The counter-intuitiveness of life.

[Majed]

Alright I want to think deeply about the counter-intuitiveness of life. And in the different areas that requires success. 

In attraction: Focusing on dating in general and being good with women in general, rather than on attracting a single girl. This is counter-intuitive because most people think of this problem too shallowly like I need a girlfriend, but what I found out is that by exposing yourself to massive experience with a lot of women, you end up getting the best results in terms of your dating life. 

In marriage and procreation: What I found out is that marriage and the raising of children is pure conformity. Rationally speaking, from an individual's perspective, it doesn't make any sense. There are so many problems with marriage and raising a family. First of all, sexual scarcity and frustration, due to not being able to date and sleep with anyone other than your partner for the rest of your life. Which is why cheating becomes very common. Second of all marriage and raising a family with children, puts you extremely deep in survival mode, where you have to spend decades providing for your family, from baby diapers to school and university, etc... It is a huge commitment not to take lightly, in terms of time, energy and money, which you'll have less for yourself to be able to raise a family, which makes it very much a negative overall. 

With religion: Most people think they should be more religious, whereas the counter-intuitive move would be to be less religious. 

In happiness: Many people think money is the key to happiness. Whereas the wise person understands that it's all a balance, you need to make a decent amount of money to live comfortably, as well as have the time for other areas of life, like self-exploration and actualization, spirituality, socialization, and just time to relax and enjoy life. 

With career: Most people think of work as a way to pay the bills, whereas the counter-intuitive move would be to pursue success in a field you're passionate about. 

With productivity: Rather than filling your days with endless work and tasks. The counter-intuitive move would be to disperse your goals on different phases in your life, where you focus on socialization for a while, then on your career, then on psychedelics exploration, etc... 

[Someone here]

On ١٦‏/٩‏/٢٠٢٦ at 1:27 PM, Majed said:

In marriage and procreation: What I found out is that marriage and the raising of children is pure conformity. Rationally speaking, from an individual's perspective, it doesn't make any sense. There are so many problems with marriage and raising a family. First of all, sexual scarcity and frustration, due to not being able to date and sleep with anyone other than your partner for the rest of your life. Which is why cheating becomes very common. Second of all marriage and raising a family with children, puts you extremely deep in survival mode, where you have to spend decades providing for your family, from baby diapers to school and university, etc... It is a huge commitment not to take lightly, in terms of time, energy and money, which you'll have less for yourself to be able to raise a family, which makes it very much a negative overall. 

If you have true love for the woman you married, I don’t think you would naturally want to sleep with other women. To me, it’s not really about sex appeal or whether you might find someone else attractive. Of course, you can still notice that other people are attractive, but that’s very different from actually wanting to be intimate with them. When you genuinely love your wife, there is something much deeper holding you to her.

Marriage is about companionship as much as sex .It’s about having someone who knows you deeply, someone you can share your life with.  Over the years, you build a bond and a history together that goes far beyond physical attraction. That kind of connection is not something you can simply replace because another woman happens to be beautiful or sexually appealing.

And I think that’s what people sometimes miss when they reduce marriage to sex or sexual exclusivity. The point isn’t simply that you are denying yourself other women. It’s that you have chosen one person because you value the relationship you have with her.

I also think raising children can be one of the most rewarding things you can do. Obviously, parenting is difficult and comes with a lot of responsibility and challenges, but there is also something incredibly meaningful about bringing a child into the world and watching them grow.

Personally, I’m completely okay with the idea of marriage and parenting. I actually see a lot of value in both. I understand that not everyone wants the same kind of life, and I understand your point about why someone might not want marriage or children. But for me, the idea of finding someone you genuinely love, building a life together, and eventually raising children is something I can see as very meaningful.

Btw in Lebanon you can marry 4 women .