Leo Gura

1) You are too immature to say such things congruently. 2) This only works with the right girl, a highly developed girl. 3) Pickup and dating is not the same thing as a serious relationship and marriage. You don't say stuff like that to some 20 year old slut you pull from the club. A) I'll believe it when I see it. B) Exception that proves the rule. It's not just verbal technique that's required to pull something like that off. Your core level of ego development needs to be high, and this cannot be faked with some simple technique. A relationship will really test your level of embodiment of consciousness. To do relationships like that you'd have to change your core identity. No. Most girls would not be capable of this. She must have an established baseline of serious development. Even many Green and spiritual girls would be way too immature and way too emotionally reactive to handle conscious communication like that. That's well and good. Good for you.

1) Verbals really hinge on state. If you hit peak state your verbals will automatically get much better. But this requires that you be disciplined about hitting state each night. 2) Your verbals will improve automatically, but slowly. To speed up the process you should listen to good verbals and generate your own verbals at home. Not as canned lines per se, but you want to get good at developing fun things to say. You can practice this a bit each day at home. Try coming up with 2 fun lines each night and write them down in your database. Then experiment with saying them. Over time you will build up a memory bank of good lines and you will also develop the skill to improve fun new lines on the fly. 3) More than working on your verbals you need to work on relaxing in the environment and really letting loose and having fun. You need to genuinely relax and have fun when you are out. This will auto-correct many problems, including verbals. Your verbals will be 10x better when you are genuinely relaxed, comfortable, and having fun. Anxiety is killing your verbals.

There is good science that shows that you definitely can grow new neurons. In fact, I just read an article this week about how mushrooms have been shown to help with neurogenesis.

I would be more concerned about kidding yourself in such matters. You're not as developed as you think you are. It's not impossible. But it takes work. Such a relationship will never just happen by accident. Which is why it impressed you so much. It's like seeing someone juggle 10 daggers. You can learn to do it too, but will you?

Well, they live desperate lives but they don't know any higher way so they are stuck. They also have no clue the beauty they are missing out on.

Realistically not. You'd need to find two people who are both in the top 0.001% of development and consciousness. It's basically impossible without being super developed. 99.99% of people couldn't do it even if they wanted to. And they don't even want to. You might say you want it, but: A) Your selfishness will make it impossible, B) You don't want to make the sacrifices and work necessary for such a relationship. Instead you'd rather just have fun and have your needs met. - - - - - I'm not at a point in my development where I feel I would be fully capable of such a relationship. It would take me more development work. In my 40s I will be capable of it.

@thisintegrated Most people don't even know there is anything above Orange.

Go for it

@Blackhawk You have no clue what you are.

The only way that's gonna work is if your partner is as super developed as you are. Both gotta be at Tier 2. And there has to be a deep core compatibility between you two. And basically you're talking about a couple that's in their 40s. There's no way that's gonna fly in your 20s and probably not even in your 30s. People are just too immature for that sort of thing at that age. Core maturity is a huge factor. An immature person is incapable of conscious relationship and conscious communication.

Lots of people chase money and women their whole lives and never get to Green. So it's not so automatic. But we have talked a lot about exhausting stages. Especially see my video: Burning Through Karma

No-self is way more than just an insight. No-self actually requires loss of a sense of self. Imagine that you simply forgot the self is even a thing. That's would be true realization of no-self. Right now you are just holding no-self as an idea. Notice, a coffee table cannot even conjure up the idea of a self. That's true no-self. What is a self anyway?

@Preety_India Personally I don't like the label narcissist and I rarely use it. Because to me narcissism is just a strong form of selfishness which is the human condition. And yes, demonization of selfishness is itself selfish and self-defeating. It's actually pretty easy to empathize with a narcissist if you observe your own selfishness and self-bias. What is really the difference between him and you? It's a matter of degree.

The core problem is that a person cannot change unless they really desire to change intrinsically. Most narcissists don't see their narcissism as a problem, so changing them becomes impossible. But if a narcissist developed a desire to change, they could change. Trump is a good example. If he desired to change he could stop doing all the shit he does.

Life is too easy up there

It's not lower IQ, it's just a different orientation and set of values, needs, priorities, strengths, ways of information process, and interfacing with reality. When it comes to dealing with people and taking care of children, women are way more intelligent than most guys. That's what the female mind is wired for. It's not wired for inventing gadgets or doing logic.

Economic outlook is bad right now. That was before we had a bad economic outlook, inflation, gas prices, and supply shortages. Things have changed. Trump has a serious chance of winning now. I also overestimated how Republicans would distance themselves from Trump. Instead they have doubled down on MAGA nonsense. They are completely ethically and intellectually bankrupt. The only thing that they will listen to is raw power and strict law enforcement. They have no shame nor standards any more. If they are legally allowed to steal an election they will do it without qualms.

Violent footage was released 1.5 years ago. You just weren't looking nor interested in it.

You're way behind the curve on this. This Congressional hearing didn't release anything new, really. All the videos of Jan 6th showed how ugly and serious it was. You just aren't watching the right news sources. Trump has a very good chance of winning 2024 if he is allowed to run, thanks to the bad economy, inflation, gas prices, and a totally ignorant citizenry. Even someone like Elon Musk is biased and dumb enough to vote Republican in our current epistemic climate. It was obvious that Trump was a malignant narcissist, white collar criminal, and con-artist back in 2015. And it was obvious that he would try to take the whole ship down with him if he was going down himself. And that's exactly what happened, and will happen again if he is allowed power.

Nowhere did I say you should be worrying so much. Life is a game you must play to the hilt even though you could get hit by a bus any day. In fact, playing it to the hilt is what gives you peace and happiness if your life ends tomorrow. If you get an illness and you have no purpose, that's when you will truly have no more reason to live. Life can get extremly hard and there's nothing that will prepare you for it. You can imagine very bad life conditions all day long. But it would be foolish to design your life around that, since odds of it are pretty low. You could get your dick bitten off tomorrow, but you shouldn't plan your life according to such edge cases. If you do get your dick bitten off tomorrow you can adjust your life plans accordingly. Notice how your OCD and fear is creating self-sabotage in your life. You can't become strong or successful with that kind of loser's mentality. It's big mistake to design your life around fear. And this does not mean bad shit won't befall you. It will. Deal with it. That's life.

Oh yeah? Watch him. He has no shame.

1) You should get good at talking about mundane stuff with girls. Rarely will a girl give you much intellectual challenge. That's not really her function. 2) If you value deep intelligent conversations then you should emphasize that when screening girls. Some girls are deeper while most are shallow as a puddle. 3) Most girls will be more interested in people than in things and ideas. This is how girls gotta be to be good mothers. So to some extent you just learn to accept it.

Rather than trying to respond or comfort someone, just get good at listening to them and asking clarifying questions that deepen understanding. Set your intention to simply see his POV, rather than trying to get something out of him. If you do this genuinely he should start to feel validated. This requires openmindedness, curiosity, coming from a place of not-knowing, and dropping your assumptions and expectations. The issue for you will be that you are very emotionally reactive, and if he is too, you two will trigger each other and that won't be sustainable. An emotionally reactive man is a rather weak man and that's gonna create problems in the masculine/feminine dynamic.

If you dream it up, it is. What's foolish is to outsource your dosing of a very dangerous chemical to a fictional entity based on hearsay from a girl. I would not trust a girl to cook me a healthy dinner, nevermind how to dose psychedelics. How about you use your brain to guide yourself?

@Razard86 @Aleister Crowleyy More compassion, less self-righteousness.