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That's one of the things to figure out.

@lmfao The textbook. Omg me too!! Except for me, Christian. So they use a lot of those Christian terms, but then go directly against what the bible says and I was highly triggered. And yea, like you I was worried about getting into another belief system and as I kept reading I was like, is this book even worth it?? But so many people like it so I don't know...

I have that book. Cracked it open but have lots of resistance to the material. Not totally sure what that's about.

Men and women are simply different. A woman attracting a woman is not comparable really at all to a man attracting a woman. Yea, a lesbian knows what women like, but from a woman's standpoint. And the way she attracts other women is by default going to come across as different than when a man attracts a woman. A lot of hot, masc lesbians have no problem picking up women because it's novelty and fun.

I want to learn to be less selfish. It's definitely something that can be learned, otherwise, how do people do it?

Maybe ease up a bit it places? Sometimes we push so much it just creates more resistance.

Loosing your hair and your knees hurting are not necessarily signs of aging. 25 is actually really young. You still have your life ahead of you. Don't give up, you're probably doing a really good job even though it's hard to see that right now. That's just not true. You're 25. It takes 10 years to master something. At 35 you will still be extremely young. Even with a few years, if you stay on the path, you will make serious progress. You are on your own unique path. There are reasons for those things even if you can't see them right now. You are not too old. I'm 30. I'm too old. lol. In a few years you will see how young you were, and if you don't start getting serious, you will be like damn, why didn't I start when I was 25. This is amazing. The world needs more of this. You can do that. Little by little. You are going through a rough patch right now. Remember this time when things aren't so bad, and don't take life for granted anymore. Use the pain to push you forward. The obstacle IS the path.

@VioletFlame wow Hannah that is so cool. I'm glad you found your purpose and passion. I only recently discovered my love of music, wish I had an earlier start. Love ?

@RoerAmit kinda depends on the emotion but just express it. Sounds simple but it's something we've been conditioned not to do. If you're sad, cry, if you're excited, jump for joy, if you're upset, scream. We have unique ways of expressing ourselves so play around with this a bit. Notice when you're feeling emotions and feel into how it wants to be expressed. Sometimes it may not be appropriate in the moment to express a particular emotion and thats ok. You can hold off and wait until you're alone to do so. Just give whatever came up space to come out.

So I'm unsure how clear of a picture one can actually get about what is going on in society, the world, their city, simply through media and being online. Not necessarily that the news sources and internet are painting an inaccurate story about something, more that things get lost in translation so to speak, and that the whole picture is just not reachable. Even through reading multiple stories and sources. It just seems to me that so much is lost unless one is physically in person at a place. So much so that it's possible to have only a small fraction of what is actually going on. For example, we can read that a large majority of Americans are obese and take multiple prescription medications, but we don't realize the depth of that, and how it actually shows up and what it looks like unless we see it in person. This might seem kind of obvious but I think it's a bigger thing than we might originally think.

It depends on the woman. I had mind blowing sex after a couple dates, some of the best yet, and I was only medium into the guy. I used to think I needed that "deep" connection first but I was wrong and not being open to other possibilities. The thing for me is attachment. I will break it off with a guy if he's not "the one" and find myself getting attached just from the sex.

Honestly, it might not be a bad thing for some people.

Wow exactlyyy! I remember when people were debating wearing masks in public and I would bring up the point that people are just too stupid to wear them properly. And someone said "it's actually easy to train people how to wear them". Obviously this person didn't realize just how stupid a large majority of people are.

You're actually so right about this, thanks for the reminder.

Sex can can be a big deal for women and a lot of us remember the (often heavy) emotions that come with sharing our sexual energy with someone. When I have sex with a guy, especially outside of a relationship, my energy is different for a couple days after.

Dropping out of society can be good. But there's a lot to be said about dropping in to society. And doing it consciously. That will really show you how messy things can get. Totally! People who travel do tend to have a broader understanding of life.

Yea! This is the kind of thing I'm referring to. It's cool you did that, must have been heartbreaking. I work customer service in a fairly rough part of town and oh my god the amount of shit I see...such a wide range of people and things going on. It reminds me how easy it is to get stuck in a bubble, thinking that the rest of the world just operates like that.

And then there are those who bash vaccines but are very into health. Or those who are super unhealthy and very pro vax. Or even those who are healthy and pro vax.

Look at what Leo has done with the help of psychedelics...and that's just one example.

Actually, a lot of people try to self actualize in a way, and it's popular on social media etc. The difference is that most never go very deep with it. Why? They don't know the depths that are possible because they were never exposed to it. Or if they were, its simply too difficult. I mean when you start noticing all the ways you decieve yourself and deconstructing your reality things start getting a lot less ego gratifying and a lot more "oh shit".

What are you looking to heal? I don't recommend using psychedelics to heal trauma. However, there are professionals doing it and you can look into that if you choose. Be careful with the mindset of taking psychedelics to heal. They can actually cause more trauma or make the trauma increasingly difficult and challenging to deal with. You're better off looking into other types of therapy. Somatic Experiencing, talk therapy, EMDR etc.

I feel like just closing myself off to men... I understand that in a way, dating is working on myself but friends...its rough out there. Guys are either super shallow i.e. into sports(bleh), don't have the slightest idea of what spiritual worlds are or they play video games. I've come across guys who are traumatized by other women, creepy guys, guys who only talk about themselves... the list goes on. OR, they're way out of my league. Super successful, have their shit really together and are all in all much more mature than me. Fuck! It's such a pain. Sometimes trying to connect with men on dating sites is HARD and people can be so abrasive! Same IRL, too. I secretly just want a man to take care of me and hold me and love me but goddamn that's a whole other rabbit hole because I could see me getting lazy with my own development and just letting him take care of everything while I kinda just float on by in life... medium happy, not doing anything of much substance. I actually do want to just be alone for awhile but then I'm worried I a)won't find my soulmate and b)(this is actually the bigger concern)won't be getting any good experience with men, meeting new people, growing in a new way etc..

What makes you think finding a soulmate isn't survival?

@Actualizer777 an open relationship requires extreme amounts of communication and effort. Try it out, actually sleep with someone new, see how you two handle it and then go from there. It's not going to be the same as if you were single because you will always have that relationship hanging over your head and it will be less "free" and more of a constricted type of sleeping around. That's kind of the point, for it to be loose and not tied down.