Leo Gura

That's the kind of stuff we need. An EEG machine basically does that. But still, meditating with an EEG involves plenty of work. The thing is, when you're meditating rigorously it's exhausting work. It's not fun and relaxing. At least not until you get really good at it, then it can become effortless. But it doesn't start out effortless. In the future we'll probably have some kind of brain surgery that just makes you great at effortless meditation without any practice. Until such time, teaching kids while they are young is probably the best way.

A guy doesn't really need a girl to have a wicked sense of humor, just that she be fun, playful, and able to laugh at stuff. People who are too serious are not attractive. You should be able to laugh at yourself and laugh at the absurdity of life.

Girls don't understand a guy's needs so well. Often they don't even care about our needs. They dress up nice because it's helpful for attracting guys and boosting their own self-esteem -- and it's just baked into the culture. Yes, you should understand a girl's needs more. This is very good. But a girl's needs are actually much deeper than vibe. Vibe can often be a facade that doesn't really met her needs. But of course she doesn't have much else to evaluate you on but vibe when you first meet, so vibe is crucial early on. That's not why they pick masculine guys. They pick masculine guys because the feminine needs the masculine and vice versa. It's not about abundance. High femininity requires high masculinity to ground it. And the kind of girls you're probably attracted to tend to be highly feminine. The feminine tries to optimize from its end and the masculine tries to optimize from its end. Yes, broadcasting masculine vibe and energy is huge for attracting girls. That's like bait for the feminine. The feminine is always sniffing around for some genuine masculinity to wrap itself around.

@Raine As a man you just gotta grow a thick skin and don't get wrapped up around the axle about stuff like this. Some girls laugh at you? Who gives a flying fuck? You should laugh at them and laugh at yourself too. It sounds like you are being too serious. Whatever insecurities you have, you must own them and learn to laugh at them, even using them as the butt of jokes. Make jokes about yourself being bald. "I'm too cool for hair. Hair is for losers.", etc. Learn to embrace your weaknesses and make light of them. Self-deprecating humor is very powerful not just for attracting girls but for making yourself feel good. Honestly, I doubt those girls were even laughing AT you. Your mind is likely just interpreting situations that way because you are fundamentally insecure. It is not normal for girls to just laugh at an ugly guy. That like never happens. People don't laugh at ugly people, they laugh perhaps at some lame way that you're acting. Maybe you are overcompensating and they laugh at that. No one has ever laughed at me for being bald. Never. And I've talked to like 5000+ girls. Sometimes girls will walk up to me and ask to rub my head for good luck. And I laugh. I don't take it personally. You need to develop a sense of humor about yourself and about life. It sounds trivial but I'm telling you this is a huge part of not only getting good with girls but just overall personal happiness. Happy people laugh at themselves. Miserable people cannot laugh at themselves. You want to develop a delusional level of self-confidence such that when people interact with you they walk away thinking: "Damn, that guy is so charming, carefree, humorous, and cool that maybe I should go bald like him. Maybe being bald just makes you cooler?" Stop trying to hide your insecurities and weaknesses. Wear them on your sleeve. Talk about them. Laugh about them. Makes joke about them. Eventually you will stop worrying about it.

Be careful with the elevator. It's a very specific thing you'd have to research first before you just bumble into it. You could get in trouble if you execute it wrong. If you want to test how that might work, find a secluded low-traffic elevator and pull its break, then wait and see how much time you get and how easy it is to restart. You don't want to cause excessive problems for the place. That's a last-resort option. You want to aim for better options. I was just giving you some radical ideas to open up your mind. You would be much better off pulling to the backseat of a car or her friend's house. Also, remember, the point of all this is to enjoy yourself. If you don't enjoy having sex in some public bathroom, then why even bother? Personally I don't enjoy that, I don't want that. But it's worth trying once or twice just for the reference experience and the leading experience. If you can pull a girl to the bathroom you can pull her almost anywhere. That leading skill is what's most important in this. Practice leading girls and just see how far you can push it. This grows you and makes you attractive. Girls appreciate a guy who knows how to lead well.

Bullet dodged.

Well, Infinity is not knowable in the sense that you cannot pin it down with a set of finite explanations or forms. However, you can BECOME it. You can exist as it and be fully conscious of it. It's a sort of meta-knowing which is also unknowing. Sorry for the paradoxical Zen speak but that's just the nature of the beast. I'm curious what effects on your health that much ketamine use produced. Care to share? Did you notice any deterioration in your physical health or mental function? I've gone to Buddhist-style retreats such as those hosted by Shinzen Young. I've also met some serious Buddhist students and talked to people who go to these retreats for 10+ years. I've also read plenty of books written by hardcore Buddhist meditators. And the bottom line is that I find all of it very lacking when it comes to God-realization and Love-realization. Go read Daniel Ingram's meditation book for example. It's one of the most serious modern Buddhist meditation books and you will find no proper mention of God or Love in that book. And this is not an isolated example. So what does this tell you? If a spiritual teaching does not open and close with something like "You are God, God is Love", I can't take it seriously. To me ketamine is a great explanation of how this happens. Ketamine puts me into a Zen-like state of no-mind and not-knowing... and that is that. But the God and Love is largely missing. So people who achieve similar states through meditation don't inspire me much. It's cool, but there is something way cooler to awaken to. What I really want is a spiritual path that takes me where 5-MeO takes me, not where ketamine takes me. I'm sure ketamine gets cooler at higher doses, but I don't see it topping 5-MeO.

That is precisely what makes meditation so inaccessible. 99.9999% of people will not / cannot do that. Yet people are sold the fantasy that meditating for 30 mins a day will get them somewhere deep. If you are willing and able to meditate rigorously for 4-8 hrs per day, congrats, you are in the top 0.0001% and you will probably have huge gains. But also, how can you expect most humans to do this? There has to be some better way otherwise mankind will remain asleep forever.

I find that the best way to use psychedelics for trauma is at low doses. Healing trauma requires a gentle approach, not blasting oneself into God-land. Gentle, steady, consistent, slow. Do lots of baby trips and turn it into a form of self-therapy. Blasting isn't good for that. You want gradually confront truths and inner demons that you've been avoiding, otherwise the psychedelic will itself create more trauma. Remember, you can always dose up but never dose down. So err on the side of underdosing. If you underdose all you lose is some time.

You'd have to use the break to stop it. And check that it doesn't have security cameras. This would require a low traffic elevator. Well, horny mode is mostly good enough. But there are degrees to it. You gotta pump up her state so she's feeling adventurous, slutty, and looking for fun. You learn it through lots of experience pulling. Keep leading and pulling. You'll get lots of failure and each one will teach you valuable lessons so your future pulls go smoothly. Pulling is an art you can only learn through massive practice. You should have tried to pull that girl to the bathroom just to learn a lesson from its failure. Stop thinking of this in terms of sex and start thinking of it in terms of lessons in pulling. Practice pulling girls even if you think it will fail. It's better to pull and fail than to just wave her goodbye and never see her again. Do 50 failed pulls and you will learn how to pull.

@Rishabh R Keep contemplating it. This is not about others. The answers are found within you.

Overkill. Be careful not to freak your girlfriend out. All harmala does is increase the potency of the trip by 5x-10x. Can your traumatized gf handle a 10x mushroom trip? I doubt it. Never give other people large doses of psychedelics. You will regret it.

Modern society is dysfunctional in many ways and teens are not given the guidance necessary to develop a good life in a modern world. They are basically sent through a factory-farm education system which doesn't teach anything about how to live virtuously or happily. Teens are left on their own to figure it out and most of them never do, or they fall into one form of dogma or another. It's not easy to figure out how to live well and healthy. Especially not when so many adults set a bad example and business systems are literally designed to feed off of and perpetuate the dysfunctions of people.

Thanks cult, ya'll are too kind

@Rishabh R That's a good start. But your avoidance of truth goes much deeper than that. That is just the obvious stuff.

Obviously you don't enroll in uni just to get laid. It's assumed you want an education.

You have to read what mood she's in. This requires a certain adventurous and horny mood. She has to be DTF.

Obviously.

Well, I have no experience with that so I cannot speak to it or recommend it directly. I know it exists and I even shared a video about it on my blog last year.

Technically no. But closely related.

Symbolic/conceptual aspects of mind which create meaning, narratives, explanations, reasons, logic, science, etc. The entire domain of language and all it enables. For example your birth and death are actually symblically generated using language and concept.

That's super common. You will lose many girls that way. Yes Very viable. Risk is quite low. Worst that will happen is you get kicked out. You just lead her by the hand. Don't verbally explain it. Just get her aroused and then lead. Ideally you want a secluded bathroom, preferably one of those family style bathrooms where you can lock the door. These are usually located outside the club. Inside the club bathroom is usually not very viable. But this depends on how busy/secure the club is. No Vegas club will allow you to fuck inside the club bathrooms. But outside is doable. Fuck no! Never explicitly mention sex to girls. You gotta be subtle about it. Nothing needs to be said. Just lead and get her horny. A better alternative would have been to close at her friend's place. You should have asked to come with her to her friends place and close there, either in the bedroom or bathroom. It's much easier in a private bathroom than a public one. Car is a great option. Some dark alley-way is possible. Under a bridge. In a dark parking garage. In an elevator. In a dressing room. In an ice room. You could also buy a motel/hotel room on the spot.

@Asayake Nils is God's costume. But since Oneness, God's costume IS God.

Look, if you were a Christian your mind might frame that part to be Jesus. And if you were a Hindu you might frame that part to be Ganesha or whatever. It doesn't matter because those are just inventions of Mind. Your mind needs some way to frame these "parts" for you with some kind of sensible form. If you were a fish that part would take on the form of some fish guru. You might imagine that the love is coming from the heart. But that's not really the case, that's just another image your mind is using to pin down Infinity. Look past such forms to the totality of consciousness and Yourself. Love is not coming from any part/form within reality. Love is the totality of consciousness/reality. Love is purely a lack of all difference and bias. When your consciousness realizes that there is no difference between any two things -- that will be pure metaphysical Love. Be ware of how your mind is trying to ground Love into some finite form like a chemical, the heart, a person, an angel, a deva, Jesus, the brain, or whatever else. And dare to see beyond all that.

You can do what 99% of girls do: just ignore. Or you can invent some comfy excuse like: I'm seeing someone.