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That's the best spouse. I hunger freedom as well. After all I'm a Pisces. My dob is 21-2-1993. So that makes sense. Freedom is absolutely important to me.

@Galyna hey my Dob is 21-2-1993 21 February

@Galyna that's awesome.

@Galyna @DrewNows @Natasha @Zigzag Idiot I love this lady and how she talks about the moon energy.

@nistake I do ignore them in my messages. They are never allowed in my inbox. But there is a problem with the website layout. When I completely block them on the forum, they can still mention me. They shouldn't be able to. There should be an option on the forum where my comments won't be visible to them. Or the option to completely prevent them from mentioning or quoting. It's their comments that come invisible to me when I block them. But they can still talk about me or even to me. The only difference is that I won't get any notifications that's all but when I look at the thread, I can still read the comment by the ignored person if they have mentioned me. Plus others can read what they write about me which creates a feeling of discomfort. I have a suggestion for this kind of a problem which can be considered in the future. There should be a button where I can click and say I don't want anymore communication with this person. So that way if the person still talks about me or mentions me in any way or tries any interaction he can be warned about it. I hope in the future, there will be better options technically to deal with people who troll or show unwanted behavior. I get your advice. I can't report every guy to a mod or the forum will be flooded with people who will have a vendetta against me. So I have to be a bit diplomatic and only raise alarm if the person said something really abusive like in this case. Otherwise every day I will only keep wasting my time complaining about every random dude that joins. I will turn into a complaint box which is even more unhealthy. My goal here is to develop myself and learn new things, not reporting people day in day out. If that becomes the case, I better not be on the forum because it's unproductive. So my best option is to counter such behavior whenever I come across it and let that person know that I won't put up with it. It also gives me a good feeling because it means that I stood up against someone who is bullying me rather than tolerate the bullying. I want to be able to stand up for myself, especially the culture I come from, women rarely stand up for themselves and tolerate too much. Not standing up for myself gives me a feeling of weakness or cowardice, why should I back off if they are the ones who are bullying. It makes me feel like I'm escaping instead of facing the situation head on. So I do stand up for myself now and then. It's also way of building my self esteem because if I don't, I will forever be scared and afraid of such people and live in constant fear of them. I don't want the fear cycle to continue So if they bully me or say mean things to me, I don't want to feel scared anymore but go ahead and challenge them on their behavior. I feel empowered that way. Also mods are already doing a great job. Look how they warned the guy who called me a bit-ch. This is the kind of action that is needed to keep the forum decent. I am extremely grateful to the moderators for all their actions and support. Without them, I would have packed my bags and left the forum long ago.

@Harikrishnan thank you for your understanding.

@nistake I know that guy very well. He had tried contacting me in my inbox like a month (or more) ago and he was being very rude. I didn't reply to his messages and he immediately wrote something like "guess you have a lot of attitude", then I replied to him that I wasn't interested in the conversation because I am too shy around strangers. It didn't go down well with him and he apologized and said something like "sorry for being rude", later he wouldn't let me be and he still wanted to have conversations with me, I was creeped out and I blocked his messages in my inbox. Guess that didn't sit well with him. So I know the intent here and I expressed my trigger so as to signal him that I won't be taking his mean shit. He obviously knows that I have no interest in talking to him but still he has to leave a mean comment to simply piss me off. People just see words on the screen and assume that I'm being defensive or question something looks odd. There's always a backstory to everything as to why I'm getting triggered. I usually don't mind people at all, I'm extremely polite and friendly in real life, just a bit shy but I'm usually nice, helpful and gentle, not defensive at all. The problem is that this forum has the sort of people that I'll never talk to in real life. I will simply walk away from such dudes if it was real life, and nobody would question my behavior. But since it's the internet, here I have to talk to guys that I would generally be uncomfortable around in real life. The internet gives freedom to some guys to literally say anything to a woman, like the other guy who called me a bit-ch. Notice that they are both from my own country. They have both tried to message to chat with me and I haven't accepted their gestures. I'm simply been polite or turned the discussion around because I would rather not want to talk to a stranger from my country. Of course I have my concerns. They would never be able to say such things (in real life) to me or any other woman from my country because most women around my place would simply walk away, so no conversation. On the internet it's much easier for them to grab my attention because there is no option of walking away. If I don't respond, they can do more. So I sometimes feel the obligation to respond. Of course I avoid them as much as possible but notice how they don't avoid me. Because they don't want to avoid me. That's why I always tell them to hit the ignore button if they feel such vendetta against me for rejecting their gestures. If there is some good guy with good intentions from my country or another country, I can easily talk to them without fear. But the internet usually attracts "those kind of men" just being honest. And such men get to say whatever they want to a woman online. If I have to be really honest, if a guy in my country said abusive words to a lady on a bus, he would get slapped and beaten up by good men and heavily condemned for humiliating a woman. But because this is the internet, such behavior really cannot be policed. Yesterday I showed the comments to my boyfriend and he said "the internet allows certain men to say forbidden things to a woman." I cannot say to such men (usually from my country) that I don't want to talk. It's that simple. I don't want to talk. But they can't accept that. They have the need to humiliate or malign me simply because I don't want to talk. How mean is that. In some ways this is a lighter form of sexual harassment. They feel angry because I don't flirt with them. I don't have any obligation to flirt with them or chat dirty. Then they start showing vendetta against me on the forum. It's almost like signaling me "if you don't talk or flirt with me then this is what will happen. I will be mean to you." it is honestly very creepy. All I do is try to sense the intention of a guy who is messaging me and simply block his conversations when I realize it's not leading to anything good. Now and then I keep them on ignore but they will say bullshit about me to others. So I have to keep an eye. Thanks for your understanding nistake. @Zigzag Idiot Thanks for the input

I like this reply I gave to a thread. Let's make this a fun thread. Let's ask women what they think is a perfect man I already have a near perfect boyfriend. So the qualities of a perfect man as per me would be Funny, intelligent, driven, bold, courageous, kind, empathetic, understands me as I am, cute, sexy, flirty, has a mind of his own, outspoken, hearty, (not nerdy at all), not a personal development nerd or fitness freak, just moderately interested in personal development not over zealous, very naturally charming. And extremely romantic and passionate with me.. Because I'm a romantic at heart.

Let's make this a fun thread. Let's ask women what they think is a perfect man I already have a near perfect boyfriend. So the qualities of a perfect man as per me would be Funny, intelligent, driven, bold, courageous, kind, empathetic, understands me as I am, cute, sexy, flirty, has a mind of his own, outspoken, hearty, (not nerdy at all), not a personal development nerd or fitness freak, just moderately interested in personal development not over zealous, very naturally charming. And extremely romantic and passionate with me.. Because I'm a romantic at heart.

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Shattered and disappointed. I don't see any point in writing this journal anymore. So closing this journal. Please no comments on this journal. It's closed.

Bruce Lee has always been my most favorite movie hero and human being. He inspired my life. I discovered that a lot of his philosophy was inspired by Dao De Jing. This journal is a tribute to his lasting legacy as a martial artist, a movie hero, a writer, a philosopher, a great dad and son and above all a great human being. He was born on 27th November the same date when my neice was born so I jokingly call her Little Bruce Lee. This journal will have Chinese concepts that I have learned over the past year, although I couldn't learn much since the time was short and I'm still learning a lot about Chinese culture and philosophy, I love Buddhism and the Dao and I have started incorporating Chinese concepts in my daily life. This journal will reflect tidbits on Chinese culture, philosophy concepts, Dao De Jing, religion, daily life, people, lifestyle, cuisine and Bruce Lee. ❤️❤️... Over the course of a few months I'll probably gain Mastery over Chinese concepts and cultural studies but it will take time. At that point I'll have extensive knowledge and information on Chinese culture, products, people, religion and philosophy so I'll be able to write more. Right now my knowledge is rudimentary at best. Below is my favorite picture of Bruce Lee. He looks like a smiling angel here.

Very upset. Today I came across something that was completely heart shattering. It broke my heart to pieces. I was a big fan of Bruce Lee. Now I have come across something controversial that was never revealed before. I always thought that Bruce Lee was an absolutely faithful husband because faithfulness in a man is always my highest priority when I look up to men. I have an absolute hate for men who are unfaithful to their wives or girlfriends. It is the deal breaker code for me when I want to value some man. Any man who cheats absolutely and permanently breaks the deal.. Now this https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5701205/amp/Bruce-Lee-womanizer-got-circumcised-American.html The article says that Bruce Lee cheated. It has me devastated because I never thought he cheated on the spouse. Hmm I worshipped this person. And now..... Too sad. I can't hold Bruce Lee in the same league anymore. I'm totally shattered as a fan.

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To me Spiral Dynamics makes a lot of practical sense. It's kinda time tested. You see people and societies gradually moving up and down the spiral but you can clearly see that the traits of a society at a particular stage match many of the features of spiral. So it kinda makes a lot of sense.

I feel sorry for the person. R.I.P the person who lost their life. Sad. Condolences

Underground Maple Factory. Page 1 Creating an ant farm Preparing the materials What you will need to catch the ants A trowel to dig up the soil. A container to hold the soil. A spoon to catch the ants. A container to carry the ants. What you will need to build your ant farm A jar that holds at least one litre, with a two-part screw-on metal lid – replace the flat part of the lid with a piece of nylon stocking. A stick that fits easily into the jar. A sheet of black cardboard large enough to surround the ant nest. Adhesive tape. Ant food (a piece of bread, for instance). A small piece of sponge to hold water and give your ants something to drink. Collecting ants Species belonging to the Formica and Lasius genera are easy to collect. Those in genus Formica are 6 or 7 mm long, and black. They make anthills in rural sites. The small brown ants in genus Lasius are brown and live under large stones or build mounds of sand, in rural or urban sites. To collect your ants, remove the top of the anthill or mound with the trowel or lift up the stone. Use the spoon to collect about fifty adults, larva and nymphs, and if possible the queen, from the same nest. Dig up enough soil from near the colony to fill your container three-quarters full. Note carefully where you collected them, since you will have to return here to release your ants. Creating your ant farm Place the ants in the refrigerator for 10 minutes to calm them. Prepare your ant farm by adding the stick and the soil to the jar. Tape the black cardboard around the jar. The cardboard must completely cover the part of the jar holding the soil. Place the ants in the jar. Add the piece of wetted sponge and the food. Quickly close the jar. Caring for and observing your ant farm Add water and food regularly. Other examples of food are bits of banana or apple, thumb-size bits of cookies or cake, dandelion flowers, sugar cubes, etc. To see what’s going on in your ant farm, just remove the black cardboard. Over the space of several days or weeks you’ll be able to watch the workers building tunnels, storing or exchanging food, caring for the larvae, and more. Replace the cardboard once you’re finished observing them. Make sure you return the ants to where you found them once your project is finished.

So I had this imagination that insects and burrow animals are creating an underground sugar and maple factory. This will be shelved under Underground Maple Factory.

8 labels here Dark aesthetics Winter Hues Summer Camp Tomboy Underground Maple Factory Velvet Plum Ocean Marina Garden Magix

I'm always crazy about aesthetics. So I wanted to create a label purely for aesthetics. Like dark aesthetics that have darker subtle mysterious hues and aura.. As a practicing witch, I love hues, colors, auras.

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This is a good one.

STOP USING ABUSIVE WORDS.

@Harikrishnan thank you.

One has to be sensitive and respectful while asking questions. The replies will also be respectful. Trollish questions will get Trollish replies The post doesn't say "me after Enlightenment." it simply says "after Enlightenment." that's just a general question. The reason it is misinterpreted is because that person is projecting their own shit on me so honestly I'm not wrong in being triggered. Many people get triggered by dumb trollish questions And yes it is personal because it's a personal question because that question contains the word "you" when the original post says nowhere the word " I." Yet that person found a way to make it personal. And maybe because it was personal it triggered me. Try not to trigger and be sensitive and respectful and don't make everything personal so maybe I won't feel the need to be defensive. Look at how the other user nistake didn't say anything trollish or insensitive. They simply gave me a link and resources that can be helpful to the thread/post instead of asking me ridiculous personal questions. Try to behave like that rather than turning every post I make into You vs Me. I responded calmly and politely and said thanks. Because that person didn't say anything personal or triggering or drama creating Look at the implications of a question like "are you Enlightened?" because obviously that person knows no member on this forum is enlightened. So the question seems like a rhetorical way to mock me. What's the intention behind such a question when the person already knows that I'm not enlightened. The question can be implied in many ways. It can mean "why are you starting this post if you're not enlightened, are you thinking that you are that great?" so honestly it can feel like I'm being trolled or mocked. And some people, especially serious people like me, have low tolerance for being mocked. It comes down to people's sensitivity. If you really want to have a productive conversation with someone, don't try to simply trigger that person or say biased things to that person. It will only cause that person to be defensive. Try to be sensitive to how that person is or else don't bother to have a conversation at all. Talk to people who are okay with whatever you say, don't talk to people who are sensitive to your tone or conversations. Look at how the thread gets derailed by simply triggering the person who is posted. It doesn't serve a purpose to mock a person. Deep down I might have got very offended by such a question. It's almost like someone is questioning my character. It can be implied in many ways. So perception is important. Different people will perceive things differently. Some people will take it as a joke, some people will get offended. It's nobody's fault. The thing is that if you're ready to ask disrespectful questions or mocking questions to people, also be ready to take their defensive replies. If you are having a problem with accepting their defense, then also don't try to offend them. Be careful about how you say things so that it's not offensive to the other person. Learn to be sensitive. If you don't want people to be offended, well then don't offend them. If his intention was pure and he had genuine curiosity to carry the conversation he probably would have worded his question in a more reasonable manner like this "did you go through an enlightenment experience in your life. If yes, please share. I asked because you posted about enlightenment. I would love to know more." I wouldn't have become defensive if the question was asked with the intent to know something. But the question was worded as " are you enlightened? " which automatically translates as " you really think you're enlightened to create such a post. " That's where things go wrong. Like I said, I'm respectful to respectful people. I can easily see when someone is simply trying to trigger me versus someone who is seriously wanting a civil discussion with me Honestly such behavior is very cheap. Let's see I don't like someone on the forum, then I won't even talk to them. I will just avoid them rather than intentionally trying to trigger them on purpose. I mean how cheap is that. I would just leave them alone If that person who commented has a problem with my posts then they should not read my posts or not bother to reply in a triggering manner to me. The only purpose it serves is bringing out my defensive side and even derailing my thread. Plus constantly triggering to bring out my defensive side only serves one purpose - to make me look like a big bitch on the forum. I'm positive to positive people. I'm not positive to negative people. It's not my fault. I am nice to nice people. Be nice to me and I will be nice to you. This is same for everyone.