Leo Gura

We can keep the thread open. If anyone wants to voice their criticisms or whatever, have at it.

So, after considering the situation, I've decided to retract my dating post because I see people getting resentful and this undermines the focus of my teachings, which is more important to me than dating. People will try to use this to demonize my teachings in the future, which I don't want to have to deal with as I get enough of that already. For those who supported me, thanks and I appreciate your support. But I have to learn to be more careful with image issues and political correctness going forward because the pressures will become great to demonize my teachings as Actualized.org grows in size and naturally develops more enemies who will misconstrue everything I say in order to invalidate the work. This is something I have to think about more seriously going forward because really these teachings should be as little about me as possible. Ideally I want to take my personal self out of the teachings. Sorry, my mistake. Party's over folks. In the future I will be making further changes to my style and manner of delivery in order to make the teachings more selfless and tactful. The days where Actualized.org could be the wild west are coming to an end. As the size grows, image issues become more serious and important. This seems to be the nature of politics and public relations that I don't have much experience with. I am still learning to navigate these waters because my natural style is blunt and politically incorrect. I notice that I have to be much more careful and responsible as more people watch my content in ways that were not normal for me in the early days. I am looking forward to cleaning up my presentation so that it is more selfless and then you don't have worry so much about your friends saying that you are following a cult leader. Although of course that will be said no matter what due to the nature of the material we study. I apologize for not being more forward-thinking about these issues. One of the things I also plan to do in the future is clean up my language and stop dropping f-bombs. I've been thinking of doing that for some time now, and this situation will hasten that. I have been seeing for a while now that these changes will be necessary for what Actualized.org is to become in the future. My style needs to mature to reflect the gravity of the work. I will also hold myself to a higher standard as a role-model, because even though I don't particularly want to be one, people will treat me like one regardless and it is my responsibility to take that one as part of delivering these teachings. It just comes with the job.

I got plenty of money before your Patreon. But thank you.

It depends on the type of people yoi commune with and their level of development. Corporate folk are not very developed. You're bascially dealing with cavemen there Of course you can self-actualize and learn a lot, but at some point you will probably outgrow that job and want to find something more refined. It's okay, you don't have to solve everything at once. Babysteps.

Well, in that case you're in luck! I got a homeless guy who was molested as a child by his uncle for you to marry. He is fragile and lonely so don't reject him

If you want some dissociation take some ketamine and compare to DMT.

It's not pointless, but yeah...

Hehe... well, yes. We did tell you reality was Nothing Sounds like a bit of the ol Dark Night of the Soul. Look, take it easy. Deconstructing reality is the most challenging work in the universe. Sometimes you gotta take a short break and just enjoy life. Then get back to deconstructing. If you want. Don't do this work if you don't love it at some level. Why you doing all this? Cause some bald guy told you you should?

@neutralempty No idea what you are saying.

I have no idea since I'm no corporate climbing woman. Certainly there will be challenges there. You are dealing with stage Orange men who will be very masculine in their attitude and probably will not take you seriously unless you kick some ass and grab some balls. You should seek out a woman in corporate for better advice.

@Etherial Cat I'd like to see you reshuffle your neocortex to be attracted to a gorilla. Why do you hate gorillas? Don't gorillas deserve love? Maybe it disturbs the gorilla that you reject its black hairy flesh. Your racism makes lonely gorilla cry. See the games you play?

Let's say she was just being nice, then she rejected me for my looks, which is even worse. But in that specific case, she literally looked at me, took my necklace in her hand, and said, "Ewww... I don't like this. Go away." And I've had girls not return my texts even after we slept together. Fucking cold.

Lol Welcome to reality. You know, it's not like us men sat down and decided one day: we will be attracted to X but not Y. Attraction is not a choice. Contemplate this: why aren't you attracted to a gorilla? When you get to the bottom of that one, you may understand why not everyone is attracted to you. No one likes being rejected for any aspect of themselves, flesh or otherwise. Rejection always hurts. And women reject men all the time over the most superficial things. I've had women reject me because of the necklace I wore. I've had women punch me in the mouth and I couldn't hit her back. That's life. You suck it up. I have literally been rejected 1000s of times. Some nights I'd go home and cry. It's good for the ego. Makes you stronger. Teaches you not to care what people think.

I am suggesting dating is a survival game and honesty was never its goal. I like being honest about what dating is. So as not to fool ourselves with stories about it. None of this means you can't have a decent relationship. Just understand that both sides are playing games. And that's okay. Life is an interplay and life is sneaky.

Man, I don't know all the details. That's the one I got.

Pickup works of course, but: A) I don't really enjoy clubs and bars. I did that earlier in my life because it forced me to grow. I would rather be meditating. Chasing girls is not so appealing to me since my time is valuable. I am not a social person by temperment. I can be happy living in a cave. And one day I may just completely leave society behind and you may never hear from me again. Cause ya'll are fucking nuts B) Covid killed pickup

It's not assumed, it's a given. If you and I weren't one, we could not communicate. Your very communication with me disproves your point. You simply aren't contemplating how reality works. You're just spitting ideas out.

@Preety_India Read the book: Thick Face, Black Heart. That's what you're missing. You need to learn to be more ruthless. Which of course you will refuse to do cause you are stuck in the care-bear paradigm.

@ertopolice Depth can come later, after the attraction is solidified. There is an order of operations to dating. Don't go too deep too fast. But eventually you can go deep. You have to calibrate. I love going deep, but only at the right time.

It depends a lot on the level of development of the people you commune with. If they are low in development, stage Red or Orange, they will preceive nice as too weak to survive. Nice gets appreciated and valued at stage Green and above. For example, if you try to be nice in prison, it will backfire.

YES! Very good. Now that's some progress. You are an enneagram type 2. Classic girly problem. You sacrifice yourself too much for others to the point of not taking care of your needs enough. You need more self-care and self-love. Be more selfish.

@DianaFr Of course you can't just keep pushing like a dumb mule. You gotta be very clever and intelligent about it. You gotta be like a fox. Notice that all of reality runs on cleverness. Brute force approaches are not smart enough to solve the deep problems. The problem you're facing is a lack of requisite variety (a cybernetics term). See my blog post video on Requisite Variety. It will explain everything.

Good work! You're right on track. Keep going.

A hell of a question.

Nope, that's not how it works. Stop spectulating and try it.