Desperation and neediness will not get you laid

[Someone here]

 From my experience with talking to one girl per day I can easily come to the conclusion that desperation and neediness will decrease your social value. A guy that hungrily go after women and tell them they are attractive will be treated as a pariah, unless he is extremely gorgeous. And those guys rarely do it, because they don't have to.

 I should Start talking about something she does instead. A guy that shows interest in personality or current events is incredibly attractive. Sure, every girl wants compliments. But given randomly, they are just a sign of hunger. Attractive women know they are attractive. Most women, attractive or not, have had desperate guys literally following them on the streets, telling them cringey things ("Your eyes are like stars" and other nonsense). The woman smell the desperation and pity them. Have you ever seen the dream boat guy do this in a romantic movie? No, because it sends chills up the spine for most girls, and we don't consider it alluring.

High quality men read the situation. They say something witty about it. The woman will secretly think "does he find me attractive?" She will automatically want him to be drawn to her and work towards that. She will feel a little insecure; "why doesn't he comment on my looks like the other 99 percent of fools?" She will wonder if he already is interested in other women and feel slightly jealous. He obviously doesn't need sex from her, he is too confident. Now that sparks interest.

Most women can have as much sex as they want really, basically at any time. There are tons of men willing to give all kinds of compliments out there to get laid, even if the girl looks like Shrek. So be the gem among all the gravel.

[Breakingthewall]

When you interact with a girl in a male/female way, the issue is that your masculine part comes into contact with her feminine part. You have to let it flow, and it's not easy in many cases since we have fragile masculinity, so you need the security of a relationship for it to flow. making it flow in something casual, on the street, is an art, and to be able to practice it you have to understand the obstacles you put on yourself. 

19 hours ago, Someone here said:

Most women can have as much sex as they want really, basically at any time.

Most of women can't have quality sex , almost never

[Someone here]

52 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

When you interact with a girl in a male/female way, the issue is that your masculine part comes into contact with her feminine part. You have to let it flow, and it's not easy in many cases since we have fragile masculinity, so you need the security of a relationship for it to flow. making it flow in something casual, on the street, is an art, and to be able to practice it you have to understand the obstacles you put on yourself. 

Some guys are desperate because they're not physically attractive.Others because they lack confidence.Girls like guys that are confident,because it makes them feel secure around them.They want a guy that can protect them,not someone who is afraid to talk(like me for example).

[Breakingthewall]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

Some guys are desperate because they're not physically attractive.Others because they lack confidence.Girls like guys that are confident,because it makes them feel secure around them.They want a guy that can protect them,not someone who is afraid to talk(like me for example).

 

21 hours ago, Someone here said:

 

 

If you have some inner harmony, you are in your weight and you take care of your appearance, you will give off some good vibes even if you are not the prototype of a handsome man. enough to spare for a conversation to take place easily. the difficult thing for me is not to start, but after the chemistry flows. if for example you put yourself in a nice plan, little friend, accomplice, etc. it's almost always insecurity imo. something like: I'm a cute puppy, love me. anti-sex. because we are afraid to let masculinity flow, since it can be something aggressive, we are half castrated, I don't know. The fact is that a woman who wants to let her femininity flow with a man, is not going to look for you to protect her and all that, but to feel horny for you. if not, in the end you find one who doesn't feel hot for you but who doesn't see you as a threat and feels safe, and tries to get you for a boyfriend... terrible to fall into that, but very common imo. It's like to prostitute yourself. You can't find real flow, so you make a kind of deal, you guarantee acceptance in exchange for them guaranteeing it to you

 

Edited July 8, 2022 by Breakingthewall

[Someone here]

1 hour ago, Breakingthewall said:

 

 

If you have some inner harmony, you are in your weight and you take care of your appearance, you will give off some good vibes even if you are not the prototype of a handsome man. enough to spare for a conversation to take place easily. the difficult thing for me is not to start, but after the chemistry flows. if for example you put yourself in a nice plan, little friend, accomplice, etc. it's almost always insecurity imo. something like: I'm a cute puppy, love me. anti-sex. because we are afraid to let masculinity flow, since it can be something aggressive, we are half castrated, I don't know. The fact is that a woman who wants to let her femininity flow with a man, is not going to look for you to protect her and all that, but to feel horny for you. if not, in the end you find one who doesn't feel hot for you but who doesn't see you as a threat and feels safe, and tries to get you for a boyfriend... terrible to fall into that, but very common imo. It's like to prostitute yourself. You can't find real flow, so you make a kind of deal, you guarantee acceptance in exchange for them guaranteeing it to you

 

Yes Girls actually care about your personality more than looks . It doesn't matter much if you are not a handsome  Chad as long as you have a rough masculine  personality.  You heard the phrase "nice guys finish last".  I don't know what the actual meaning of that phrase is but what I do know is that being nice never got anyone anything. Social expectations from a guy is be chivalrous, be a gentleman, be funny, be kind and caring and you will get someone who you could think of spending your life with. But real world doesn't work like that. You can be all of those things and single forever. Because you are not alone, in the end she would have her pick from a dozen of guys, while you had just one. The one. Because all the qualities you have WOULD be held against you if need be. “Aww he's so protective about me.” becomes “Why are you so protective?” Opening a door for her becomes “kiss-ass”. Holding her hands while crossing the road becomes “clingy”. Telling her that a guy is hitting on her becomes “jealous”. Nothing you do or you are is ever good enough if she doesn't want it to be good enough.

Point is no other person defines you. A girl is not a object which defines who you are. You might be single till you die but you could be better than those who are in a relationship, if only you stop letting the fact that you are single, turn you into a failure. Men and women are two distant poles of society. Neither of which defines the other one's success. Not everyone can find love. That's the harsh truth. The silver lining is, that's not the ultimate target you were born to achieve. A relationship requires two people, but love? Not necessarily. so keep falling in love. Care about people, be kind to everyone. But don't expect anything back. If you are lucky, you will find someone someday and not a day sooner. Expectations hurt.