Leo Gura

The reality is that dating, period, creates hurt on both sides, because both parties are playing survival games and trying to get their own needs met first. Hearts get broken. But, harm reduction is possible with more conscious and ethical methods. Some situations are so obviously casual that little or no expectation is placed by either side for stuff beyond sex. This is a true win-win, but it can be hard to find that scenario. You'll mostly find it at parties and clubs, or places like Vegas. People fly to Vegas just to fuck. But this is not how most dating works. When it comes to casual sex, that game is skewed in the guy's favor because the girl has more to lose and is more likely to get hurt. The problem is that if you tell a girl before sex that this will just be casual, 95%+ girls will not sleep with you. Hence it is suicidal to utter such words. Even if the girl wants just casual sex she cannot allow herself or her friends to know that explicitly otherwise she is cast as the biggest slut in town. But still, it is possible to go to bars and clubs in a somewhat ethical manner. You can reduce collateral damage by screening girls more and basically getting laid less. You can aim to mostly sleep with girls who you would be happy to develp a connection with beyond sex. But if all you're doing is hunting for new pussy each night and trying to maximize your lay rate, I don't see how this is ethical. You will hurt a lot of girls, and in order to keep doing it you will have to lie to yourself about it, which will place a ceiling on how conscious you can become in life. Fundamentally, chasing after lots of sex, or the hottest sex, is a low consciousness behavior and mindset. There is no magic bullet around this fact, sorry to say. Which is why the most conscious people have the least sex. So what do you want more, sex or consciousness? Tough decisions! Be careful fooling yourself that you can have it all. Doing pickup consciously is quite challenging. But you can do it. I recommend you do. You will grow like mad. But it will hurt like a bitch. Remember, dating involves some hurt feelings. That is the cost of entry. Just seek to reasonably minimize those costs.

Of course that happens. But don't forget girls pull such shit all the time too. This scenario is not at all limited to guys. You know how many girls I've built connections with who never had the decency to call me back? This shit is like the norm. And of course it stings like a bitch.

Of course casual sex happens and fuckbuddies sometimes work (for a while, always for a while). But I think those are exceptional situations, like temporary coping mechanisms people take because they cannot find the right partner or they have some psychological baggage they are avoiding or in the middle of working through. Many guys have a deep fear of intimacy and commitment. Or are looking for a hotter girl. Even as a guy, you should notice that when you meet an amazing girl you want more with her than casual sex, and it will break your heart if she dumps you. Guys get attached too.

You are speaking from the absolute level. But from the practical relative level there is much inner work which can be done to deepen one's skill with handling emotions. Your position is far too reductionistic. Developing emotional skills is very practical and valuable for all humans to do, whether awakening happens or doesn't. And remember, for most people awakening will not happen because they don't want to go that far. And awakening will not happen without first a healthy dose of emotional mastery work.

The amount of misunderstanding such raw videos breed have left me with no desire to share any more. No matter where I put them they will get out and people will use them to smear my work and create needless drama and distraction.

Interesting report. It's good that you're going so deep. However, also, be careful how you frame this notion of "non-existence". It's crucial to realize that non-existence isn't a thing from the level of Absolute Consciousness. Non-existence is a concept. Existence is Absolute, existence is all there is. Now, of course, this dream and your body and ego-mind can morph and change into whatever thing, but Consciousness itself -- what you are -- cannot cease to exist. YOU ARE existence itself, not any particular form within existence. This is the crux of Awakening that must be grasped to yield immortality and peace. If you are terrified by some aspect of reality that is a good sign that you have no penetrated and properly understood it yet. So be careful not to confuse your ego-mind's reactions to the 5-MeO revelations for the highest truth. It could be that your mind is twisting itself up and not seeing Truth clearly because it is afraid or resistant. I recommend you go slower with your trips and get really honest clearing up any lingering confusions or egoic reactions. If you are experiencing a lot of fear rather than love then that is your clue that your mind may not be properly making sense of your trips.

Dude, get real. 95% of girls want serious relationships, not friends with benefits or open relationships or whatever. You can't make her feel better with some "friendship route". Most girls are sleeping with you because they expect to be your girlfriend. If you want to be ethical about dating then you should try to fuck only those people who you might want to be in a relationship with. Unless perhaps you're just clubbing and having obvious one night stands with girls who clearly understand it's just a one night stand from a party. But in this case you don't see them after that one night. And still, you will hurt some girls even then. You can't just have sex with a bunch of people and not hurt anyone in the process. You're kidding yourself.

There is an entire Emotional Mastery section in my book reviews. You are never going to reach some sort of end-stage of "Emotional Master". It's just about becoming better at working with your own emotions and psyche.

Obviously she is really attracted to you and you are not serious about her. This breaks her heart. What do you think will happen? Most decent girls will not be okay with "just something casual". You make her feel like a cheap slut.

@Lyubov Maybe she's just being dumb. That's also possible. Not everything is your fault.

There is awakening. Stop confusing people and yourself.

Yes, of course. In this case this girl is telling him: "I'm losing attraction for you". Raw attraction is what makes her wet. Love is a different matter. You can have one without the other and vice versa. It's like two balls that you're juggling and you gotta keep them in balance.

You can do crying but gotta maintain that masculine edge. You have to balance tenderness with dominance. For example, you cry together, but then you tie her hands up and fuck her brains out like a dirty slut so she feels your dominant masculine energy. This is why you have to be careful not to listen to women's advice on attraction. The advice they give you is their ideals and fantasies, not the cold hard reality which makes them wet. Regardless of their ideals, they want a man with a strong edge. That's what turns them on. But they will often gaslight you about this by telling you to be more sensitive. Being too nice to women tends to backfire. This is the reality. A few women can appreciate it, but many can't. Women are often conflicted about what they want. They say they want a nice, developed guy but in practice they get turned on by undeveloped jerk behavior because it will make her feel feminine. But in general, part of the challenge of being intimate, vulnerable, and authentic with someone is that they might reject you precisely for being you. Vulnerability and authenticity does not guarantee attraction. Which is precisely why guys love to manipulate and be inauthentic with women, because they are trying to be what they think the woman wants. So, many guys try to act more macho than they really are. This too can backfire. But it can also work. Which is why guys do it. The bottom line is: you gotta learn to carefully balance the intimate with the dominant/masculine. And you also gotta find a girl at your level who can appreciate this more mature form of masculinity.

Most people struggle a lot with dating and relationships so it turns into a survival contest and blaming the other side. Few people actually want to take ownership of mastering this domain of their life. Which leaves only one thing: blaming and fighting. Either you're going to handle it, or you're going to become bitter and jaded.

You can do that on any psychedelic by setting your intention and focusing your mind. It's never guaranteed to work, but you can direct your trips to some extend.

You linked a video from a company that teaches you all the details.

That's not about awakening at all. He's just showing you how to be vulnerable and more authentic in social situations. You're not going to master social skills unless you hit the bars and clubs like a beast. 1000s of nights out talking to girls. There is no book, video, seminar, or course that can give you such skills. Only by going out.

You're doing great. Gradually keep at it and keep taking your contemplations deeper. You will reach God/Love soon enough.

Hopefully, but who even knows.

Have some humor bro. This shit is too bleak not to laugh at it.

Most people who use DMT do not go to any singularity, they go to weird alien mindscapes. I don't know why you're hung up on one particular type of trip.

That's horrible. Don't ever use the phrase "just friends". Keep the sexual polarity / intent. If she doesn't want it, let her reject you on account of it. But don't make yourself her gay lapdog. It needs to be implicitly clear that you have sexual intent towards her, that you are not her gay friend. Don't compromise on that. And way too formal too. This is not a business transaction. "Hey gurl, let's hang out."

I love DPT. It's a beautiful and underrated psychedelic. It's a bit weird. Not sure how others react to it but for me is works well. You have to plug quite a lot of it though. You could vape it. Just watch out. It's powerful.

Well, we do still have free speech and freedom of religion, last time I checked.

I don't know how to explain it. I could be much more loving than I am. Then again, it doesn't really matter how loving I am because it's all Love even if I'm an asshole.