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Looks only go so far.. You'd get bored after a while if the person didn't have a personality that you desired. There are a lot of metrics that both gender need to fulfill to secure the relationship. People who usually only want the look are looking for company but not relationship. A person hunting for a relationship will look for a lot of factors beyond looks. Of course looks are a part of those factors. I might like a guy who looks incredibly handsome but I won't have a relationship if he didn't have a personality that vibes with me. So I will be happier with a guy who looks good as well as has a personality and attitude that gets along with me

Last night I had a dream and me and him were at a chocolate place and the whole place was covered in chocolate. It was his mom and me busy preparing things. And in between we were licking the chocolate from trees. There were large strawberry shaped chocolates hanging everywhere.

Absolutely agree ??

Hugs hun

This statement is a huge myth and I have read this too many times.. I have observed such stereotypes where the woman is in love with an abusive guy because she thinks she can't deserve better or she is emotionally damaged or she is doing it for survival. I have always been with abusive men in the past . But I wasn't with them because I was a horrible girlfriend or survival.. I was with them because I was too young to understand how men were. I didn't know about relationships because they were my first relationships and as a newbie I couldn't be expected to know everything about the world with little experience. I had no idea a few years ago that some men were manipulative.. The word manipulation didn't even exist in my mental vocabulary. I was just in college. Therefore my earliest relationships were with abusive men without realizing that they are abusive. It was just total trust and attraction based.. I was also much more forgiving back then because I always believed some bookish principles and I never questioned anything much. I was too trusting and loved the men very much because even for a minute I never thought they were manipulative. I was fresh in the dating world and I was more than thrilled to be in a relationship, I was too dreamy, not a horrible girlfriend, but a naive dreamy girlfriend. I believed novels. It took some harsh brush with reality and seeing the manipulation first hand that I realized that I was being used and abused. Then I immediately left those men. So it's a myth to assume that a woman is in an abusive relationship because she must be a horrible person herself It's often because she is trusting, forgiving and loving and wants to give chances to the man and hopes he will change. Also for many women, their first relationship matters a lot. They are very dreamy about it. They don't want their first loves to turn to ash. They don't want their very first dreams shattered. So they cling to this ideal that somehow they will change their man and he will magically turn from the Frog Prince into the Prince Charming. Eventually these women realize that they are chasing a pipe dream and after much suffering they leave the guy, the way I did. These women are awesome, yet they are simply caught in such relationships and their love makes them stay longer. But of course they leave at last. A lot of the time the media tries to portray the woman in an abusive relationship as someone who is committing a crime or an enabler of abuse. It's not true. They are just not very experienced to understand the nature of things or are too emotional and forgiving.

@Moon that's a great point.. Me too.

@Galyna you are so so right. You are my Queen. I completely agree with you especially this part. The problem starts when he does not want to conquer the world for me....that would be a red flag. But if the person have goals, motivations, desires, what else you need? Building a life together when young is a great thing. I have always believed that real women can inspire real men and real men can inspire real men. Cheers.

My current boyfriend is a stage green macho. The previous one that I dumped was a bit Blue macho. I prefer the current one.

@Galyna I get your point. Now I'm getting a bit worried.. Am I the only one who doesn't care about money or social status lol. Am I abnormal? I always believed that I was a hippie and I never cared about money or social status. But people around me always told me that money is important.. But I never actually looked at a guy like that. I never checked how much money they made or what status they had. I only cared if they were authentic and great personality. Of course later they didn't turn out like that because their qualities were a fake show to impress me But is it wrong to not bother about how much money a guy makes or his success. Because I don't like to judge people on that parameter. I'm just curious

@Galyna Actually to me alpha is not money or social status or body. Maybe our definition of Alpha are different. To me alpha is someone who is Strong. Determined Brave Integrity and morality Dignity and respect Has his head on his shoulders Remains true to his principles Honest and never lying Never acting like a coward Stands for truth Not hateful but affectionate and loving Hearty and Generous.. Not jealous and insecure Persistent and Resilient. To me status and money never mattered at all. Because I mostly dated broke guys, .. (I know right), but some of them were very genuine and a strong sense of self. I have never dated a guy who is changing color like a chameleon, too submissive, untrustworthy, slavish or zero self respect.. I don't like such men. So my definition of alpha is a little different. Also body wise I would prefer a guy who is a bit Macho. It turns me on. But it's okay, it's not a necessary thing because I can always compromise on that part. But his moral standards need to be high. I can't deal with a guy who can switch his moral principles for a dime.nope.

@Galyna Actually to be very honest, I'm very very attracted to Alpha and Macho. Is it only me or? ❤️ My bf is alpha and macho.. I mean most of the exes also have been.

To me the wolf is a very pragmatic animal.

I think Pisces have a lot of dualities.. Like I think that a cat and Swan are my spirit animals. But I understand that even a wolf can be my spirit animal. So it's all these three. Since I have the Scorpio as an ascendant, I tend to sometimes project wolf like qualities or at least I am attracted to wolf like qualities.

@mandyjw

@Natasha ?

@Leo Gura but she is hot. Leo go chase her. She is perfect for you. All you have to do is act emotionally unavailable to her and she will call you her prince Charming on her chart.

@Natasha hahahahhaah. I like the prince Charming zone..

Yea healing is absolutely important. Without it, whatever success you have won't really make you happy. Deep inside issues like trauma always stick out like a thorn. There's not much correlation between success and happiness, but there's a much stronger correlation between happiness and mental health.

Sometimes you just have to bypass things.

Some women have toxic views on men. Some men have toxic views on women. Consciousness should change that but it doesn't. Sometimes true spirituality is like a gem, created but not acquired. Flip the coin, whichever side is up, doesn't matter, it is still the same coin.

@Galyna you too.

Nice!

Totally agree

@Galyna your fury is a glory. Makes me happy. (lol, I'm laughing too with you and your hub)

@Galyna You're a true woman Galyna. Hugs hugs hugs