A possible root of all your sexual/relationship problems:

[Mellocean]

Shame & overall harsh self-judgement.

Without these in the way, there is no failure, only learning & acceptance.

I've found this to be extremely fundamental. 

 

How ironic that one does extremely well sexually without an ego. Which is originally believed to be the very root of what initiates sexual desire. 

[Spence94]

@Mellocean Thanks for sharing.