Questioning lifestyle + unclarity core things in relationships + honesty - ???

[felixk_priv]

Okay , so I am contemplating what to do myself, but I think what would be great is some guidance as well . 

The title sums it up . I question so much , I don't know why . ( Working on getting clear on that ) I am unclear about lots of core things in a relationship . If my partner enquires about it should I lie , and then just keep lying and making up stories ? And not give away my lack of clarity about core important subjects regarding relationships. She told me herself she'd rather me lie keep back these subjects until I am clear on them , which tbh I see myself always being unclear about core subjects going forward . And there being always new things . 

 

Basically I didn't tell the full truth , but she kept asking questions deeper and deeper , my standard of being dishonest was crossed and I came clean about what I was unclear about . She was really not okay with that , and she is not okay with me coming out every now and then with thoughts about how unclear I am about core relevant and important ( to her ) things about the relationship . So it's basically a break up if I keep doing this unless something changes for her . She doesn't feel secure . But I really can't keep lying and constantly lying can I , just lying about all of this stuff I am unclear about . 

 

I know there isn't a lot of info and no examples but can someone relate to what I am saying and has experience here in this subject ? 

Cheers

 

[Hojo]

How do you know if its a lie if you are unclear on something?

If you looking through a dirty window and you think you see a old person and say there is an old person there but its really a tree were you lying? 

If your girlfriend is forcing you to take a position on wether you are seeing a man or a tree and you are unsure just pick the one you think.

Edited 4 hours ago by Hojo

[felixk_priv]

In terms of convo , these subjects might come up and my thinking . Not revealing my unclarity and true thinking would be the lie  , not that the things I am unclear about are the lies . 

 @Hojo

[Hojo]

@felixk_priv yea but your gf is asking you to be clear so just say something that you think it is thats clear. If you say im not clear and they say I want you to be clear just say what you think it is.