What is masculinity

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Edited March 13, 2022 by Preety_India

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On 02/03/2022 at 11:14 PM, Preety_India said:

• Be independent 
• Don't ask a woman too many questions 
• Work on your insecurities 
• Be vulnerable but not weak
• Be nice but not a doormat/slave 
• Have boundaries 
• Have self respect
• Have moral integrity.
• Have grit and determination 
• Do something out of life 
• Have a sense of purpose 
• Have a healthy ego or rather cultivate 
• Make decisions without asking a woman 
• Be a provider or at least have the ability for it 
• Treat women with respect 
• Don't be overly needy or desperate 
• Have the courage to say no 
• Learn to not be brainwashed or manipulated by women 
• Challenge a woman when she does wrong 
• Have a go getter attitude. Get it done. 
• Be decisive
• Be polite
• Be disciplined 
• Do your duty 
• Take responsibility
• Show bravery when needed 
• Be logical 
• Take up challenges and overcome them 
• Sustain under pressure 
• Be a comforter
• Learn to show anger and also learn to control temper. Modulate. 

 

 

 

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Masculinity is your ability to step into tension and be grounded in tension. Look at navy seals, firemen, police men, or men who are good with women. Look how grounded they are in their body. They are in control, completely vulnerable, yet containing and penetrating the world through their level of emotional embodiment. 

Becoming masculine is all about developing your grounding ability in relationship to tension. Those examples above, if you visualize their energy for a bit, you can start to feel the contrast with your own internal energy and see the gap in masculine grounding ability. 

Walk a bit through the city, and feel your level of contraction in relationship to the world around you. How penetrative are you with your energy? 
How expansive are you? Is your self-expression limited? How reactive are you to your external environment and also to your internal one; the emotions and thoughts about yourself. Do you have a lot of fear, shame and apathy?

Are you taking any responsibility? Are you making decisions? Are you procrastinating and lazy? What is your long term vision? Do you always want to be contained instead of being your own container? 

Your masculine is only going to develop through challenge and serious embodiment work. It is uncomfortable for sure. Especially if you lack solid grounding. It takes time to build that. You will need to walk a path where you are being confronted with all the uncomfortable stuff that will build you over time. 

Get out there, be challenged, seek challenge. Seek confrontation, spend time in nature, walk around the city without shirt and shoes,  become primal again. Do martial arts, build a masculine physique, stop masturbating and half-assing things. Go to men retreats such as awakened masculinity. Face your social fears, face social rejection, confront your emotions, start to build a conscious relationship with your body where you release tension systematically, start to model your reality energetically and then bring it down into the physical body, spend time with other men, get good at game and socialization. 

Are you taking responsibility in fixing your diet, doing your routines, sticking with right habits, focussing on money stuff, doing daily chores? Are you sticking to a right sleeping schedule? Are you focussing on a deeper purpose in terms of career? 

So much stuff you can do man, but the key is: Face tension, gain experience, get out there, stop jacking off, and commit fully.

Embodiment is what you are after and it comes after a lot of experience in the physical world where you are confronting emotions, both internal from childhood such as fear and shame for example, but also emotions that external reality pushes onto you where you have to be able to contain them and ground them, such as being physically confronted by dominant aggressive males for example. 

If you want a feminine women, you need to be able to contain her. Your energy needs to feel solid, where the flow of your consciousness is going down into the earth, because you feel stable and powerful, ready for anything. This is all the result of a lot of experience. A feminine woman has the deepest desire to be contained in a relationship, to feel safe to express her feminine energy. 

Make it your life purpose to connect to this masculine energy, and once you do, you can drop this intention because you are embodied. This karma is then gone away from your identity and you make place for other purpose. 

Some practices to start:

• Join a gym, build strength
• Eat healthy
• Do Martial arts, jiu jitsu, muay thai, mma, ....
• Wake up early, take a cold shower
• Walk in nature barefoot, expose your body to the world, leave t shirt home
• Social exposure: Become comfortable facing rejection. Face rejection and let go of attachment to validation.
• Letting go / releasing practices: Hypnosis, meditation, body awareness, sedona/lester levenson/ hawkins
• Approach women
• Do oshos dynamic meditation early in the morning in a public park. 
• Find a community of like minded men: The Fearless man on youtube for example.
• Go to workshops and retreats for men: Awakened masculinity, fearless man workshops, ....
• Psychedelics: Letting go of your self-identity
• Full body awareness when outdoors: relaxation and belly breathing
• Look people in the eyes when you walk down the street, feel the tension. Penetrate people with your energy. No half-assing

 

These things have the aim to release feelings that are currently blocking your natural flow of masculine energy. When done as daily routines, with full commitment, these things will adapt your nervous system over the months and years and there comes a point of permanent embodiment where these shifts in feeling that result from the practices, form a natural part of your identity. Things are effortless and expansive then. You have total freedom. You can then start to let go of some of the practices if you wish. You have a lot more dynamic range in the things you can do because you are not contracted by blockages any more. Your feminine and masculine become more synergistic and harmonize, and you can bounce between them whenever you wish to. 

 

And the most important thing... Stop compulsive consumption of theory. And let go of needing to change over night. Change never happens as a result of one thing you do. It is compounded effect over time that is what changes you, just as building muscles will change the body. Tension and resistance will change your masculine embodiment level. And it is a proces that works over time. 1% each day. Take action and let go of needing to understand everything, needing to find the big answer, the next book that contains all the answers etc. Do the practices that are causing you to feel resistance, and do them rigorously with a david goggins mentality. 

 

Edited March 16, 2022 by Preety_India