On Shame and its relation to Survival

[Rafael Thundercat]

I am watching a lot of the videos of this guy nowadays. He deal with relationship dynamics, attachment patterns etc.. 

In this one he have very counter-intuitve insigths on Shame. 

A recent break up of mine made me realize a bit of how shame was involved on my dynamic. Also one can make the connection of how Shame and Psychological Survival are connected. Without Others one cant fear being Ashamed. Overall, where do one learn shame,from who? From others ( he explain how in the video) but you must know that started with your parents, siblings,relatives and so society later. So shame have a big grasp because in certain cases it can mean to be expeled out from the tribe or the relationship that can be seem as a sort of Death. 

This gives some insights about early conditioning. Humans brainwash each other into this shame game for eaons. If one can be ashamed and be fearfull, one can be controled. Who was the kid that was not manipulated with shame to become more like whatever the adults in their lifes wanted them to be. If you was born in a Evangelical Family you may know how shame is used to you accept mindlessness the beliefs of the family.