Leo Gura

You got really bad game. That's the problem. Of course the girl was also probably boring, but that's less of a problem than your game. YES! Yup, classic bad game and simply inexperience. All this needs to be worked on and fixed. Yup, this needs to be unlearned. Yes, exactly. And she felt all that too, because girls feel what you feel. So of course she was not going to sleep with you after that. Why would she? You make her feel unwanted. The silver lining is that you are able to get so many dates in the first place with such bad inner game and poor social skills. So the good news is, once your inner and outer game is dialed in, you will be getting laid a lot. You should be able to convert 70% of your dates once you are good. You need outer game too. There is outer game technique to executing a successful date. So keep doing dates and learning from each failure. Failure is okay as long as you're learning from each one. After each date sit down and write out how you will behave differently on the next one. It's not enough to just blindly talk to girls. At the end of each night you must analyze what you did wrong and how you will act differently next time. Yeah, you need to learn to let go of all that fear and truly enjoy the date in a relaxed state. Teach yourself to relax and get out of your head. No thinking, just vibing and enjoying the moment. Make your date enjoyable, so that YOU enjoy. Not for her sake but for yours. Go to date locations you enjoy being at. Talk about things you enjoy talking about. Why don't you talk about spirituality with her, or whatever topic you're most passionate about? Hell, you could talk about Runescape. Girls don't care what you talk about as long as you're passionate about it. You could talk about different kinds of cheese you like. You literally need to just put yourself into a positive state. Practice it. Go out to a bar/club, then consciously relax and enter a happy mood. Start dancing to the music, start laughing, get comfortable, start talking to people, and get out of your logical head. Keep practicing this night after night until you get good at it. Then practice it on dates, before the date starts. You can use visualization techniques at home to pre-visualize your dates and even putting yourself into a relaxed and positive emotional state. Do visualization every day for months until you got it locked down. Stop getting frustrated and depressed, and start doing the inner and outer work. This isn't a matter of luck. You need to train in the proper ways to get the results you want. That's it. Once you are well trained you will get good results, and until then you won't. You get out of negative thinking by doing constructive work towards your goal.

Hume is one of the easy philosophers to understand. It only gets harder from there.

Trying to be a leader because it makes you live longer is a bad reason to be a leader.

Locked for low quality.

You're gonna have a magnetic attraction toward leading. Even though leading will still be difficult.

Make her feel more confortable. Don't ask her to touch your dick. Just slowly escalate and get her horny. Do not verbalize it, and take all responsibility for sex off her.

@BuddhistLover Make extra sure that you are following your ideas, not my ideas.

The problem is that I haven't found a good way to detox it.

It can happen by accident but you don't wanna rely on that. In social circle you can afford to be more friendly and things might then develop. But you'll be risking the friendzone there.

Your awakening is not complete. God demands bacon

Locking this for now. I might re-open it later after people cool off. Anyone making posts here that do not pertain to Teal will start receiving Warning Points, so watch what you post. This thread is not about you guys.

But she already told you that. If she was attracted to you she would obviously want you to make some moves. She would even ask for it. But she's obviously doing the opposite. She's made you her gay friend. You're failing in establishing man-woman frame with some sexual threat. For a girl to get attracted to you, you gotta present a sexual threat to her. She will feel that if she's ever gets alone in a room with you, you will undress her. This frame needs to be set immediately upon interacting with a girl. Sounds like you're being too much of a nice guy and tucking your dick between your legs. This is a lesson for you to learn to be more of a man. FYI, when a man sees a girl he likes, he doesn't play games. He makes moves, he takes her. He doesn't hesitate or bides his time to befriend her. And any time she's around him he acts towards her with sexual charge. There is no option of being friends without sex. A man cannot have girls as just friends unless he is already sleeping with other girls. If you want to keep this girl strictly as your friend then you gotta go find yourself a girl who you're sleeping with elsewhere.

Everyone, cool it. This thread is about Teal. Do not comment any further on Preety or other members. Let it go.

No harm done.

I understand what you're saying. But this discussion was not about you. I called Teal crazy in a tongue-in-cheek way. I understand that you don't want your BPD demonized or made fun of. It's a serious condition. Which is why I give Teal a lot of benefit of the doubt. If she has BPD that makes her accomplishments more impressive. If her childhood was even half as bad as she claims, then I can give her a lot more leeway as a teacher. My expectations for her are lower because her life was a lot harder. I'm not going to hold her to the same standard as some Zen master.

Don't play games with me. You can criticize me, but you are the one accusing me of lying. But if you go back and re-read the message where I said she had BPD, I clearly say, "I believe..." I never represented anything as guaranteed to you. If you took it that way, that's not my problem. I have been very careful in what I say about Teal in this thread, making sure not to slander her or treat her unfairly.

@Preety_India Check your drama at the door please.

No

Can't recall where exactly. I've consumed too much about Teal lately. You are welcome to do your own research.

@bambi I don't want to moderate your drunk nonsense. You guys are full of shit even while sober.

I believe Teal herself said that she was diagnosed with it. If her rape stories are true than I would expect that and much more diagnoses.

It's not merely gossip. It's legit to inquire if something toxic is happening in a spiritual community. Some people here might be harmed by it if there is any truth to it, which maybe there is not, but the question is legit. Especially since Teal invited this documentary on herself. As someone who teaches spirituality I feel obligated to keep an eye on who is teaching what and if any of it is toxic or misleading. And cult activity is always a danger in this field, so...

If her rape stories are true and she has BPD, then she's actually doing surprisingly well. Could be much worse. You have to set your expectations based on someone's upbringing. She could have turned into a serial killer, you know. Someone with a really bad childhood needs to be cut some slack because their brain is forever wired differently. I am very mentally stable because I had a really good childhood. But I can't really take credit for that. And that's not the kind of person who needs Teal's help.

I prefer pure DMT. Why polute it with junk? 5-10mg is super easy to vape with a dab rig.

Harlama isn't a full on MAOI, it's fairly safe to take with DMT if he has high tolerance. Never take MAOI with 5-MeOs.