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Thanks for your reply too. Especially this part highlights the importance of screening and having standards!

Quite an excellent response, thank you very much! I definitely have a lot of emotional intelligence and empathy, but I've had both good experiences (girls who wanted to share) and bad. I was traumatized because sharing without being understood is very painful, and sometimes I tend to be very fake-stoic with girls because of the deep fear of being hurt. My emotional nature is very painful to me, there were times where I absolutely hated it. So what you reccomend is having a better screening process. Let me ask a question: the best way to screen is letting my emotional being shine through and not concealing it, right? Another thing: what's the best way to grow in this area of life? I guess meeting girls and screening hard with my emotional compatibiliy?

The problem here is that women want men with social status and a player attitude. You're not going to convince her to look for a stable and emotionally healthy man, she will always want a player and the top status guy (a lot of friends, a lot of girls as fuckbuddies etc). The problem here is not him, but the fact that she only wants the top notch PUA guys.

What I don't understand is... Why does god need the ego to experience itself? Why making all of its parts (us) suffer when it can just realize its existence without all this bullshit game of ego?

I'm trying out music for meditation and shamanic breathing in these days. It's weird but cool. But I can't find myself at ease with the tribal music that everybody listens to. I seem to like celtic calming music a lot. Do you think it is ok even though it's not the standard music for meditation?

In the past I liked Elliot, but recently I don't resonate with him, since I'm moving into stage green and he's somehow regressing. I think that his green shadow is making him regress into a solid blue stage. He was in stage orange years ago, but now you can clearly see how his ideals about his nation, his family and his pride as a traditional man are becoming his north pole. He's clearly regressing back to blue because of fear and confusion about the orange-green phase of the US. He was a nice inspiration when he was fully orange, but now he's a complete turn-off for me....

I only practice meditation and kriya yoga, I don't have experience with psychedelics, but... How is it possible that a drug can induce enlightenment? And in such a FASTER way in the mind of some lazy dumb person who never disciplined themselves to become present and mindful? It makes no sense to me, but I understand that it actually happens. But... it takes away all the "willpower" component of becoming conscious and aware of your everyday sleepy state. Why does it work so much on an average joe with no awareness skills?

From what I can see actually a lot of girls have sex on the same night at the club. I think it's pretty common, even though I never had a same night lay.

I'm checking it out! What is the best one, Leo's reccommendation, or this one?

Hey guys. I'm new to this topic and I'm very interested in starting Kriya to boost my spiritual practices (very poor results with meditation). In my city there are no teacher of Kriya, so is it ok to just study on the book? What is the best book in your experiences?

Thanks! What about my daily routine? Since I can't do right now a solo retreat immediately. Is meditation enough or should I implement kriya yoga? My end goal is to boost innergame and stop having paranoid thoughts when I'm out.

@Leo Gura To be honest @NoSelfSelf has a point. Being compassionate has no value to a woman in the attraction phase. In some cases it's almost a negative. As you yourself have pointed out, Leo, girls in the first attraction phase love a guy who is a ruthless warrior and completely self centered. Compassion takes place only in a relationship, from what I can observe.

Great report! I'm new too, and I admire your strong indifference and focus. I have a really hard time warming up and I do really few approaches because my mind is very loud and paranoid. Which spiritual practises gave you this persistence and calmness?

The west is progressing very fast. There are a lot of young people who are at orange-green phase. Once the second/third world evolves into orange, we will have reached solid green and maybe half stage yellow. Those who are in purple, red and blue will be very slow to evolve anyways, because you need all the orange rationality and "openmindedness" to really evolve fast.

Max is from RSD and was instructed by them

Rsd Max and Julien Blanc (both from RSD) are great teachers with a humane side and very responsible about what they teach.

Julien Blanc has undergone what you are describing. And he received this only because at the time he was being an asshole on youtube and social media. Now he's better than ever and doing self help like a champ. The other people you see on the media are being attacked by stage green ideologues, because they are republicans or controversial figures who preach different values. If you keep a clean and peaceful online persona nobody is going to attack you. Especially if you are helping people to become more spiritual. Stay out of politics and out of controversial topics like religion and sex, and you will be untouched. Now start your project

I'm not a veteran, but I have some experiences with taking numbers and having some dates. The worst mistake is to wait after the number. At the new year's party I exchanged numbers with a girl I liked and after that I wasted three weeks texting her, until she lost interest and stopped replying. While both my past girlfriends were asked to meet at a date in a few days after the number-close. You have to suggest the idea of a coffee/walk at the mall at the moment of getting the number. "Let's exchange numers, we can get a coffee/take a walk at the bookstore in the next days" with a smile and light attitude. This creates the expectation that you are going to invest in seeing her. If you waste time texting and fucking around you will get dismissed. Girls tend to like clear expectations. Get the number, set the expectation in person, leave the bar, text her after 1 or 2 days. ask for the date you have already hinted at.

Thanks, your replies are the most useful female perspectives That's a huge societal problem that bothers me a lot. In the past I was hiding emotions all the time and I was always stoic and cold/robotic, while being damaged on the inside. In the recent years I've become a lot more open and honest about my emotions, especially with girls. When I was stoic my beliefs about women were very harsh, I thought they were arrogant and insensitive. Now that I've started to be honest and openly emotional I see that girls are actually empaths and care about it, which is healing my damaged view of women. But it's true that some girls are actually rude with nice guys. Since I'm very emotional and empathetic, this societal problem bothers me really hard. I don't understand this part. I get it that flirting includes also some jokes and teasing, but not faking insults and triggering nice peaceful people out of the blue (it was completely random, since I was just chilling). Why does a girl need to tease this hard if she likes someone? Isn't it counterproductive and counter-intuitive? To be honest my first gf also did this kind of hard teasing at my first date, and weeks later I told her about this and she apologized telling me it was just to poke me to make me catch her. I don't get this female behaviour, especially because we're talking about nice girls, and not asshole girls. And this triggers my feminine shadow a lot. What's your female perspective on this tricky behaviour?

Are your emotional issues with women going to manifest in "real life" like magic? I've been going out at parties and bars recently to chat up some girls and people, and often I've heard VERY confrontational lines from some girls, ESPECIALLY the real nice and peaceful girls! I mean phrases like: "ahah you deserve the worst, you are a loser". Or "I hope some huge guy beats you up, I would laugh". And these two examples come from the same girl at a bar, who is a very very nice and gentle girl!!! And the problem is not my attitude, since I'm very nice, polite, and politically correct with all of them. In fact I got triggered very hard and told the girl that she's being rude with a very peaceful and nice guy, and she told me to relax because "it's just a joke". But I can assure you that she was very confrontational and arrogant when saying it. And after that she talked to me all night and was having fun with me, it was not a dismissing line! I don't think that it is a shit test. This happened with other nice girls too recently. I have emotional issues with women (anima possession, I tend to see women as cold and really judging of me etc...), are these situations some kind of manifestation of my inner struggling?

Thanks, I'm going to follow this procedure!

How do I address it specifically? What's the right procedure?

Well, I'm definitely going to go out more and improve!

I empathize with both of you. Generally men have the opposite problem of yours. We tend to have less dating pool and less abundance but in turn we get the advantage of having more chance of having satisfaction in a relationship, since we have to proactively create it and lead the girl into it. But the initial part of dating is generally a huge pain in the ass for men. But it's all balanced. Girls suffer at the same level in the after-phase of dating. I think your problem stems from attracting some kind of negative energy that comes from you first. Low self esteem and weak boundaries tend to attract abusive people (not just partners, also friends) and depressing situations. I've been there, I've been a huge attractor of negative friends and abusive friends in general. You have to define your core beliefs and practice self esteem and self love, and this will generate in you attraction for healthy men and healthy mindsets. Right now you are NOT attracted to healthy men. That's the core problem,

Never talked about drunk sex, as I don't drink and I DON'T have sex with drunk girls. It's basically asking for trouble. I'm talking about emotional action-based consent from a sober girl, who is eager to take your clothes off etc, but without talking about sex. In my experience girls don't like to talk about sex while they are having foreplay. I was just asking if normal enthusiasm and her active role in sex is considered normal consent.