self sabotage

[Olaf]

I was watching a dating program and this guy was with a girl and I saw him completly sabotage everything. He would be very rude, every opportunity to make a fight he would take it and go way too far and aggressive, which any normal woman would be completly alienated by. This is why I like to watch dating programs, because you get to really observe certain patterns that you might have yourself, I learned allot from different dating programs on television. I notice that I self sabotage sometimes when approaching a woman, either in the first few seconds or after 2 mins of talking, I eject or find an excuse to go away. I am proud of myself that I do it way less and less, and that I am now more aware of my self sabotage behaviour. Ultimately I think that is the only way to get over it, not by force, but awareness and being able to catch yourself on doing it, then when you catch yourself you can make a decision in that 1 second that it arises to not go with that running feeling. Stay just a few seconds longer in the set then you are comfortable with, this helped me allot aswell as making every set just a bit longer, meaning first set 30 seconds, next one 1 min, next on 2 mins etc. What helped you overcome self sabotage? I think it is an interesting topic both to observe in others and in myself. 

Edited 2 hours ago by Olaf

[Natasha Tori Maru]

14 minutes ago, Olaf said:

I was watching a dating program and this guy was with a girl and I saw him completly sabotage everything. He would be very rude, every opportunity to make a fight he would take it and go way too far and aggressive, which any normal woman would be completly alienated by.

Do you think he had something to prove, or was defending himself? What was the context prior to his uncalibrated behaviour?