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Taking back my self esteem?

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Respond to questions in the being more masculine thread. 

 

 

Also work on self confidence and self esteem. 

Total self empowerment. 

 

 

 


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#be with those who give me unconditional acceptance. 

#don't pander

 

#do what's right for you and do what's best for you. 

 

 

 

 

 


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? I was not taught self respect 

? I was not taught self worth 

? I was not taught self esteem 

? I was not taught self love 

? I was not taught self confidence 

 

 

 


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With my second relationship, my ex used to make unusual sexual demands 

And I used to not say "No" 

I did not have the self confidence to say "I'm breaking this relationship." 

I did not place any boundaries. 

I used to feel afraid in that relationship 

And I used to feel like it's my fault if I wasn't able to please him enough. 

 

I used to guilt myself if I didn't satisfy him 

 

Also I wouldn't feel very humiliated even though he used to humiliate me. 

 

The fact that I wasn't feeling much humiliated was probably a bit of lack of ego 

 

This can be a bit unhealthy as well

 

 

 

 

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My second ex used to make up gang rape scenarios and tell me that it was okay to be sexually abused. 

 

I had rape fantasy but it was nothing like what he was alluding to 

 

He was saying some really bad stuff 

 

One of the reasons why I was attracted to him because he presented himself as a very pious pure hearted religious and decent guy 

 

He was quite decent for three months where he would constantly ask me if I was offended by anything sexual or non sexual 

But he completely changed after 3 months. 

He started saying a lot of sexually abusive stuff 

 

And I began to feel very uncomfortable and nervous at times 

 

But I didn't have the confidence to just say "hey I don't want this." 

 

 

My boundaries were extremely fragile 

 

I would never talk over him. He would always talk over me

 

 

I was extremely submissive 

 

 


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I remember having a panic attack and an asthma attack in a park one day and he was with me 

 

He physically grabbed my arm and dragged me half a mile into large bushes and open ground. 

And I was about to faint because I was feeling quite weak. 

And I still didn't say no to him 

 

It was brutal. I ended up with injuries on my feet.

 

 

He was very Persistent and persuasive. 

The relationship was very bad for my health. 

 


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I think I need to cultivate a bundle of these traits 

 

  • Self esteem 
  • Self respect 
  • Self Introspection 
  • Self worth 
  • Self awareness 
  • Self confidence 
  • Self love 
  • Self care 
  • Boundaries 
  • Ego 

I think I'll call this the self regard and ego bundle 

 

 

 

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One of the most important factor missing in me is self confidence. 

 

 

Like I feel absolutely wonderful when I get even a tiny amount of self confidence 

 

"I feel like I can do this" that's the feeling that runs through my mind 

 


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Finally Indian women are asking the right questions 

 

I am so glad. At least some Indian women are getting basic sense after all. 

 

Like wtf does donating a daughter even mean???? 

 

 

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Do you feel like power is being taken away from you? 

 


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Look at how much your immediate environment is influencing you? 

 


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The only solution is to be extremely guarded. 

Because Openness to hostility doesn't work. 

 


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