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I am suggesting dating is a survival game and honesty was never its goal. I like being honest about what dating is. So as not to fool ourselves with stories about it. None of this means you can't have a decent relationship. Just understand that both sides are playing games. And that's okay. Life is an interplay and life is sneaky.

Man, I don't know all the details. That's the one I got.

Pickup works of course, but: A) I don't really enjoy clubs and bars. I did that earlier in my life because it forced me to grow. I would rather be meditating. Chasing girls is not so appealing to me since my time is valuable. I am not a social person by temperment. I can be happy living in a cave. And one day I may just completely leave society behind and you may never hear from me again. Cause ya'll are fucking nuts B) Covid killed pickup

It's not assumed, it's a given. If you and I weren't one, we could not communicate. Your very communication with me disproves your point. You simply aren't contemplating how reality works. You're just spitting ideas out.

@Preety_India Read the book: Thick Face, Black Heart. That's what you're missing. You need to learn to be more ruthless. Which of course you will refuse to do cause you are stuck in the care-bear paradigm.

@ertopolice Depth can come later, after the attraction is solidified. There is an order of operations to dating. Don't go too deep too fast. But eventually you can go deep. You have to calibrate. I love going deep, but only at the right time.

It depends a lot on the level of development of the people you commune with. If they are low in development, stage Red or Orange, they will preceive nice as too weak to survive. Nice gets appreciated and valued at stage Green and above. For example, if you try to be nice in prison, it will backfire.

YES! Very good. Now that's some progress. You are an enneagram type 2. Classic girly problem. You sacrifice yourself too much for others to the point of not taking care of your needs enough. You need more self-care and self-love. Be more selfish.

@DianaFr Of course you can't just keep pushing like a dumb mule. You gotta be very clever and intelligent about it. You gotta be like a fox. Notice that all of reality runs on cleverness. Brute force approaches are not smart enough to solve the deep problems. The problem you're facing is a lack of requisite variety (a cybernetics term). See my blog post video on Requisite Variety. It will explain everything.

Good work! You're right on track. Keep going.

A hell of a question.

Nope, that's not how it works. Stop spectulating and try it.

Begging for food is a full-time job. Might as well just grow your own food at that point.

If everyone had their own, what would connect them all?

Be honest, what is it you find attractive about narcissists?

@Gesundheit Easy... There's no need to attack him. What I did was bold and I knew it would be somewhat controversial. Some people will not like it.

@Skin-encapsulatedego Around girls be like a child -- grasshopper -- and you will do well

You realize that what I posted is actually conscious and honest? I posted my dating intentions honestly without any games. Any other alternative will be more dishonest and manipulative. The problem is that people are so used to playing games with dating that when someone does it directly and honestly they are shocked. Usually all dating is done in secret so that none of your people know your true intentions. This is safe for the ego and lets you get away with a lot more manipulation. With dating and sexuality in particular, people are often outraged and shocked when the mechanics of the game are laid bare before their eyes. As if the mechanics were not present before looking. Hiding your intentions does not make your dating any more conscious or honest. And really, dating is never a function of honesty. It is dishonest to suggest that dating is honest. That is not its function. It's an illusion and a game that both sides are playing while trying to pretend like that isn't so. You can cry about how unfair it all is, but the reality is, when you acquire your dates -- however you acquire them, online or offline -- you are still playing this game. If I truly wanted to be dishonest and manipulative, I could easily have done that a long time ago and gotten laid a 100x over. My position can basically get me unlimited sex for a lifetime. I could push that button any time. And I basically never do because I have some integrity. But that doesn't mean I'm disinterested in finding a romantic partner. I am. That's honest. And that's okay. You can judge it of course. But if you really care about honesty so much, I invite you to contemplate the double-standard of how you acquire your dates. You may find that your method is less honest than mine. Consider all the social circle games you play.

Dude, when you date, you don't get all philosophical about it. You keep things fun and easy. Don't start whipping out actualized.org lectures on your date. You relate on a much shallower level. On your profile you could mention that you're into spirituality and meditation. That should pique some girls' interests. The smart girls. Girls love spirituality stuff. It's like chick-crack. If I'm socializing with a girl, I act like a total goofball. It's not serious. Stop saying anything logical. This is the #1 rule of game. No logic.

There's only one problem in your master plan: online forums don't make any money.

If I owned an online dating app, I would invent covid in a lab and become a billionaire. Online dating sites must be running hog wild right now.

Your logic is backwards. The risks of mutation are higher when we don't get vaccinated. Letting a virus just run loose through the population will result in more mutations and even more dangerous strains.

Consider the possibility that they WERE superior, which is why they felt superior. Gold!

Unfortunately that won't happen without serious vaccinations. And many people have been brainwashed not to take them. So we're sorta fucked.

@Preety_India I think your issue would be solved if you simply screened harder. If what you want is a honest guy, screen him for it early on. Honesty is a character trait. Some people have it, some don't. Train yourself to be a good judge of character.