This is the best advice I can give..

A few pointers from your post. I'm getting all sorts of disconnected thoughts and Tidbits from your post that I'll assemble here.. Because your post does not appear very lucid to me. A lot of the stuff looks like rambling, repetition and less details. And when I answer threads, I'm absolutely honest, because there's no point in being dishonest. So coming to the pointers. It seems like she is not really happy with you and you seem to be trying too hard to convince her that you love her and at the same time you kinda take her for granted and end up saying something hurtful to her in the name of radical honesty. Honesty is good and women appreciate genuine emotions but don't expect women to laud you and hug after hearing some bitter honesty from your mouth. If the truth hurts then it hurts and she is right in expressing her upset or hurt. You have to be a bit open about exactly what you say that's hurtful to her. Whether it's radical honesty or not, can be decided later. Because a lot of guys use the garb of honesty to just hurt. You're too young for not only this relationship given the age difference but even young for relationships in general. I don't want to say that you're a kid, but when I was 17, I could not have imagined a serious mature relationship, maybe nothing beyond a crush. The human mind grows so much from the ages of 17 to 25,who knows how your state of mind will be at that age I am very different than who I was at 17. Priorities change significantly. Her issue of not committing. To me that's a sign that she really doesn't want this relationship but cannot say no to you. Maybe she is infatuated with you. She sees you as desirable yet she doesn't see a future with you. Maybe that has to do with your age. She probably thinks you are too young to commit to and her Insecurities being that you might start dating women your age a few years down if she really plans to commit. There has to be an Insecurity that is blocking her from being in the relationship on a serious level. That's why she didn't have sex again. When women don't have sex sometimes it's a signal that they really don't wanna get too deep into it. Your flaws as you admit might either magnify or shrink, there is no telling what course your state of mind is going to take. She doesn't want to lose the chance of having the attention of a younger man but at the same time she doesn't want to hurt you by committing and later breaking up. So long term this relationship will see a demise. Her interactions over time can become less interesting. So why let it go there. This relationship doesn't look like fruitful in the long term. In fact it looks very fragile and non committal to me. Your mom is also probably right She is successful in other areas of her life, smart and independent, but you've just started life, this gives her further reason to not rely much on you. Maybe she liked the sex and just like the lsd she does, a few sexual trips with you will also do her good. She seems to be holding the cards in the relationship. Nothing much can be done. You have to eventually forget her. She is not a serious relationship but just a fling To be very honest, a standard relationship does not begin with both people clueless about the future and no desire to be with each other. Saying things like "I can't promise you" is already a dead end a red flag. Lovers more than anything are very eager to show commitment lest they lose the partner to someone else, most lovers are already planning on being with each other with a lot of zeal and excitement. She is giving a cold response like a dead fish. Then she backpedals and probably doesn't want to lose you so she sort of comes up with this thought that something is possible, yada yada, this is her confusing you and giving you a justification for alll that confusion. A woman of her age cannot be very confused, so to me she is just bluffing. She wants you around but she wants to already ensure that at some point you know that this is not going anywhere so she doesn't feel responsible in any way. That's why she is covering her base. I'd say that you need to make up your mind. You can take her as a fling, maybe for a few months enjoy her company but then get prepared to forget her. Because she is not at all serious about this however you are hopelessly seeking her Also the fact that you took a break from her. I don't know how to feel about that. I have never taken a break in any of the relationships I had. There was just no need to. The break signifies that you guys are not too attached, not as much as you would want to believe

Is this OCD?

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My life purpose is not very grounded. Currently I have just started Leo's life purpose course. My job is event management and financial investment and I'm doing a pretty good job at it. So I don't need to strive for money. That side is sorted out for now. I like to help people a lot, especially when it comes to psychology. And I'm currently taking interest in this area. The thing is I'm prone to a particular problem. I'm not a very social person. I lack intimacy. The moment people get too close to me, I say CUT. I can't help it. I'm a shy introvert. At the same time, people enjoy my company but I don't really enjoy their company or intimacy. I keep my distance. Yet I like to help people from far. My question is this, is my lack of intimacy going to affect my life purpose in any way. Is it possible to work in an area where you help people without needing or requiring to be intimate or social with them? Or is my flaw going to be a major hindrance?

@Annoynymous Because the government doesn't side with the people, it sides with the cops. That's why American public wants second amendment.

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It's actually not that simple This is not really a white versus black issue. It's more about cops versus civilians. Cops act thuggish and show a lot of power. It's basically abuse of power. The media tries to pit the black against the white. Actually in reality, both whites and blacks want unity and not racism. White people do not approve such treatment given to blacks or minorities. We are all one race.. This understanding will take a lot of time. It's a shame that even in 21st century we have to deal with race issues. We are all one.. And we should work towards it. Towards unity of the human race. Also a lot of these people who join cops don't actually do it with the intention to serve the country. They do it to wield power. They have been bullies in school, they are abusers and wife beaters, they join military because they like gore. They like having power and control. So such people run to join the police force. Once they become cops, they get to show their power.. Plus American constitution is very much on paper. The police don't care about it. So when a civilian holds their arms up and talk about 1st Amendment or any other amendment, the cops don't pay attention and start arresting anyway. But not all cops are like trigger happy cops. But a lot of cops are power obsessed. It's not like white people don't become victims of cop violence or police brutality. They also become victims but it's mostly minorities who become victims because minorities don't have much money in terms of lawyers and case fees to deal with injustice. If thrown in jail, there's no way to protect them without money. So money is also at the root of this. How many rich people do you see suffering police brutality. White people also want to put an end to this menace.. But the government is generally on the side of the cops. Notice they only take action when there is an uproar. They did a good job with the body cam feature. But it's the recruitment. That needs to change. We need more high consciousness police officers. High consciousness police officers will be less likely to escalate violence, peacefully arrest criminals and not have racist ideologies towards people.

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@JessiChell @JessiChell You're welcome. Take care. .

@JessiChell Maybe those are just breakup blues. And once the phase is over, you'll recover and do well. Could also be the isolation dampening your spirits. Just don't think too much about anything like all sorts of questions..These questions or doubts create unnecessary negativity. You're fine. You are just temporarily dealing with emotions. But over time these emotions dissipate. Allow yourself healing time. Till then you will experience some chaos but even this chaotic emotional state is a part of your growth. We can't be happy all the time .

You could take a break from relationships for a while. If that's what the root is .

@stopwow yeah, women also have similar experiences. Life is unfair for both.

I don't remember what I read yesterday afternoon. I come before you on the list of.... Oh shucks, forgot!! By your standards, I must be a basket case.

When I'm experiencing emotional distress, I watch this video to feel calm and oki doki. I seriously wanna sleep next to that kitty.

I stumbled across this. And I'm wondering if this is true Do you agree with that half of your friends don't like you? This got me thinking.

Serious issues Bpd Did Anxiety Trust issues Depression Obesity or Anorexia Low self esteem Shame, guilt, mental conflict Neglect and self destruction Drug addiction Abusive relationships Promiscuity and Daddy Issues Paranoid Delusions PTSD Rage or anger issues Defensive behaviors This is what happens

I have always found myself struggling with self esteem issues. (Some of these arise from my childhood where I was constantly told that I wasn't good enough or that I didn't deserve anything). I still carry some of the baggage even as an adult. I get a deep sense of vulnerability and fear when I open up to people about myself. I constantly suffer from the feeling like I'm not good enough or I don't deserve anything whether it's love or happiness or any sort of praise or encouragement. How do I deal with this? Are there ways to kinda improve your self esteem /self worth? (I don't have any self esteem issues regarding my appearance or body because I look good and many people tell me that. My self esteem issues are related to self worth, existence, identity, work, relationship related) My self respect is high. But my self esteem is low. That is I suffer from feelings of inadequacy or I don't know the word for this, it's un-deservedness, if there is such a word or similar to it. The feeling that I might be inherently lacking something or not deserving because of the lack. Like I'm not good enough or others deserve better than me and a feeling of self sabotage or self doubt When I say what I'm not afraid to say out loud, it's just me being dignified and authentic about my expression and straightforward-ness. I can describe it as a feeling of melancholic self pity, or self-destructive feelings, Thoughts like "anyway I'm doomed" "nobody should love me" or "everything is my fault" even if I know that it wasn't my fault. Living in self - misery and being masochistic about it. And thinking "it's okay, I anyways deserved it." This is the best way I can describe my states of mind or feelings.

@Keyhole you are more valuable than those who do not have a disease. In the bigger consciousness, every cell every Fibre is valuable, we label it as disease, the universe calls it a Fibonacci.

The kind of gaming you are talking about is supposed to give you a dopamine punch, and it's gonna stress you out to the max. Lol you are like a cat that gorges on a cake and says - how can I lose weight!! You are hilarious

@Evil Raccoon Don't pay attention to those people. They are fake. They do everything for social image and to look cool. They don't have real growth, all gimmick and games. It's kinda stupid.

No idea. I don't think we regress. Doesn't look logically possible.