Leo Gura

I never slept with her so there was no relationship. Yes, she broke it off because I was both needy and clueless about escalating. - - - - - - I think you reduce being high-value mostly to money. But that's actually not it. It's more about having a cool lifestyle and stimulating her emotionally. Women are driven entirely by emotions in this domain. So if she's leaving you, that only means one thing: she didn't feel strong enough emotions towards you. Clearly it's not your looks. If you are getting so many online dates then your looks are above average. So it must be your personality or lifestyle. It could also just be some bad luck. Sometimes you have a bad streak. To draw solid conclusions you need a large sample size.

That's not really addressing the issue. Just avoiding it.

I rank it as irrelevant. Looks are important to gain her approval to sleep with you, but once she has decided to sleep with you, from then on looks don't matter. Looks are not determining whether she sees you as boyfriend material because if she has already decided to sleep with you, she already finds your looks acceptable. And that's enough. Women are not looking to maximize a guy's looks. They just need him to clear a basic bar. Looks is more like a pass/fail test. Girls are not saying to themselves: "Well, his looks were good enough for me to sleep with him, but not good enough to make him my boyfriend."

He definitely has some genius to him. But genius can be a narrow thing. Appreciate the good parts and leave the bad.

Conscious suffering. Unconscious suffering will make you jaded and wounded.

@Danioover9000 You should stop and examine your bias regarding Lex. What you're doing is not right.

Why hasn't my work been approved? His politics is trashy. It's hard to find people with sophisticated politics. You guys sorta take my advanced politics for granted.

All the work we do here. Upper Spiral stages.

Dude, getting likes from some desperate guys and a date means nothing to a girl. Yes, if a girl goes to a bar she can get some random guy to fuck her. And? So what? This has nothing to do with a girl's real needs. IF YOU WERE A GIRL, YOU WOULD HAVE VERY DIFFERENT NEEDS. You can't turn into a girl and also keep all the needs of a guy. This is fantasy. This is not how being a woman works. Everything would change for you. You need to realize that you've fallen for a fantasy. This is the solution here. It's like me saying, I wish I was a bird so I could fly. But being a bird sucks. You would lose all the good parts of being human. You would be miserable and starving out in cold and then a cat would eat you.

Why should that matter? He presented a sophisticated model. If it is true then it is a valuable contribution. If I wasn't as conscious as I am, I would find his model quite impressive. He did about as good as you can do with logic.

His model is pretty good. He's a lot smarter than most scientists. But no model is anything close to God-Realization. It is amusing that "the world's smartest man" is a Trump supporter.

@Yali A cool, developed guy with a great sense of humor, who makes her feel strong emotions, who has a cool lifestyle, and has his life put together. Has a good career, is comfortable financially, is passionate about life, is very experienced, confident, and comfortable with himself. Who is emotionally stable and treats a girl well. That is the perfect boyfriend.

Options with douche bags and scrubs, yes. Lots of those. Quality men are scarce.

Sounds to me like you're not offering enough value. Like you're not a high value guy. The girl is not that impressed by you and feels she has more value than you. It sounds like you're fairly physical attractive, but then once the girl sleeps with you she sobers up and realizes that this guy isn't offering me very much. The other possibility is that you're physically attractive but you don't have much charm, humor, or charisma. You're not stimulating her emotionally enough to fall in love with you. This basically means your game is weak. To really hook a girl you gotta sweep her off her feet by making her feel strong emotions and a deep rapport with you. Of course online dating is not gonna be as great as approaching. I've basically never had a girl end a relationship with me. Because she knows she found a rare gem. So the ultimate solution is to make yourself into a rare gem.

Basically just leading and feeling entitled to her body. Treat her like she is your property. But this also means taking care of her.

@ValiantSalvatore Sounds like you need to be more patient and do multiple dates with her. It is unlikely she will let you back to her place like that. Unless she really likes you and is desperate. If you want to do same-night lays you gotta develop a better logistical plan, with something to offer the girl. Otherwise you're just throwing dice and hoping for snake eyes. You need to design the situation so that she doesn't feel like a slut for coming home with you. Having a cool place with some activities is quite important for consistent results. Proximity of your place is also important. She's not likely to drive to another city to sleep with you. But also, there's nothing wrong with doing multiple dates. The truth is that most quality girls will not sleep with you on the first date. So don't be too desperate for it.

I would say they are as rotten as the average person. But then money, power, sex, and fame corrupt them even further. I have experienced a small bit of fame. It's extremely toxic and corrupting. This is the exception. And this tends to be older celebrities who have matured after a rather degenerate past. Look at Russell Brand. He used to be heroin addict, now he has found God. Or look at Mike Tyson. No, your view is badly skewed. First off all, most girls are not cute. Cute is rare. Cute is top 20% at least. Girls have it easier to get laid, but that doesn't mean they find good guys who don't just use them and move on. You are biased because all you can think of is getting laid, but if you were a girl getting laid would not mean much to you, your need would be to find a stable guy who sticks around and doesn't just pump and dumb you, or makes you his side bitch. Even as a hot girl many guys would just pump and dumb you. Most women struggle to find quality guys. And as a girl, you would too. Even if you were hot. I promise you. You would get lots of sex but you would not be fulfilled and you certainly wouldn't be loved. And then all your beauty would fade and you would hate yourself. You have a cartoon idea of what it's like to a woman. You couldn't even walk down a street at night without worrying about being raped. You are envying a cartoon fantasy. Like, why wasn't I born Batman?

Indeed this is possible. Thanks for sharing your story and good job on breaking free. It's important to balance out psychedelics with doing normal development work.

What would really break his mind is to realize that ALL distinctions are imaginary. Albert Einstein is imaginary. All of history only exists in your mind and nowhere else. Albert Einstein had no idea how deep this goes.

Celebrity is very corrupting. Celebrities aren't known for doing a lot of development work.

So few people are celebrities. And many of these celebrities are miserable people. I don't think most hot girls work very hard.

The more active ones.

I only do them when they are warranted. You don't need a worksheet here, you need to start your happiness journal.

Not gonna happen. At most Trump has 35% support. He already lost all the moderate voters. The real risk is if Trump goes to prison then DeSantis will almost certainly win the GOP nomination. And then he has a good chance at beating Biden. We want Trump to run. He is the weakest GOP candidate. If Trump is running againat Biden from prison this is our ideal situation.

"The world's smartest man". Lol. He's not even awake.