Leo Gura

You pull to the biggest and closest place. So ideally a place with 2 beds. You never split a set of girls who are close friends, they will refuse it. Just pull them both. Pulling 3 girls with 2 guys is gonna be very challenging. You basically need one of them to drop off, leave, or fall asleep. Or you can try to grab a random guy to join you two. Or you can even call a wing to come join. Once you got a contact list of local wings, you can text them and say, "We got an extra girl who needs company. Come to my place." Another thing that's possible is you pull all 3 girls to your place for an after party. As you party with them and have fun, you take your girl by the hand and lead her to the bathroom and go quick sex there. This is a good option when there's just no way to properly isolate. Just make sure she don't regret sex with you. Make sure she wants it. Another good option is to party with them till the dead of night, till everyone is dead tired and start going to bed. Then just follow your girl into her bed. Often her friends could fall asleep early, giving you privacy with your girl. You could also take her to have sex in your car if you got one. Or even outside in some dark alley. One of my old wings literally fucked a girl in Austin under a bridge. You gotta be creative. Again, make sure she's into it. I've had wings fuck girls in restrooms, parking lots, cars, bridges, rooftops, ice rooms, and even in the middle of the dance floor at the club. You can even fuck in an elevator. The other option with a 3-set is do it solo so the other 2 girls can entertain themselves while you eventually walk off with your girl at the very end of the night. You just stick around with them an be social until your girls to bed and you follow her into her bed. - - - - Just keep looking for better wings. Yeah, sometimes wings can be very immature or inept. But you will eventually find great wings, especially in a place like Toronto. A great way to find wings is to attend an RSD Free Tour event when it comes to your town. The best wings tend to show up to those.

But Dr K is even open to mushrooms. I heard him recommending it as a possible method of healing. So it's not like Dr K was even anti-psychedelics. Perhaps, but also therapists and coaches are human and they make errors in judgment sometimes. Overall I find Dr K to be professional, empathetic, and careful when speaking to people. He doesn't just mouth off, he is careful and intelligent in framing his coaching questions. Yes, but on the other hand there is no cure for stupidity. Life demands having a good head on one's shoulders, otherwise shit like this happens. A grown adult ultimately has to be able to make judgment calls for himself, even if employing the use of experts and advisors. You are the CEO of your life. If a doctor tells you to take a pill, you can't just blindly take it. You gotta do your own research and make sure that pill won't kill you. But if an individual is so far gone that he cannot make basic rational decisions, in the end no one can save him from that. Even if Dr K babysat him for 2 years, he still probably would have killed himself because the issue is lack of good judgment. His family even had a history of that, so clearly this was a very deep-seated issue that I doubt even a year of therapy would solve.

For the last 60 years. Well, California alone cannot solve the problems of capitalism. California isn't pure Green, it's more like Orange-Green. Relative to other states immigrants are much more welcome in Cali. Cali literally has safe harbor cities. Of course under capitalism immigrants are not going to be treated fairly economically. But then again, they are still much better off in Cali than in Mexico and Central America. Yeah, well, LA is a very Orange-Green town. More Orange than Green. If you want more hippie Green vibes, check out Oregon.

I regret to inform you guys that I made the decision to demote Nahm from being a Mod. Since he is one of the biggest members of this community I know plenty of you may be upset by this, so here's my explanation: I have noticed over the last few years that Nahm's posts/advices were becoming more and more out of touch with people. Like he was talking at them or through them, not meeting people at the level they were at. Often his posts were cryptic and ambiguous to the point of confusion. I made several private messages to him about this over a year ago, hoping that he would see the problem and correct it. His posts and replies were becoming so out of touch at times that even I had trouble understanding him. It felt more and more like he was communicate from inside his own spiritual bubble, unable to see how his posts were failing to land with normal people, or even myself. Often I would read one of his posts and just have no idea what he was trying to say or how it would help. And if I fail to understand a post, I know 90%+ of others will not understand it or be helped by it. This failure to understand is not from lack of consciousness but from the style in which Nahm chooses to express himself. The issue isn't that Nahm is not a developed or conscious guy, but the obscure and nonsensical way he communicates. I turned I blind eye to this for several years, hoping it would correct itself naturally. Unfortunately it has gotten worse. The parroting of neo-Advaita platitudes in response to people's relative questions and problems has become too much, especially recently. When I explained this problem to Nahm via PM and tried to communicate with him about correcting it, he started to spout those same vapid neo-Advaita platitudes at me. This is not the kind of communication I can stomach from my Mods. It also became clear to me that he was not interested nor capable of changing his ways. Nor do I want to force him to change his ways if he doesn't do so of his own recognizance. The issue here being that platitudes such as "there is no you" or "that is just a thought" do not help people and in fact start to do the opposite. I do not like neo-Advaita style teachings and I do not want this forum to turn into the kind of place where some normie asks a straight forward question and the response is something like, "There is no you, that's just a thought, there is no one to awaken." These kinds of teachings do not lead to the God-realization I am trying to guide people towards. With that said, I have no personal ill feelings towards Nahm. He's got many wonderful qualities, most of all is his big heart. I have met him in-person and he's a great guy to hang out with. I know he's coming from good intentions, but his style of teaching nonduality simply does not align with what I am trying to teach about God-realization and the future direction of Actualized.org teachings about awakening. I know many of you love Nahm and I know he has helped many of you in various ways. I appreciate that and his service to this community since the forum's inception back in 2016. Unfortunately he can longer be a Mod and the situation may devolve to the point where I have to ask him to leave this forum entirely because he keeps parroting the same neo-Advaita platitudes in every situation and I don't know how much more of that I can tolerate. Honestly, I've been tolerating it for months already. I tried to turn a blind eye to it because he has a long history here, he's helped many people here, I consider him a friend, and many of you guys look up to him. But it's just clear to me that this is not going to work out long term because our styles are so different. What he teaches is not what I teach. And I am okay with that to some degree -- not everyone has to agree with me or teach spirituality like me -- but the vacuous neo-Advaita talk has become too much recently. This is a great example of the problem of conflating relative and absolute matters to the point of disconnect with the normal people. When a store clerk asks you to pay the bill, the proper response is not, "There is no one who can pay the bill, and no bill to pay." I know some will be upset by this and will disagree with my decision here. So, whatever your feelings are about this situation -- good or bad -- share them here or forever hold your peace. We will not be able to move on from this until the air has been cleared. So take the time to do that now. I'm sorry it has come to this. I wish Nahm the best. Nahm, I sincerely thank you for your years of service to this community. Really. You put in so much of your heart into this. And we all saw that. Attached is a screenshot of my last communication with Nahm on this matter so that you understand why I made the decision I did: https://i.imgur.com/3WKAELm.jpeg This was not a decision I wanted to make. Note: do not attack each other over this.

I am not going to answering any of your questions about "Who is awake to what degree?" Context matters. I only say that when you guys pester me with distracting questions, like ranking your favorite gurus. This is a fools pursuit, so stop going there. I am not going to be ranking your gurus for you. As far as I'm concerned they don't even exist but images in your mind designed to keep you asleep. You need to realize that you are fantasizing the awakenings of other people. Forget about their awakenings. Focus on yours.

You are dreaming up Rupert Spira.

Thanks for the feedback. Keep doing the work. I would write a book, but who is there to read it?

Well, you see... there is no difference between anything. At all. Like, at all.... That is awakening.

LA isn't failing. What are you smoking? Homeless in LA exist because the weather is nice, because house prices are crazy (from success), and because of capitalism. California is the most successful state by far. It could be its own country it's so successful. What's failing is West Virginia & Alabama.

You can make up some fantasy but there's nothing to do but enjoy life. Healing what? You're God.

Dude, Toronto is one of the top cities in the world for game. So none of your BS excuses. You can find tons of wings and you can also game solo. But solo is very hard to start with so look for wings. Fuck your values for now. You don't need these wings to be your spiritual gurus. Their only purpose right now is to get you laid. Later you can be more picky. The dude from HonestSignalz YT channel is from Toronto. Watch him game. You are not going to find enlightened wings. PUAs are all around stage Orange and they are obsessed with one thing: getting laid. Which is what you need right now.

Yeah but that's not a good enough reason to kill oneself. You don't need Dr K to tell you to restart your mushrooms if you are feeling like shit without them. This isn't rocket science. People don't just kill themselves on a whim or because someone said one wrong thing. You know how much bad advice I've gotten from doctors? You don't see me killing myself over it. A licensed doctor can give you really shitty advice. So what? You gotta use your head. No license or ethics board will save you from bad advice.

There's nothing meaningful beyond awakening. There's nothing left to do.

Connor Murphy = Buffoon with mental disorder

@Michal__ Are your seriously comparing Suzuki DT to Connor Fucking Murphy?

No. God is asleep. Lol. No. Consciousness is consciousness. You can't redefine it.

Not really. No. If anything it removes the distinction of self vs world and you melt into it. You do not have anything close to infinite consciousness. Be careful kidding yourself about that. No, that is not enough. You actually require a higher state of consciousness. Nothing can substitute for a high state of consciousness. No amount of work.

That's what life is for. To figure out all the details of that. It's not easy but it is possible. There is no algorithm for how. There are many, many ways.

Because it's just acknowledging what you are. Let's say you found Truth, what then? I bring my Godness into the sex or whatever. When you realize you're God, you will also realize a deep compassion for yourself and your desires. God doesn't need you to surrender all your desires, that's actually ego talking. God would love for you to explore whichever desires you desire. God can allow itself to be selfish because it is selfless. If you want to buy yourself a Porsche Taycan, God will say: "Okay, buy it and enjoy it." God is not going to say, "No you selfish fuck, that's wrong!"

Not only is it possible, there's no other option.

I don't know what that means. You can keep developing your self/mind forever. I think it's far more realistic to embrace your desires and indulge them as long as they aren't crazy toxic like the desire to shoot up a school. Obviously shouldn't indulge that. But if you have a desire for porn, for example, I would indulge it. And I do Honestly, after my deepest awakening, it's made me embrace my desires more. I am more honest with myself about my animalistic desires. I have no problem being hedonistic at times. I've dropped the spiritual act of being above desire, and this is actually growth. For example, in the middle of my deepest awakening I got the desire/vision to start a love triangle / threesome with 2 girlfriends. And there was zero shame in that. I'm not saying I'm acting out on it, but I'm also not saying I would not. Basically, I allow myself whatever pleasure I want which doesn't harm others much. My range of future behavior is more open than ever, but also I have less need to act selfishly because I'm more conscious than ever. And still, I allow myself to act selfishly too!

You could make that case. Maybe there's some merit to it. But I wouldn't overblow it. It's being framed as though Dr K killed the guy. What I see is that Dr K was doing his best to help him, and he had a few slip-ups. This is not a good reason to trash him. You guys understand that in real therapy clients can kill themselves too? It's not like the therapist is some kind of savoir. Most people who go to therapists don't improve. In fact I would bet that most therapists are mediocre and harm their clients by over-prescribing drugs. Just because it's legal and "ethical" doesn't mean it helps people truly grow and heal, or avoid suicide. The difference here is that when a client kills himself within private therapy, no one knows about it so there cannot be any outrage. But when it's all live-streamed, it's ripe for a Twitter outrage mob, lead by Mr Girl.

I didn't just create websites, I launched websites, marketed them, and made lots of sales through them. I earned lots of money doing that. Way more than a salary job could ever pay. Game designers are not paid very well. I was making $45k/yr as an entry level game designer in Boston. I was making $150k-$200k/yr off my website(s) and my partner was making that much as well. So actually the gross of our site was close to $400k/yr at its peak. I'm not going to get into that. It worked for me, but it came at significant cost to my mental well-being and it's not easy to pull it off. Internet marketing has changed A LOT in the last 10 years since I stopped doing it. So I cannot say what works today. The stuff that I did 10 years ago will no longer work. The internet is a different beast. But of course there are always new opportunities to make lots of money online. I just can't help you there. But you can also make a shit-load of money in games. If you know how to develop great games. Huge money can be made in almost any industry. Pick whichever you love most. It's possible to make a game that earns $100 million in profit. See Stardew Valley as one example. Minecraft made billions.

Yes, psychedelics are a catalyst for the psyche. They can speed up an upward ascent to heaven or a downward descent into hell.

To be fair to him, I spoke to him and he had some deep insights and awakenings. But that doesn't guarantee mature behavior in the relative world. Mixing legit awakening with mental disorder + immaturity + a stage Orange level of development is a recipe for trouble. And that's what unfolded. Awakening != development Don't forget that development is hugely important. Awakening is not the only thing we pursue here. We also do a lot of development work. Those of you who are not ready for the highest awakening can just stick around for the development aspects of this work and enjoy a good normal life.