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The episode "Reality is a Strangeloop" mentions: 'listen to this episode right before and not during a psychedelic trip' I would love to see more content like that. Not something geared for super-newbies but medium-newbies

I'm locking this thread because everything that needs to be said has been.

Quick question for the ladies and then another for the guys... Girls, do you like to wait an amount of time before having sex with someone? Men, does a girl gain your respect for putting off sex until she feels she's more ready? Currently in a situation where I actually like a guy (possible potential for relationship, we'll see...) and don't want him to think less of me for giving it up early (it could on our second date). On an even more personal note, I've slept with 4 men this year (2 one night stand type situations and 2 couple month long dating situations) already and have been feeling a bit wary to share my sexual energy with "just another guy". But I do see more potential with this current one than the others. Is having sex on the second date a turn-off? feeling worried I will ruin something and not earn his respect...?Hearing lots of conflicting things and I'm just not sure so want some of your wisdom.

@Isaac k Don't pray pray a lighter load, but for broader shoulders. Trying to avoid the pain will only make it last longer. Be a friend to your depression. It will help you grow. After struggling nearly my whole life it just started slowly going away as I become the person of my dreams.

Feel it out a bit. If you realize you made a mistake you can always change directions.

Nope. Don't do it. Watch you thoughts too because even if you're not talking, you might be silently talking shit which isn't really a change of heart.

@Isaac k I have felt grateful for my depression because it's lit a fire under me to continue seeking. It can take a long time to feel better, but it is possible so don't give up. Do you have hope? Try to keep that in mind as you move forward.

And that is where gratitude comes from... I was thinking about who we are saying "thank you" to like, when we see something beautiful in a psychedelic trip (for example), or nature. And this came to mind. I realized that when I say thank you, I am saying thank you to God, my higher self. Sometimes, the magnitude of the blessing leaves nothing left to be said except thank you, thank you, thank you.

Is worship a spiritual game? What should I do instead?

I wouldn't say "THE" way with such difinity but yes, they're up there. Also, sometimes you have people taking all kinds of psychedelics and they never awaken so it's not like you just ingest mushrooms and become spiritual. You need to have teachers, guides and the right mindset about them.

My personal #1 thing I avoid in therapists is if they talk about themselves so that would be a no for me.

Yes I am hahaha (not the only thing but in a way you're right lmao). I used to be very adamant about not having sex too early and thought it made a relationship "skip steps"... like getting to know them first. I sort of feel like I'm shedding that.

Wow this is really spot on

Look up "how to express my emotions"

There is a place for will. You have to feel it out to know when you need to use it and when to use other methods.

I don't think feminine values are disregarded. I see true feminine energy as being irresistible and demands respect of itself. Not an easily achievable goal but it's there.

There are many different ways to help you overcome resistance. push through using your will do nothing at all give in to the resistance Try a wide range of things. Do some research on resistance and become determined to figure it out even if it is a slow process!

Thank you, that is really beautiful. I have experienced so much goodness through a gratitude practice.

You're totally right, the thought didn't cross my mind lol.

That makes so much sense when I think about it like that.

Absolutely. Especially if someone is microdosing because they get addicted to life being slightly more interesting.

@catcat69123 The book Anger by Thich Nhat Hanh really helped me understand anger from a new standpoint. It may be helpful for you to learn how to express yourself more effectively. The book Non-Violent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg is a very good book that teaches how to communicate feelings clearly without unintentionally hurting others.

@asha176 what is it that's causing you to escape? Fear of something? Maybe there's a painful feeling you are trying to avoid?

@Matt23 I love his channel!

hehe nice Yes they are in order. I was very creative in childhood. Wrote a bunch, played music, danced, made art. I didn't call myself an artist until a couple years ago. Started actually having direction in my creativity after taking the LP course early 2018. Thanks for asking