Leo Gura

Of course you can and should still do that. Containment is offered by being a strong man. And nothing I say is anti- healthy relationships. One leads into the other. Once she falls in love with you, THEN you can offer her all the perks of a highly conscious and empathetic man. But not before. Be like chocolate candy: hard exterior, a soft interior. She gets to taste the soft interior if she's willing to open her legs for you. In the end, this is what she really wants as well, so it will be a win-win. But just don't go discussing this strategy with her because she will never explicitly agree to it for game reasons. It must be implicit. Which is why you should not seek dating advice from women.

In a conservative state they would probably just arrest all the homeless and put them in a for-profit prison. Although there are tons of homeless in Austin. You don't see Joe Rogan talking about that.

Lol. What are you smoking? Women worry all the time about the guy leaving her for a hotter, younger girl. As a man you gotta suck ass for a woman to leave you once she's in love with you. It's effortless to keep women. It's much harder to keep men. A woman's reproductive value is dropping every year. A man's value increases every year if he's doing personal development work. In this respect, relationships are much either for men than women. The hardest part for the man is the attraction phase -- which is why men focus on it almost exclusively. Indeed

I would attribute the CA homelessness problem more toward CA's crazy real estate prices, which are due to CA's popularity as a highly successful and desirable state to live in. The rent in CA is like 3x that of Nevada, for example. It's not even affordable for me to buy a house there, and I'm rich. To live well in CA you gotta be more than a millionaire. Ask yourself this, if CA is such a shitty place, why do so many people move there and want to live there? Despite the recent CA exodus, people have been flocking to CA for the last 50 years because it was such a great and progressive place to live. The progressiveness of CA is part of its appeal. Who the fuck wants to live in Alabama? Texas is an appealing state because it's way more affordable than CA. But Texas culture is ignorant and backward in many ways. Having lived for a long time in both places, CA culture is way better. Texas feels like a redneck backwater compared to CA. Once I went to a grocery store in Forth Worth and asked them where the capers were. The cashier had no clue what capers were. So she called up her manage to help. The manager had no idea what capers were either. I looked at them like they were Neanderthals and left shaking my head in disbelief. And it won't take long before Texas real estate prices also skyrocket.

Yes, because these biases are baked into the male and female survival agenda. To a man, the attraction is most relevant. To a woman, the relationship is more relevant. And each side will stress what is most relevant to them out of their selfish needs while discounting the importance of the other. Self-bias 101.

And what is it you realized exactly? There is much to realize, you know?

If you witnessed a rape in real life I guess it could. Depends on how your mind interprets it and how horrific it is, and how graphic it is.

We are all deeply self-biased, men and women. But we must play games and deny it otherwise we appear too selfish and dishonest to ourselves, which undermines survival. The function of survival is to be selfish while denying that you are doing so, portraying yourself as an innocent angel. Notice how you do this all the time throughout your life, not just about sex. Governments and corporations behave this way too.

Women not only don't care what men want, they get offended and call men gross and shallow and sexist for wanting it. So please spare us. Imagine if men on this forum started a thread about the ideal pair of tits they want and how women should be more understanding and accommodating on this matter. It would be called outrageous and sexist. Even though there is no fundamental difference between wanting a big pair of tits vs wanting a man who offers you "feminine containment". Women routinely misrepresent what they are attracted to in men. This confuses many men. Hence I say some of the things I say to men, to clear up that confusion in their minds. The situation is asymmetrical because men do not misrepresemt what they are truly attracted to in women. It would be like telling everyone how vegan you are, but when you get to the restaurant you always choose the pork ribs rather than the salad. It's important for the chef to know that what you really eat is the ribs vs the salad so he can plan accordingly, regardless of what you tell yourself in your head. Women's attraction is less honest and more convoluted. A man's attraction is more direct and straight forward. So false equivalence indeed!

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Only if the people are unconscious and selfish. Maintaining unity among great diversity requires one to be more God-like (selfless, conscious, loving, intelligent). If you are closed-mined, ignorant, judgment, biased, selfless, and unconscious, then yeah, your mind cannot hold diversity. But you are mistaking your own small-mindedness for a fundamental feature of reality -- which is opposite of the truth since reality is infinitely diverse and ONE. In other words, the more of a devil you are, the more you will believe that diversity and unity are impossible to reconcile.

Great! Nice work.

I'd say that practically-speaking that is not going to happen. Trauma is not just some minor anxiety or mental concern. Trauma is a deep visceral scar in the psyche. To get it your psyche must get scarred somehow, and is not likely to happen from 2nd hand experience. It is not enough to watch a rape in the movies to be scarred.

A person at Stage Blue has not yet developed an internal moral compass, therefore he requires and highly values an external one. This is where God and authority comes in. Which is why most conservatives are very defensive about preserving structures of authority. Since they lack empathy and have no internal compass, they have a legit fear of devolving into animals. Most liberals cannot understand this because they are stage Green which has developed excess empathy and an internal moral compass. For liberals the external moral structures are superfluous and even a hindrance to justice.

These gender wars are like a conversation between a blind man and a deaf woman

Freedom is one thing, responsibility is another. The more freedom you wish you have, the more responsible you must be, otherwise everything turns to shit.

Nice!

You tell me.

I don't like working with people. So no. But those who like it might find it suitable.

You are doing EVERYTHING. You personally designed each hair on your balls. But you are not conscious of it.

Fixed it for ya - - - - - If every woman on the planet decided tomorrow to only have sex with nice guys, every guy in the world would become a nice guy within 1 month and all war would end forever. But alas.... Endless war.

Of course they should. But still they gotta keep their balls about them. It's a tricky balance. Takes lots of trail and error and experience to get it right.

I use colloidal silver sometimes when I'm ill. Not sure how effective it is. Hard to tell. I wouldn't use it often.

This is a more general paradox of non-attachment: those who are most needy get the least, while those who are not-needy get the most. For example, people who need money the most end up having the least of it. Because desperation is not a good place to earn money from. Likewise, neediness for sex or relationship is not a good place to get quality sex or relationships from. In general, when you are in a negotiation the one with the least attachment has the advantage. And sexual relationships are certainly a negotiation. You can be strong and independent but still interested in relationship and communion. It does not have to only be for her body. Pretty much. Females are always attracted to high-value males regardless of culture. You're conflating things. These kind of celebrities actually tend to be very assertive with their agenda. MJ manipulated people into sex way more than any PUA. Because attracting women requires a certain realism and pragmatism. You don't get laid on fairy tales. Women will ruthlessly cull you out. Women are ruthless about this stuff despite their stories and excuses. As a man you gotta we wise to their games otherwise you will end up jerking yourself off to sleep in tears. The collective experience of the entire attraction community. I started out as the biggest nice guy and I went through much pain to learn not to treat women like princesses. A big part of becoming a strong and high-value man is learning how to set your own frames and not letting any girl sway you with her games. Sorry, I don't buy it. You are trying to logic your way about attraction and that is not how attraction actually works. Your logic flies out the window in real-life attraction scenarios. Because otherwise she won't respect the man. For a woman to be attracted to a man she needs to feel that the man is higher value than her. I did not give rigid rules. I gave general principles of attraction from the male POV. This is what men need to understand to properly get laid. If they don't understand these things, they will end up suffering. There are principles to attraction. I didn't invent them. Attraction works how it works. Don't forget, dating and mating is a bit of a bloodsport. It is not all rainbows and butterflies. It is survival first and foremost. There are painful lessons for the ego to learn in this game.

@rnd Okay, don't pay your taxes. Wesley Snipes style