Stopped Judging Myself, Instantly Feeling Better

[OhHiMark]

After watching the 'stop judging yourself' video, I put it into practice and instantly felt better.

It's very true that we create these unattainable goals then beat ourselves up when we don't reach them, a horrible vicious cycle.

One of these 'rules' I had was that I wasn't too listen to music on public transport because it's makes you unsociable (never know who you'll meet) and it's unproductive. So I'd go maybe three days, I'd "fail" beat myself up, think it over in my head, put it down to one of the reasons I'm not growing etc.

My lack of growing has nothing to do with not listening to an ipod, or any other bullshit rules I make. They're just there to avoid putting in the real work, the real work being that of doing stuff that makes you uncomfortable, challenging your beliefs, you know the hard stuff that changes your brain chemistry.

So I'm working on not judging myself and it's going well, no more dull ache's in my head from thinking stuff over or how I've failed. Not judging, if I feel like doing something I'll do it.

Edited August 26, 2016 by OhHiMark

[PetarKa]

Here are my experiences with judgement in general:

To me it seems really pointless (1. It does not make me feel good in any way whatsoever, rather it makes me feel neurotic and compulsive; 2. It is not useful or practical in any way whatsoever, rather it makes me focus on the negative). However, I find myself still engaging with this activity (not as often as I used to though ). I particularly do this with other people (my family, friends and people near me are the common victims). Finally, I haven't figured out yet why am I persuaded to do this activity in the first place. Does someone have a well thought-out idea/reason why we do these kinds of so-to-say "addictive" activities (yet I logically know it's not making me feel good)?

[Beam]

I catch myself and correct but do not judge , there is no fun in beating oneself up.
 

Low pressure is a best way to learn , it keeps one eager and willing to try.