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@tsuki This was said in the very narrow context of this thread. If you are working on enlightenment then you must focus your inquiry on the present moment, not abstract philosophy. Enlightenment is not-knowing.

@Guided Good work, but don't be drinking when doing pickup. Do it sober. I did over 3000 approaches and never bought 1 alcoholic drink in my entire life. Try to stay away from canned openers. Just push yourself to approach and improvise gibber-jabber. Try to plow through and maintain the girl's attention for as long as possible. Do not eject. You keep talking to her until she tells you to fuck off or leaves. Plowing is key. That will build your conversation skills. You will suck a first, but you will also quickly improve if you make the commit to never eject from a set. Try to open to some sets and make them last for 30-60 minutes. Don't make your conversations logical. They can literally be any random useless nonsensical stuff, like how much you hate Trump or how much you love pizza. Talk, talk, talk your mouth off. Allow yourself to let loose and be emotional and opinionated. You can also make up fantastical shit like: "I'm going to buy everyone in this bar a kangaroo. Help me pick out a name for my kangaroo." Here's the key to night-game conversation: The words coming out of your mouth do not have to make any sense.

@Karla Great journal. Keep going!

@Matt23 You would enjoy the Big Island of Hawaii, where there is a meditation retreat center every few miles and hippies living happily with their chickens and goats in the rain forest. Land on the Big Island can be surprisingly affordable. But construction costs and food costs, not so much.

@joeyi99 What is a woman's value in a man's eyes? Think of a list of what makes a woman high value to a man. What makes a woman a prize? Now step in the woman's shoes. What is a man's value to her? Make a list. Why would a woman need a man in here life at all? What makes a man a prize? Hint: these are NOT symmetrical! You must stop thinking about this using your dick. A beautiful face/body is not why a woman is looking for a man. Nor does she need a man with a long dick. She has much more important needs he must meet. Contemplate this from the woman's POV until you understand what needs a woman has. Then you will understand what value means here. A woman's value is much more physical. A man's value is much more social. A man who is weak, lazy, socially out of touch, and incapable of leading other men is the equivalent of an ugly woman. What makes a man ugly is NOT his physical appreance but his meek attitude. Which is exactly why incels can't get laid. It's not their looks, it's their ugly attitudes. You need to develop the attitude of a winner or a boss or a warrior. What do all girls fantasize about? A knight in shining armor who will sweep her off her feet and show her a whole new world. Looks are not what make a warrior.

@PetarKa You're making two big mistakes: 1) You are unwittingly assuming the validity of your skeptical stance, which itself is unknown. But you are taking it as known. You are also not questioning the validity of your thoughts and emotional reactions. So what even if skepticism is true and reality is not real? Why would that be bad or a problem? Since problems and value-judgments would also ve unreal? Why are you taking your emotions seriously? Doubt your emotions more! 2) Solipsism is incorrect. Nonduality is like solipsism but also very different in important ways. It's not that other people are your subjective experience, it's that you are an illusion and therefore there is no such thing as subjective experience at all, there is only God or Being. Interaction with others continues as it always has because you are all people. What a person is simply gets recontextualized. A person is a hallucination in the mind of God, just like your person is. Fundamentally your problem here is that your skepticism is not thorough enough. Ego has turned skepticism into a conceptual ideology, which is the opposite of enlightenment. The ego is not seriously undermining itself here. Your entire inquiry is coming from ego and assuming ego! You'd be closer to Truth if you just dropped all ideas and sat there looking at your hand, not knowing anything. Your inquiry is not properly grounded, it is too abstract and conceptual. Stop knowing things! Ground yourself in the actuality of the present moment. See my video: What Is Actuality? What you can do is meditate or do Kriya yoga. Shut that mind off. It is only digging itself deeper.

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@Psychonaut You are being a pussy and you are full of shit. Go approach those girls! They're not gonna do the work for you, and approaching is always uncomfortable. The women in clubs are ordinary women. They aren't trash. That's your own mind making up bullshit excuses for why not to approach. Be very mindful of your self-talk in a club. Do NOT trust it! All of that is pure fear-based excuses. You will be amazed at the types of sweet and cool girls you'll meet in clubs. Clubs are not for whores or drunks. Ordinary girls go there. Girls are social creatures so they just get dragged along by their friends. If you approach enough girls you will be some great ones in bars and clubs. Girls in bars and clubs are not necessarily regulars. They might be there once a year for a birthday party or bachelorette party or for a work event. Before holding all these prejudices, go approach 1000 girls in clubs with an open mind. Then approach another 1000 girls in bars. Then approach another 200 girls at the mall. Then compare where the best girls come from based on your direct experience. P.S. If you go to clubs to enjoy dancing, what do you think the girls are doing? They enjoy dancing more than you! And yet you judge them for it. According to your twisted logic when you go to a club to enjoy dancing, you are not trash, you are better than everyone, but the girl is a trashy whore. If you're looking for a dog, go to the pet store. Frankly, with your rotten attitude you don't even deserve a trashy girl. Stop acting like you're too cool for school.

@Liger How can you control her when you are not even in control of yourself? Pay very close attention to just what control is and how little of it you have. This doesn't just apply to people but all of life. This question of control is a very deep existential one. Notice how the ego keeps trying to control life but keeps failing and getting upset at itself for not having the control it wants. What is in control of you? Are you in control of yourself? Then why do you keep failing to control yourself? What is control? Why do you want control? Patiently contemplate all that.

@TheAvatarState This is well-documented by researchers. Ravers don't last. They crash and burn and turn to other drugs. Most raves don't even have real pure MDMA but other substitutes. And most ravers don't even know the difference.

@Enlightenment MDMA permamently rewires parts of the brain after 10-20 trips, creating a permanent life-long tolerance. Which is why I do not talk about MDMA as a tool for consciousness work. It is not a true psychedelic, it is in a class of its own. Stick to LSD, mushrooms, and 5-MeO-DMT. 5-MeO-DMT is the closest psychedelic to enlightenment. Nothing comes as close.

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And thereby his work is deceptive. He doesn't use the word God outwardly because he has a tight-lipped and sober style. He's fully of aware of God though. He just withholds that from you.

I've attracted girls (8s, 9s, and even 10s) who were way more physically attractive than me. Because girls aren't primarily attracted by a guy's looks, but by his persona, charm, charisma, confidence, wit, leadership qualities, intellect, social status, and strength. If you go out a lot and approach a lot you will attract 8s and 9s fairly regularly. Which is not to say you'll be able to close all of them, because closing requires having perfect logistics, which usually isn't possible. So you will lose a lot of 8s and 9s, but at least you'll get the validation of having attracted them. You will be able to tell, for example, that if the logistics had been good, she would have eagerly slept with you. And from that point, it's only a matter of time until the logistics line up and you'll sleep with your first 8 or 9. 10s are just so rare it's not even worth thinking about. All that's required is that you go out a lot, approach a lot, and have good game. If you can set up good logistics (by living very close to bars/clubs) that will up your chances of pulling girls by a factor of 2x-10x. Logistics are super important if you want to get laid a lot. Basically any girl that's an 8 or above is a model-quality girl, as she can make easy money off her looks, and often does or did so in the past. She can be a model, actress, stripper, pornstar, webcam girl, go-go dancer, hostess, etc. But don't forget, a lot of these girls can be annoying to deal with as they tend to spoiled rotten by men. These girls know how to use their looks to manipulate men. They know they are hot and they know the value of that in our society. Handling girls like that requires a serious boss/pimp attitude. A weak man cannot handle a girl like that. The rule of thumb is, whatever quality of girl you feel you deserve and can boss around, is the quality of girl you will get. Anything above that you will not be able to handle because your confidence is too low. Hot girls have high confidence. As a guy, in order to attract a girl your confidence and value must be higher than hers. If you want to date models, you need to develop balls of steel and a delusional, borderline narcissistic degree of self-confidence and self-love. You need to be unfazed and just have an I-don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Or become famous. Famous guys get hot girls easily.

Because reality is a giant mind. There is no possibility of stuff unless it is occurring inside a mind. Here's the kicker: there actually is no difference between sentience/non-sentience, nonphysical/physical, conscious/unconscious, mental/non-mental. All of those are relative distinctions which collapse into one nameless unity. This unity is what is. It is pure Absolute Truth. Which is not different from something and nothing. Reality is just one giant fat zero. Like it never even happened. Because there is no one to tell the difference between happening and non-happening. Another way to phrase it is... it seems to you that reality happened because you think it did.

@martins name I do it call it those things, but that still does not communicate the significance of there being a God!

Calling it presence is extremely deceptive though. Everyone thinks they have presence so they don't think they're missing anything. Whereas with God, it's clear to most people that they are missing an experience of God. Take someone like Sam Harris. He has meditated for years, he even has some degree of awakening to no-self, and he would readily agree with you about presence, but he is not conscious of what God is. Presence or awareness are way too neutral of terms. These terms actually make many Buddhists believe there is no God.

There will be blood. There will be tears. There will be suffering. That's how growing is done.

@Garuda You're still not getting it. Enlightenment is not emotional mastery nor development. You can be genuinely enlightened and a racist or sexist, for example. The answer is to tread carefully and not build cult-like organizational structures and to stress an integral, dogma-free approach. The answer is also to not get ahead of your skiis, to maintain high personal integrity and to not lust after power, sex, money, fame, or success. The answer is to do shadow work even after awakening and to be sensitive to the collateral damage you cause. And to not go on a crusade.

@Miavono Nonduality contains duality within it. Just look at the yin-yang image. It's both nondual and dual at the same times because it depends on how you want to look at it. Free will vs not-free-will is a duality which collapses when you're in nondual consciousness. Yes, you can tap into the infinite creativity of God, since you are him. But that does not necessary mean you can create mountains out of thin air.

@Cocolove Yup, that can work. I had my first mystical experience doing just that: Vipassana followed by self-inquiry. I find self-inquiry not to be effective unless one's mind is already in the zone and highly mindful. So, for example, I find it bad practice to being a meditation retreat with self-inquiry because the mind is not focused enough yet to have any breakthrough. So my retreats begin with lots of Vipassana. The self-inquiry is best saved towards the end. Vipassana is sorta like sharping the knife and self-inquiry is more like using it to slit the throat. Without Vipassana you've got a butter knife.

But the crossfire might kill ya' Two devils do not make an angel.

A "relationship" in high school is a rather fickle notion. More like a 2-week affair. Obviously you're not gonna be doing one-night stands or same night lays in high school. You gotta build up to it through friendship in a way that you wouldn't need to do if you're hunting for girls at a bar or club. I don't see why you'd even want that in high school. Just get yourself a girlfriend. You don't need to sleep around with your entire class. If you're gonna be having sex with a girl in high school your intent should be to be in a relationship with her. Why you making it such a big chore? Relationships are fun. A relationship (in high school) is not marriage. It's a flimsy thing.

@Matt23 Such a thing should not be attempted unless you have significant spiritual experience. So if you're really serious about it, start by building your spiritual experience.

Entire books could be written on that one question.