Leo Gura

A lot of examples posted here are not proper Turquoise. Please read the book section on Turquoise carefully before posting your examples. Turquoise is not the same as anyone talking about spirituality or enlightenment.

Don't underestimate how selfish and careless more girls are. She isn't some saint. She's blindly following her own survival agenda. She will not give two fucks about flaking on you. Yeah, well, it goes both ways. Hurt feelings come with the territory of dating. Most girls don't give a fuck if they step all over your survival agenda. My personal rule is that there is no relationship until sex. But you may feel otherwise. I set my rules based on my deep experience of what works and what does not. Of course you can try doing it the other way and get some results, but it's not a good overall dating strategy. Remember, that is HER frame. You can choose to play by her frame or set your own frame. Will setting your own frame lose you some girls? Sure, but it will get you many more others. As a general rule, the guy should be setting the frame, not the girl. At least from the guy's POV that makes the most sense. If you like being a pussy you can buy into her frame. Ahahahahaha! That's none of her business. If she is asking this kind of question you already did something wrong. From the moment she meets you she should realize that you are a high value guy who is highly social and desirable to many girls. She should feel that if she does not snap you up soon you will move on to other girls. She should feel like you could bang a new girl every night if you wanted to. First cum, first served Good! No, she won't get hurt. She will desire you even more because she recognizes how attractive and high-value you are. Attraction is highly counter-intuitive. You think that by being meek and humble and loyal and nice that this will make girls attracted to you, but it's the opposite. With that strategy you will lose many girls and mostly attract the weakest and lowest-value ones. A girl's fantasy is to lock down a player/knight in shining armor who is a pussy magnet. Not some meek nice guy who will beg her for sex like a panhandler begs for nickles. Regardless of whatever bullshit story she tells you, she wants a high-value guy. Period. No amount of talking or excuses will change that. And the #1 clue of a high-value guy is that he can get laid any day he wants to. One of the most attractive things you can do is to show up to a party with a bunch of hot girls at your side, orbiting around you like groupies. This will make you appear WAY more attractive to all the other girls, creating a feeding frenzy for your dick. Deep down she wants to know that you could fuck any girl in the world, but you choose to only fuck her because she is so special to you. That is her ultimate fantasy. If the particular girl you want is insecure, you can dial all this down a bit. But there is no shame at all for her to perceive you as sexually active. As a man, you don't need to hide the fact that you're a bit of a player. Don't explicitly say so. It should just be a vibe you give off. Girls will smell it. Consider Brad Pitt. Every girl knows he can fuck whoever he wants whenever he wants -- and probably does so. And this is why every girl dreams of landing him. If you want the most brutal truth, dating multiple women not only doesn't hurt your chances, it increases it, and the more women you date the higher your chances get. This is so true that it can get easily abused to sociopathic levels. PUAs abuse this principle all the time. I don't recommend you do that. I recommend you find a nice balance that does not crush girls hearts nor inflate your ego. You can be strong and assertive without being a total scumbag.

Oh God, this will be radioactive.

Dude, you gotta stop asking women what they want. What men and women want is not the same thing. The reality is that when you are pursuing women, 95% of them will flake on you and leave you dry. So from the man's POV, rather than putting up with all that bullshit, you pursue multiple women until one of them hooks hard. The general rule is this: don't sit around waiting for women. Do your thing until one of them falls for you and wants to go exclusive. In practice, unless you're doing hardcore weekly pickup, you will rarely be going on actual dates with multiple women. You wish you had that problem. That requires working the clubs harder than a rented mule. The general rule for guys should be this: Until there is sex, there is no exclusivity or loyalty. After sex, we can talk about it. If you make the mistake of being loyal to a women before she even has sex with you, you'll be in for a world of hurt. This is way too needy and attachy on your part. You are WAY too invested. The crucial mistake is thinking of her as your girlfriend before she even slept with you. Don't make that mistake. Don't expect any woman to okay this in some logical conversation. She won't because she has her own biased agenda at work, as do you. It is meant to be an implicit thing. Should you be scheduling dates behind her back once she's slept with you? I would suggest not. Once she hooks hard, you can cancel any dates you had on your schedule (should you be so lucky). She does not need to know about your schedule. If she wants to go exclusive with you, she better make that clear through her behaviors by investing a lot in your. The general principle is that you don't want to over-invest in her. Your investment in her needs to slightly less than her investment in you. If your investment in her is higher than her investment in you, you're doing it wrong. You're being too needy.

Platforming people like Alex Jones and other right-wing ideologues and devils Trafficking in conspiracy theories Misinforming people about Covid and lockdowns

@Onecirrus You need to do some deep inner work on your wounds, emotional armor, and anger issues. That's where all your attention should be focused for the next few years. You can't really self-actualize until you heal those issues to a significant degree. Psychedelics can be helpful for that.

Start doing it and you'll quickly see. Don't sit around waiting to be great or perfect. Start working on small projects today.

Yes, you are stuck in your personal selfish biases. You are not seeing or caring about the female's survival agenda, instead pushing your own. A woman needs a weak man as much as you need a dick in your mouth. What I said does not preclude intimacy. You are asking for feminine containment and then immediately asking for a gay friend. You can have one but not both.

Yes, but, that does not mean one is conscious of it. Just saying "this is it" is not at all the same as being conscious of it.

Space is actually nothing.

Cause that's everything.

No. Take her like you own her. But also seduce her with teasing and withholding. Make her crave you.

@ginger28 Nothing will get a girl to dump you faster than lack of leadership, indecisiveness, and insecurity, which forces her to be the leader. Tisk, tisk. You gotta get your shit together and take charge of the situation. You lead she follows.

There will always be people like that. Many employed people are like that too. The ultimate solution is not just UBI, it's UBI in combination with a reformed education and social system which guides people towards finding their life purposes so they don't need to smoke weed and play video games.

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You have to make your dates a lot less serious. Lots of physical touching and playfulness long before any kiss. Then the kiss is easy and natural. As you are walking with her, you stop her, square up to her, get your body close to her, look in her eyes. If she holds eye contact with you, then she's ready for a kiss. You can brush her face slow with your finger, and then kiss her. And never leave the kiss for the end of the date. The kiss should be at the mid-point of the date. Do not kiss on check. Kiss her mouth. Make the first kiss short and without tongue to leave her wanting more. Break it off prematurely after 2 seconds, grab her hand, and continue walking as if nothing happened. If you treat kissing like a big deal it will feel awkward. You should treat it like nothing significant, totally natural, and always guaranteed and warranted. The rule in your mind should be: mid-point of the first date girl always owes me a kiss. Fake it till you make it.

Is this really a Green problem? Or an Orange capitalism problem? California is progressive is some vague cultural sense, but the economy and real-estate is super Orange. Plus Covid has made life more difficult for everyone on the margins.

@Dunnel You need to reach out to get some local, face-to-face help with your issues, like a therapist or counselor or parent or friend. This forum cannot be a substitute for that. Get off your computer and go talk to an actual human about your issues. Free hotlines exist. Just google it. But after the hotline you need to find someone local face-to-face. You can find local meet-up support groups. It's important that you stop acting closed-off or stubborn and seek some face-to-face help.

People who whine that UBI would make people lazy and not work have no idea how human motivation works. If UBI makes people lazy, then stock options and lavish compensations packages should make CEOs lazy. Why do Bill Gates, Elon Musk, and Jeff Bezos still work when they have what is effectively an infinite personal UBI? The bottom line is that these are just talking points to keep the wealth at the top.

It's very simple, if you have zero biases, everything becomes Love. Contemplate why torture is "evil" or "bad". Notice that it is only "bad" if you have a bias against it. If you had no bias, torture would stop being bad. The ego's biases distort reality so that reality can be manipulated to allow you to survive as that ego. For a human, eating shit is bad. For a fly, eating shit is good. The fly has a bias for eating shit because that helps it survive. The opposite for humans. So everything you call bad or evil is just self-bias. And all self-bias is an illusion because the self is an illusion.

No, he speaks about it from the POV of what the guy needs to do from his side. It is not a guy's job to be a woman's psychotherapist and heal her wounds. This would in fact be counter-productive since you ladies always complain about being accepted for not being perfect. A man does not need to be guided into some deep feminine terrain, he just needs to be a man and bring out the feminine in her.

Use your intuition to pick the best sounding one and start working on it. Make some "small bets". This is explained later in the course. Don't worry, if you pick the wrong one, you can change it later as you realize it isn't quite right for you.

Yes, but he also has some dumb political takes. Like on covid.

David Deida explains all this nicely to guys in his books. Make her feel like a girl and she will love you.

Why are you putting time on your visions at all? If a vision matters to you, then it shouldn't matter how long it takes.