Leo Gura

Why is future development bleak??? That's the issue right there. If you believe the future is bleak, you've screwed yourself into a corner.

Yes, definitely. The art of being a great teacher is being able to meet the student where he's at. I find that many of the most spiritually advanced sages are NOT able to do this. Because they cannot identify with what it's like to be stuck in low-consciousness, because they are like virtuosos. Or they have been enlightened so long they forget what it's like to be "normal". Which is why most average people cannot get any practical value out of sages. Their advice just goes in one ear and out the others. The sage appears untouchable. The sage appears to be an idealistic dreamer who's out of touch with "reality". A lot of my advice is frankly dumbed-down so that people find it relatable. If I just flat out stated things as they appear to me in my mind, most people would be like, "WTF are you smoking?" And this problem only gets worse as one develops. It doesn't get easier because the gap between you and your average student grows wider every year.

I've addressed this question in various videos: 1) http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-secret-curse-of-being-human 2) http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-happiness-spectrum And all the meditation/enlightenment-related videos are pointing the way to satisfaction with life.

Some good suggestions above. I would suggest that as a baseline, you sit down and ask yourself, "Are those statements actually TRUE?" Is it literally true that you are not good enough? Is it literally true that you can't do anything right? How can you be sure? What do those beliefs even mean in practice? What is reality and what is mental abstraction? What you'll discover if you just sit down and rationally examine those beliefs, is that they are gross over-generalizations and technically false. The reality is much less grandiose: there are some aspects of your life that you want to improve and have struggled with up to this point. Notice how much better and more realistic that sounds. That won't be enough to completely unwire your beliefs, because clearly your mind has supplied you with lots of evidence to back up them up. But at the very least you've stopped letting your mind get away with ridiculously sweeping statements unchallenged.

I didn't add 48 Laws Of Power to my book list for a good reason. It's NOT an emotionally mature attitude towards life, disregarding the power of higher consciousness values. Robert Greene is a good writer and thinker, but I wouldn't use that book as a manual for self-actualization. If anything, we have an over-abundance of that type of thinking in modern stage Orange Western society. Seek a higher standard.

He's a legit yogi. Great sense of humor.

It takes discipline to rewire your motivation from negative to positive. Society has rotted our brains and made us into lazy twats by default. When life is so easy, every bit of self-discipline becomes intolerable.

How can anyone decide for you what's right for you? The optimum strategy depends on what your heart calls you to do in this life.

Hawaii's a pretty expensive place to do it. You could make your dollar go much further somewhere less touristy.

@Enizeo I recommend you make your own decision based on your own intimate knowledge of your self, your abilities, and your maturity level. This is not a decision you can outsource to any guru or teacher or coach. You're gonna have to suffer through the agony of the decision-making process. Let's hope you are a wise general, wise beyond your years

Because they are too ignorant to foresee that their existing strategies for happiness will not work. Everything anyone ever does is motivated by the seeking of happiness. Think about it. Hitler started WWII to increase happiness. The only problem is, some strategies for happiness do not work as well as we originally think. In fact, ALL strategies for happiness outside of BEING will never work. There really is only one path to happiness. The problem is, it's too counter-intuitive and unorthodox for people to swallow. So their choices of path ultimately are limited to the lesser of the paths of suffering. And thus we see why so few people are truly happy.

@ZenDog At your age, I think it's a great move. If you really took 1 year off in solitude to focus on discovering yourself, that would save you years of misery and hundreds of thousands of dollars in losses over your lifetime. It would be a very wise strategic decision. The difficulty for you would be to actually carry it out and not piss that year away on distractions. Can you actually pull off such wisdom? That is the key question. 99% of people cannot.

You are! You are simultaneously everything phenomenal and not it either. You are self-aware! Awareness is aware of itself and also of the body and of the mind. The problem is that you're mis-identified with the mind, which occurs as a temporary flux within awareness. When the mind is gone, what then? You need to draw a sharp distinction between awareness and thoughts/mind. Right now you think you're the mind, but in fact the mind is only a tiny part of the larger you. The larger you is empty awareness that transcends even existence and non-existence. It's such an odd fact that it's impossible for the mind to grasp it. Because the mind cannot truly grasp facts, it only grasps images of facts. What needs to happen here is for you to let go of all the images, so that the facts can dawn on you. This is a totally foreign thing for you. You've never had a direct experience of the facts in your entire life yet. If and when you do, it will be like waking up from a dream. So be careful about trying to judge or analyze the outcome of Truth from inside the dream state.

You can make it work either way. The problem is that the ego doesn't want to make it work either way. The road to full enlightenment is not gonna be easy no matter how you slice and dice it. I personally think living in the woods for a few years is a great idea, especially if you have few obligations and are able. But that's just me. Living your whole life in the woods is not necessary. It's only helpful for a short while to unaddict yourself from society and to get the focus to have those first few critical enlightenment experiences.

You haven't seen true passion until you've seen a full enlightened person in action. Your particular passions may of course change as the ego mind crumbles. But fear not, new deeper passions will take their place. It's like you're upgrading to a Mercedes from an old Ford Pinto and worrying about whether you'll still have your favorite cup holder. The Mercedes has 10 cup holders!

@Samuel That is a great question. Very difficult for the ego to navigate it. It's the ultimate ego defense mechanism. A major part of the enlightenment journey is resolving this for yourself. You haven't truly grasped what enlightenment is about until you see the relative unimportance of all those lower-hierarchy pursuits. It's a real challenge. And it's the #1 reason almost nobody is enlightened. It might take you years of "burning through karma" before those lower egoic needs lose their grip for you.

Would you ask that of your child before deciding to send him to elementary school? Maybe he's just not capable of mastering arithmetic? Maybe we shouldn't get his hopes up?

@Socrates Hahaha I like the contrast of that to this depiction of stage Orange mentality

The key is not desire for money. The key is passion for the work. Money follows passion. You've got it backwards. The fact that you don't want material things is super-powerful. Now go use your passion to do non-material things and stop wasting your time in a dead-end material job. You're actually way ahead of the curve if you just make this one adjustment.

I got fired from my first job within 8 hours. Turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to me. But it sure felt miserable those first few weeks after the firing, before I found a much better job. Use the misery as fuel for doing even better in your career.

How cushy!

Hobbies serve an important function of their own. They don't necessarily all need to be turned into careers. Often turning a simple hobby into a career will destroy your love for it. Because sometimes you just want to engage in an activity casually. For example, if you enjoy fishing, it doesn't necessarily mean you should become a professional fisherman. Selecting a career is a lot more involved than simply converting a hobby. Although you could draw inspiration from your hobbies, and some people really do need to take their hobby and "go pro" with it. To sort all this out, it really helps to understand yourself on a much deeper level. Which is what the life purpose course help you do. Then it becomes very clear which direction to go and which hobbies should be kept recreational vs made professional.

You're not gonna be able to sustain more than 40 hours per week for long. Programmers burn out and destroy their health all the time. You should research why we have a 40 hour work-week. Where did it come from historically? Do you know that Henry Ford and other industrialists of the early 20th century actually commissioned studies to find out the optimal amount of the time their factory workers should be working to produce the highest output and thus earn them the most money? And you know what number they came back with? 40

If you can't find at least one thing in life to be really passionate about, something's deeply wrong. You should be asking, "How can I par down 100 different passions to just 1, when everything in life is so exciting and awesome? How can anyone only have one life purpose?!!!!"

Both. I find myself needing more and more solitude. It's fine if you have a good reason for it. It's a problem if you're using it as an excuse to run away from judgments you make and the like. If people annoy or emotionally upset you, that's grist for the self-actualization mill. But I find myself spending lots of time in solitude simply because I need time to contemplate and meditate and I get little value out of regular social interactions. This is fine. You should have no problem spending 100s of hours in solitude. If anything, people are under-doing solitude rather than overdoing it. Just make sure you're not using that solitude time to steep in your own egoic malaise, but actually doing inner work. If you're on a path to become just another depressive loner, you're doing it wrong. That's not what enlightenment work is about at all. Being a hermit is a great thing when done for the right reasons. It's a terrible thing when done for egoic reasons or shadow reasons.