SgtPepper

you already are creating IT. This is what you created. Anytime "I" wants to change or create something, it is ego and misidentifying who you actually are.

I could be wrong, but Look into how you are expressing your feelings and also you have to try to build a bridge and try to listen to why they are upset that you are expressing your feelings. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements if you are not already doing so. There needs to be a back and forth of what each other's behavior is conjuring up inside each other. Then you will be in a much better position to meet each other's needs in the friendship

1. Learn about emotions. Learn to identify them experientially, label them, and understand them. example: *experiencing*: Sweaty palms, heart racing, thoughts of avoiding challenges. - "ah, I am feeling anxiety". Very important here... Next, connect to what you are needing. when *insert emotion* arise, there is a need that is wanting to be met either from yourself, from your environment, or someone else. Notice this is coming from within, it is yours. example: "ah, I am feeling anxiety". - "I am needing to know I am still lovable even if I fail." "I am needing to feel safe." "I am needing a clean space when I get home from work." Another example of expressing emotions, but to someone, with mastery. "When you raise your voice, I feel scared because I'm telling myself someone might get hurt here, and I need to know that we're all safe." Start to view Anger as being rooted in sadness, disappointment, helpless, guilt... Look up the Anger Iceberg on google. This will help you get to know what your emotions are telling you. Furthermore, Anxiety, depression, uncertainty, and confusion can lead to obsessive, cloudy, and unhelpful dialogue/self-talk. This pattern/cycle needs to be identified and immediately stopped. It's often judgy, distorted, critical, negative, pessimistic, increase a sense victimhood. Go back and connect to feelings and needs. -------- 2. Change your mind by changing your body. We have to reset ourself into the present moment to have clarity over what is going on. The best way to achieve this is to relax the body. If we relax the body, the mind will follow. Do yoga. Change our breathing. If a 20-45 minute daily meditation practice. Do every hour or so for 1-5 minutes, deep breaths with holds just like this. This helps slow down the mind and recenter for me.

What about something within Soccer. like coaching, sports psychology, a trainer, etc.

I gotta agree with Rilles man. One of the most valuable supports I have is a therapist. It helps keep things grounded while I explore consciousness and go through the path. You seem like a cool dude and I don't think there is anything wrong with going your own way, but in my own experience, setting boundaries are a good thing and necessary for understanding who we are, so I understand Leo too. Good luck, love yourself, and never give up.

Thanks for sharing this. Very inspiring for me!

Why would quality decrease? I don't understand why government funded healthcare immediately goes to decrease in quality. If there is too many patients than doctors, then couldn't we just train more doctors to meet the needs of society? And Why would it block scientific and medical breakthroughs? We could incentivize this without the potential corruption of maximizing profits only. My brother lives in Denmark and has never complained about the healthcare and has actual praised it, says it's easy, and gets served immediately.

Leo.

Intelligent, kind, beautiful, thoughtful, and ambitious about her projects/hobbies. Good with children and gets along with my family. Comes from a good household. Has similar values to mine like being healthy. Can embrace going to a party, being active, or a quiet evening. Can join me on my personal affairs. Has enough going on in her life so she is not clingy 24/7. Not deceptive, not vindictive, and can admit wrongness and apologize. Can hold a conversation and is not like talking to a wall lol.

Strongly agree with you @Consilience

Maybe you just need to something more with your time so you can build some self-love & self-esteem. I don't worry about stuff like that because I believe in myself. A relationship is so much deeper than how you describe it as well.

I've had great results with Dead Sea mud masks for facial appearance, and have even gotten complements after use on a glowing skin. I also use Dr. Bronner's Soap for everything, hair and body.

Men have commitment phobia because they are immature and lack vision. It's not enough to just give good sex to a man for him to commit. You gotta be a wife.

Yes you can. But what is your gripe with the state? Sometimes it's valid that the wife gets 50%. Let's say, you have the typical nuclear family where the husband is the bread winner and the wife takes cares of the children, cooks, cleans, maintains social life. That is a lot of work and the wife sacrifices her ability to build skills, earn a living, build a business reputation, etc. So if they divorce, which really should be out of the questions, then the wife has to start from square one financially speaking when she sacrificed years for the husband. It might be old rule since most women work nowadays to some extent, but it's conception didn't come out of nowhere.

As you can see there are a lot of ways to look at it. Obviously if you're frame of mind is that marriage is a sort of trap where someone can betray you and take all your position, and it functions as lock on your freedom, then yeah it sounds terrible. In my opinion though, Marriage is a beautiful, holy, and expansive thing. You get to be with your best friend. You get to practice unconditional love and forgiveness for the rest of your life. Create and expand your family which is a necessary foundation for any child. Strengthen your character. Get human needs for intimacy, trust, affection, and sex met. Your situation is a bit of a problem though. You're trying to get married by next year and you don't even have a girl whom you can propose to. So get on that if you want a valuable helpful life partner because you gotta screen out the losers.

Okay, I would bet that is the problem. Couples need to continue 'dating' each other even deep in the relationship. It keeps everything fresh, puts you out in front of men and women, which will get your guys on your best behavior haha; potentially re-kindle what you guys found attractive in each other in the first place. Even if you guys just go out on a picnic or just walk somewhere and grab some ice cream with masks. I also agree with @tsuki I just think between you both, you need to go on a romantic date that can inspire that masculine and feminine harmony.

I think people can do anything, but monogamy is the wisest. Polyamory hardly makes sense since dividing our attention/love will make it more difficult to establish a stronger relationship with one person. Or you will have to work double time to maintain a powerful relationship with two or more people. Then you have to deal with the drama of more than one person. It's just like the life purpose concept. who will have a stronger fulfilling relationship with their craft, someone who spends time on one skill for 10,000 hours, or 3-5 skills for 10,000 hours? You need to contemplate your own root more. You have to look at what family you grew up in. What do you mean by expanding it to all women? You want to commit to multiple women? You need to fundamentally understand what having a loving relationships actually means because its not just about unloading your seed with a bunch of women. Do you understand what Love actually is? Do you understand what family is? and what its function is? Marriage can be about survival, but it's ultimately about forming a committed union with someone. You can read up about this stuff, there is a whole field just about marriage, the emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual value of it.

Maybe she just needs to have a girl's night out? When was the last time you guys went out on a date? Dinner, dressed up nice? At some point you might have to pull back, emotionally and time wise. Just invest more in yourself and less in her since it's not fair to you.

Knowing how to have fun and being trustworthy.

by all means, follow those rules if you must, but to me, that list is crazy and extreme. Just take them if it feels right and you are curious and open minded.

where are you even getting your idea of the devil? The devil is not infinite not even Christians or Muslims believe this. you need to examine your beliefs. you are not seeing how your conception of the devil is an idea with beliefs that nest in your mind. Consciousness is beyond all beliefs which is why it is not from the devil. At least show me what you believe the devil is and where you are referencing this from?

but I am not thinking that I am doing it. I am literally being the Truth of the moment which is to be aware of what is, without any distortion. Are you saying the devil could be tricking me into believing that being aware is truth ? who/what is the devil to you?

what are you needing help with? I can prove there is no devil controlling me by being conscious, still, and aware of my body and breathe.

I largely agree with Dave Chappelle. I actually found him to be progressive for supporting transgender choice in using what bathroom they want. I don't really agree with the idea that transgender women are women in the conventional sense and vice versa with men. They are exactly what they call themselves: transgender women or transgender men. I agreed with him when he pointed out how Caitlyn Jenner won woman of the year as being ridiculous. I feel like Dave Chappelle's has a reasonable opinion.

Self help has helped me with: limiting belief systems - understand how what you believe influences everything. Every action begins with a seed and your thoughts make up reality ( psychedelics also made an impact on this). understand value and how to prioritize what is good - became introduced to different templates of organization of time, the importance of defining goals, and also defining how bad habits are serving a need. communicate more effectively - how our words have power in our mind and on others. start and receive value from journaling, meditation, and contemplation. take more action and responsibility - The only way to help yourself is to do this. Understand nature - masculinity, femininity, God - which is connected to my well-being. I think it also depends on what you define as self-help. Reading the Bible or Plato's republic is self-help to me. At the same time, I understand where you are coming from though.