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  1. Posted

    Hi guys, my problem here is with an old breakup, happened 6 months ago, and it came back biting her and then me.

    We've been together for 8 months, (I'm late 20s, she's 22), and she broke up with me at the end of summer peacefully, asking to remain sincere friends, actual friends. I agreed, because I appreciated her as a friend too, and I also already introduced her to my group of old friends, so I wanted her to stay with them.

    In the first month I was aching inside because of the breakup , but i kept cool and after 3 weeks we ended up in a """"friendly""" date and had sex again. I fell again in love, while she tried so fucking hard to hide her feelings for me, saying bullshit like "I don't want you to get attached, it was just a mistake because I like you and I find you a cool guy, but I don't feel love anymore", which I DON'T believe, because she kept contacting me as a "friend" every single day, including confidential talk, and confessing her deepest fears to me. 

    Then we decided to stop texting, and became loose friends. Then she finds a new guy to go out, but she never kissed him, only 2 dates to try to know him. She comes to me to confess these dates and she reveals to me that "he is not on your level. you are still my best boyfriend, i've never been so close to someone as with you. i want to find someone similar, so I ditched him". In the meantime I went out to find girls and new people.

    At new year's eve she freaks the fuck out with me, even though the friendship thing was already cool to me, since I already was thinking about finding new girls and I was ok with her. But at this party she freaks the fuck out because I'm "too close" to her as a friend, and she feels like all the old problems of the pre-breakup are coming back, and that I don't understand her. I try to calm her since i was already calm and cool. I had no problem with her, and was a perfectly fine friend. 

    In the first of january she tells me on the phone that she is SICK of hearing me. I am TOTALLY shocked since we had NO problems, only normal discussions as friends, and a simple fight as normal friends two weeks before. She tells me that that stupid fight as friends is the cause of her sickness of me, and of course I tell her that it's BS, since it was a stupid fight about organizing my birthday party in december. A fight which was already resolved the day after.

    She insists that she is sick of me, sick of the feelings related to me , and sick of all the problems we had in our couple (What the fuck?!).
    She blocks me on all social media without warnings, closes the call brutally, and since then I have zero clues about her. I'm moving on with my life.

     

    Can you explain what happened? where did I fuck up?
    I'm still somehow sad but I want to learn and go on. And rescue our friendship maybe

  2. Posted

    11 minutes ago, Shin said:

    Your fault if you stayed in a relationship that didn't respect your boundaries.

     

    Looool I love your profile picture!

    I totally agree. I took full responsibility for my bad choice of a gf, and that's why my advice is completely honest and in tune with taking responsibility.

    But don't fall on the trap of taking away responsibilities from women. If a woman manipulates, it's her fault for choosing to do it. And your responsibility takes place only in avoiding contact with her.

  3. Posted

    Open relationships benefit only the woman.

    It's a manipulative form of relationship. She goes around sucking carrots while you provide her with dinners, stability and as emotional tampon, and masturbate to porn like a loser. And if you DARE to approach a woman you're a cheater while she's and empowered strong wahmen who don't need no man lol.

    Don't do it. Stay single. Value your freedom and self respect. Meditate and approach people.

    If you really want a gf, date someone who INSISTS to have monogamy with you. Avoid women who talk about cuckoldry.

  5. Posted · Edited by billiesimon

    11 minutes ago, sarapr said:

    @billiesimon Yeah a society like that would be nice. 

    It's still happening , they say sth in tv do sth else in reality . It just might not be as obvious as in other countries. just count the number of female presidents in the world and then say who is ruling.

    Textbook feminist indoctrination.

    Using statistics blindly is just... ignorance.

    Is there a discrimination against males in primary and kindergarten education? The percentage is very low.
    See? it's the same argument. 

    Free market, free speech, free choices.
    Free choices. 
    The majority of men don't like teaching to kids.
    The majority of women don't like politics and dealing with stressing and depressing politics (me neither).

    Women rarely run for high grade politics, they like to pursue emotional and more warm educational paths. Angela merkel, which  has won elections without any discriminations, is HUGE proof of the toxic indoctrination you are victim of. It's not your fault. Universities are huge communist headquarters.

    I love everybody, and so I love you too :) stop listening to BS and start living life with passion, and cherish freedom of choices and freedom in general :) love life, love people, men and women.
    Cheers 

  6. Posted

    5 minutes ago, sarapr said:

    @billiesimon I'm just saying the world is already ruled by men if you haven't noticed so now that women already are poor you shouldn't deprive them of this little amount that they have anymore, you know and we are different you can't treat both the same. it's always gonna be different sexes different treatment that's how things are. What Teal Swan says about how women reacted to being powerless by manipulating their sons well I'm not sure but it wouldn't have happened if they weren't powerless in the first place.(I'm not shaming don't take it that way)

    I kindly invite you to re-read what I've written. 
    Also you're evading my question. Which usually indicates not having a valid argument But I'm not judging, I'm open minded for the discussion.

    Nobody is oppressing women in the west nowadays, since every divorce is stealing off of men, and the culture is all about shaming men on tv. 
    What you seem to NOT understand is that I want a free society where EVERYBODY is free to be themselves. I don't give a F*CK about loser male chauvinists and rotten feminists. 
    I want a society where everybody, male and female, is free, and responsible for themselves, without shaming and manipulating the opposite sex.

    Do you agree with that? 
    You know that IF you don't agree with that... I have bad news, you're sexist. 

  7. Posted

    8 minutes ago, sarapr said:

    @billiesimon It is about poor women . you don't really have to worry about women hurting you! God how much more do you want to be dominant

    Please explain logically to me where exactly is the domination in wanting a world where EVERYBODY is responsible for themselves and men and women are treated as human beings and not sexes.

    Explain it.

    I must be very sexist and dominant to want a world where men and women are free to love eachother and to enjoy eachother without one or the other manipulating.

    Explain your position without shaming, since I'm here respecting everybody and hearing your argument.

  9. Posted

    @Leo Gura  Don't get me wrong, Leo, I love your content and your work, but I don't understand your support of toxic manipulative and dystopian feminism. You should support egalitarianism, not feminism, which is the exact counterpart of male chauvinism.

    I'm a strong libertarian and egalitarian, and if you JUST look at the damages feminism is doing to men and young sons is disgusting.

    Manipulating men to get married, and then rob them of all UNEARNED wealth from them. Or sending them to jail over nothing. Also teaching young boys about ONLY feminine values and hating healthy positive masculine ones (not talking about aggression, only about charisma, leadership and independence).

    Feminism is the embodyment of all the worst of female nature, and is completely corrupting the NATURAL symbiosis between men and women.

    Men and women should love eachother and complete themselves with they polar opposites, and cooperate. Not in a tradcon way. I'm NOT a traditionalist. I believe in self responsibilities, not in robbing men (or women) or resources and shaming them. I believe in working your ass off for yourself. 
    Women should learn to be responsible and stop fucking men over. Grow the fuck up, women. Men don't want you to be submissive, we just want you to get out in the world and fend off for yourselves without suck our blood. Be free and let men be free.

    Sorry for the rant, Leo, but I'm sick of this anti egalitarian shaming LOL.

  10. Posted

    59 minutes ago, Spiral said:

    Well I won't say female advice is wrong it's just, communicated in a way guys don't really understand to a guys who won't understand it anyway.

    Here is a common one: Girl: "I want a guy who can make me laugh"  So the guy thinks he should be funny and makes jokes, but that not it at all. I mean it doesn't hurt but that not what she really means. If I would ask her if she meant that she would say yes, because we are confusing to them. How men work is also incredibly complicated. It's a mess basely and people don't really know what attracts them, they just know what they like.

    I beg to differ, because in my pua experience, even though it was short, I heard a lot of female opinions, and they are often full of bullshit lol. 
    Women are socially conditioned to find beta males as supporting partners, but deep inside they need a confident and charismatic partner. Society tells them that they desire these needy and codependent men, while in fact they find them boring.
    The female advice you usually hear are just lies that women believe since they are very in tune with group thinking and group consensus (hence society).

  11. Posted

    1 hour ago, Shir said:

    @billiesimon Hey There ! I know you asked for men to answer you more so than a woman but I just wanted to interject and say that I personally would REALLY adore a man who can be as affectionate as you seem to be, physically (I'm sure in turn you are emotionally as well, of course). As someone who has never had a relationship (sadly), I just feel like us women usually know what we might want in a partner. I know I would adore, appreciate and love a partner who can be AS physically affectionate as you are, and so would like to encourage you to keep being yourself. Please don't change out of fear and worry, especially when it has to do with such a positive and loving space such as physical affection. Much luck ~ !

    Well, I appreciate a lot your perspective :)


    The reason why I tend to ask men is because women usually DON'T know what they like, as the classical "i want a nice guy but I chase all the assholes" demonstrates. The problem is that women DON'T like affection out of insecurities and possession. But they like it out of genuine and pure expression, as you said :) This is why a lot of female advice is WRONG, because women don't understand that nice guys are often affectionate out of fear and possession, and not out of pure bright peace of mind.

    A lot of men are afraid of showing affection because women turn them down if they are needy. So these men don't understand that in reality affection is GOOD but it HAS to come from a solid and strong place inside. I somehow already undestood this, since I show affection for the sake of affection, and for the sake of sharing my personality. But I had to ask this question because I had this little doubt still stalking me-

    But in fact both my exes loved my affection and never complained a bit :)

  12. Posted

    20 minutes ago, SFRL said:

    No you should keep going with the hugs. 

    It may not even be a test she really thought out. It's just something women/people do. She is rattling your cage to see how you react. Not being reactive or reacting with humor is always good. 

    I just would not go sit down with a cup of tea and have a 'therapy session' talking about feelings. That's probably not how it was but that is the picture that comes up in my head when I hear talking about feelings. 

    Yeah, being their psychologist is not good... I know that thanks to pickup.
    I was talking about revealing my past and my hardships of the past to my gf. I did it with both of them and they seemed to like it. I don't think it's a problem to share hardships and insights about your past. But I never did it as a form of "let's relax on the bed and let's find out the therapy for your psyche". Just as a form of bonding in a relationship.

  13. Posted

    1 hour ago, Spiral said:

    @billiesimon I am really cuddly and affectionate and I'm the most successful person with girls I know. I thinks it's more about how and why you are cuddly etc. Lonely? If so that's bad. It's fine to be open and honest, although being a nice guy can be problematic. You need to have your own stuff going on.

    Don't start hugs, avoid giving random massages. If you sitting and talk with a girl and you feel like giving her a foot massage go for it. But don't just go and give a girl (you know) random pleasure.

    P.S you would love Sweden, it's customary to hug as a greeting here, if at least one of the two is female.

    Very nice reply!

  15. Posted

    I have had two relationships until now. I'm in the late 20s. My exes were both good girls who cared for me, and were both co-dependent and affectionate. The first gf was very co-dep, as I was. With the 2nd I was less dependent and she too.

    But still today I have THIS FEAR about girls, even though it's reduced, and more controlled.

    ......

    I like to cuddle and exchange hugs and affection A LOT. My first gf liked it, my second liked it too, but once she said "it's a bit weird for a guy to be this physically affectionate, but I like it.

     

    I have this obsession that girls don't like affectionate and cuddly guys. I have this fear of being dumped because of my hugs and affection, and my emotional talking, since I'm very good at empathising and girls notice it quickly.

    I studied pickup and both exes are a result of knowing how to lead a woman and show sexual intent. But PUA also taught me that soft emotions are toxic to a girl in a relationship, cause you habe to be tough, leader and cold pimp with her.

    I wanted to hear from the men in this forum what's the truth.

    Do girls love these gestures or are they disgusting and weak?